Night out drama - old boss

[Geordielass35]

I've been on a hen night in Belfast. It's been a great weekend and people have been so friendly. Been drinking and dancing, went to the Titanic museum as well.

My old boss is on the hen night. She was a bitch at times when I worked with her and was very judgemental of others, including me, when I worked for her.

Anyway tonight she has clearly cheated on her husband. I saw her leave the bar with a man now I can hear her in the next room and she's not alone...

I know people that know both of them. Do I say something or just keep it quiet, since it's none of my business. I'm desperate to tell people and it's wrong what she did, but is it my business to mention it?! I'm torn on it. Reasonable or not reasonable to tell the people close to her husband?

It is none of your business

I think you should tell her that you know what she’s done- surely she’ll have an idea that you know anyway.

But….Personally I wouldn’t tell her husband, and I’d let her know that I had no plans to- despite how she’s treated you in the past. Let her know you’re being the bigger person- surely that’s “revenge” enough? Maybe even the best way you could leave it?

You have no idea what goes on in their marriage- if he’s also playing away, if he’s a good husband, if he’s abusive- and you can’t insert yourself into someone else’s life like that just for lolz.

I'd have a bit of fun with that to her face and leave her wondering and leave it at that.

I wonder how many geordie lasses were on a hen party in Belfast this weekend?

I would assume that based on a group of about 20, at least 3/4 might be on MNs.

I'm not sure if you've changed your name & the venue or this is your way of hoping it leaks?

I would always want someone to know if their partner was cheating on them but in this case , I'm not sure how youncould go about it without creating drama for the bride.

She didn't but all is well with her and she has rejoined the group. The reason I mentioned her was that if she had came back, she'd have been in the same position as me

Oh misread the options and voted incorrectly. Do not say anything

I’d say nothing, not because she is a woman cheating and not a man but partly because she is part of your social circle and as you said others may have noticed and might spill the beans. If they know you’ve had problems with her in the past and haven’t clocked it themselves, they might not believe you.

Also, as you work in the same field there’s a chance you might find yourself working with her again at some point and she’ll be a whole lot bitchier if she even suspected you talked about it. She may even block you getting future jobs.

Has Shagger appeared yet?

Update. She's been withdrawn this morning but has just came out and admitted it. People were like "What's wrong with you" she was saying "Nothing" then suddenly just said it.

She said she is going to end things with her husband, that things hadn't been right for a while and she suspects him of cheating. 2 wrongs don't make a right, I know.

Mixed response from the group but I've kept out of it. So pleased I said nothing! I was going to add a bit of humour about the noise to cut the tension but I didn't.

Not my problem, it's all out. What she does now and others do is up to them but I'd be surprised to see husband at the wedding.

@Lurkingandlearning so true about the risk of her limiting future opportunities, glad that won't be the case

Tell the husband. I’d kill for a chance to get revenge on my old boss like this!

Now it's out there's others who know him that can do that, if they see fit. But I think she will be the one that does it from what she was saying

I might say something. You don't owe her any favours. I wouldn't tell the husband directly though.

So says the cheater.

Even a bitch deserves a night off.

good to hear it’s in the open now.

Yes mention it cryptically if you’re on your own with her, so she knows you know! But obvs keep out of it then and don’t tell the group

I can definitely see the temptation to tell, and I’m sure most people wouldn’t blame/judge you for spilling, but from a moral standpoint you should keep your mouth shut.

Read all OP's replies, people!

🤣🤣🤣🤣 she won’t end it with him I bet let’s see guess I see a different side to it now she has said her husband is a cheat too but it doesn’t make it right what it means is they deserve each other 🤔

Mind your own business, she will get found out soon enough. It's absolutely nothing to do with you, however much she pissed you off when you worked with her!

Would you want to know if you were getting cheated on ? Anyway she has admitted it now 🤔

Yes, one thing MN excels at is double standards.

For an ex boss, you're sure giving her private life too much thought.

Your weekend has been about her and her snagging, focus on your fun and the bride.

@Treesandsheepeverywhere Not at all. Her shagging didn't start till the early hours of this morning, my weekend started late Friday. It's been a good one overall.

I’m glad you didn’t say anything, as IME the messenger always ends up getting the blame somehow.

She sounds like an awful person but I wouldn’t do anything that would ruin the brides time or backfire on myself.