Night out drama - old boss

[Geordielass35]

I've been on a hen night in Belfast. It's been a great weekend and people have been so friendly. Been drinking and dancing, went to the Titanic museum as well.

My old boss is on the hen night. She was a bitch at times when I worked with her and was very judgemental of others, including me, when I worked for her.

Anyway tonight she has clearly cheated on her husband. I saw her leave the bar with a man now I can hear her in the next room and she's not alone...

I know people that know both of them. Do I say something or just keep it quiet, since it's none of my business. I'm desperate to tell people and it's wrong what she did, but is it my business to mention it?! I'm torn on it. Reasonable or not reasonable to tell the people close to her husband?

Oh good. I've had one of those bosses before and know it can unintentionally steal your joy.

@Treesandsheepeverywhere not so much my joy this time but certainly my sleep!

Anyway things I've learned/been reminded of:

1. sometimes saying or doing nothing is better than doing something.
2. People's lives can be very different to how they portray them on social media
3. What goes around comes around

😅, True!

Not making excuses for her but sounds like she was trying to portray a happy home life whilst being cheated on and taking it out on her colleagues.

Hopefully it's that and gets a chance to redeem herself other than her being naturally not a good person.

I believe in hurt people hurt others.

💯 I with you on that

Who gives a shit if it's 'gossiping'. Don't cheat publicly if you don't want to be caught. The people on here breaking their necks to defend a dirty cheater is astonishing.

I'd snitch!

Oh FFS. Grow up. The fucking irony of this post. "Don't judge other women but I can judge you"

Absolutely some ppl need to give there head a wobble I wonder if these defenders would rather someone said nothing if it was happening to them or would it be a case of why was I the last to know 🤣🤣

This - nowt to do with you.

Keep out of it.

I can promise you that if you give in to your desire the dish the dirt it will end as badly for you as it will for her.

Well of course just because she thinks he's cheating it doesn't mean that he is or that she should cheat!

I'm guessing she realised she was seen leaving the bar with the bloke & felt she had to explain herself?

Seems as well that you said nothing Op.

I was going to suggest that when you met her husband at the wedding you could have said that you didn't recognise him when you saw him at the hotel in Belfast!

I was cheated on and managed not to treat people like shit. Imagine the same reply if this thread was about a man cheating. Wouldn't happen.

Can't stand cheaters. I'd be tempted to tell.

If I was asked I wouldn’t lie for her.

@diddl As tempting as that would have been I wouldn't have done it out of respect for the bride. First and foremost my loyalties are with her and making sure she has a happy time.

I wouldn't lie for her - but I wouldn't make a point of dropping her in it, either.

To me this would be none of my business. She isn't a relative or close friend, so OP has no loyalty to other family members or friends (that would be different). Just keep out of it.

Yeah same. Wouldn’t cause myself so much hassle due to someone else’s poor behaviour.

@Mummame2222 Pleased I didn't say anything and it came out anyway. She caused me a lot of hassle in the early hours of this morning though!

So if it happened to you you would be ok with people keeping it from you …wow your so understanding

Was just reading your other posts. The Cheater sounds so self centred! What a way to steal the lime light from the bride. What a character.

Sometimes just having the knowledge is quite pleasing.

Is that the reaction you would give if it happened to you 🤔

Obviously not the first time she has got down and dirty I bet but yes you’re right what a character she sounds lovely …NOT

Please keep quiet, the bride doesn't deserve to have her hen do/the memories ruined with the drama.

the point is the op doesn’t know this women and her husband on a personal level

we don’t live in a moral police state where we go around reporting on each other things we have seen and may know maybe you would prefer a society like this most of us wouldn’t

if there were friends she could approach her and say I think you are cheating on ‘husbands name’ I know him and care about him and I do not want to carry your secret

I’m sticking to what I think is right regardless of what you think …see you didn’t answer the question about would you want people to keep quiet if it was to happen to you ….and yes she does know her personally…but I’m really interested for your answer to if it was you being cheated on