Night out drama - old boss

[Geordielass35]

I've been on a hen night in Belfast. It's been a great weekend and people have been so friendly. Been drinking and dancing, went to the Titanic museum as well.

My old boss is on the hen night. She was a bitch at times when I worked with her and was very judgemental of others, including me, when I worked for her.

Anyway tonight she has clearly cheated on her husband. I saw her leave the bar with a man now I can hear her in the next room and she's not alone...

I know people that know both of them. Do I say something or just keep it quiet, since it's none of my business. I'm desperate to tell people and it's wrong what she did, but is it my business to mention it?! I'm torn on it. Reasonable or not reasonable to tell the people close to her husband?

Karma. Nothing wrong with you saying truthfully that there was a lot of noise from her room last night!

Id tell a few others more to mention why she didn't make breakfast. She wasn't trying to hide it so how are you to know it's a secret? Maybe start it off with 'i didn't know....was split from her husband ' and go from there. Definitely wouldn't be covering for her

I would definitely tell people and her husband.

Absolutely 💯…her poor husband the minute she left with him I would call that cheating what a bitch

I wouldn't. If you think it'll cause drama for the bride I wouldn't. It would be different if you personally knew the husband but you don't do you're just kicking the problem down the road. It's one of those things where your motivation is coming from a bad place, even if the actual actions themselves are virtuous. So I'd avoid. Be the bigger person that she never was.

@Gcsunnyside23 She's definitely still with him. She was talking about him yesterday, trying to make out she has the perfect life....just like she did when I worked for her

So would I …if ppl were honest they would want to know if it was happening to them …defo not right for this secret to be kept

would You still have this attitude if it was happening to you ? …. Thought not

I would tell. Grim whore

The only word of caution OP is that I wouldn't be the person to bring it up on your group. If you really are the only one who knows, it'll be your word against hers, when you've no actual proof and that could get messy here and now for the bride.

If others bring it up,then by all means corroborate their story. But don't give her the opportunity to paint you to the group as a liar,which she absolutely will.

Will you ever see her again after the wedding is over?

I think with secrets the first 24 hours is the hardest not to tell someone. Don’t create a lot of drama for the bride, all hell might break loose and it could affect wedding attendance etc.

Hould your wheesht as they say and sure you will always have it in your back pocket if you have to see her again in the future. ‘Oh Don and I are SO happy’ ‘yes I was thinking that when I was in the hotel room next to you on Sarah’s hen’

where did you go in belfast?

@Nicetobenice67 the poor husband! These people saying don't tell would surely want to know. Makes me feel sick that people do this to others

I would say nothing. If she's your old boss then you won't see her again anyway. You have had a nice time .the bride would probably be upset and it would make a lot of bad memories.

Honestly no good will come of you telling everyone and personally I would think you like drama and steer clear.
You are assuming you know what's going on in her marriage.
They may have split up or have an "arrangement" where he knows but isn't bothered.
The best revenge for nasty types is to do yourself a huge favour and keep away from them.
You telling on her means she is drawing you back in .
Stay in your own lane and live you life free of gossip and drama

I wouldnt but would take great delight in making sure she knew I knew

Also old boss will have a lot to lose and if she is so good at manipulating image she will have a huge incentive to say ‘i can’t believe OP would make up such a base lie, she’s always had it in for me, jealous etc, but I can’t believe she would ruin your hen with this kind of vile gossip’ etc.

She’s not likely to say ‘yes, op is right, thank you for serving justice and sorry for ever being mean to you. Off to the priest for confession then the divorce lawyer tomorrow!’ Is she?

And I could have done with an hour or two more sleep!

Not a chance, I bet your ear was stuck to the wall like glue! 🤣🤣

So was she too drunk to consent? It wouldn't matter how nasty a person was, I'd have checked on her as she left. Was he drunk? Although it's said in court that if he could perform, then he was sober enough to not take advantage of a drunk woman, which is rape. As said, this could blow up in your face. You don't know if they are in a open marriage.

The OP never intended to tell the husband though. Just everyone else, which is probably even more humiliating for him.

@Hoppinggreen the more I think of it, I think that's the best action. I'll wait till it's just me and her later and say something not in earshot of the others. Then I'm protecting the Bride, there's no trouble and she'll be sweating and worried about it.

Absolutely - agree with everyone that I would want to know and it’s an awful secret to keep BUT if OP is the only one who knows this has the potential to blow up in her face and have the rotten liar turn it back on her to get out of the mess she’s in.

@PalePurplePumpkin I don't have a way of contacting him directly. I agree its more humiliating for him that others would find out first and its part of my thought process.

I wouldnt be that overt - just a "Good night?" with a smerk

I would make sure she knows that you know !