Night out drama - old boss

[Geordielass35]

I've been on a hen night in Belfast. It's been a great weekend and people have been so friendly. Been drinking and dancing, went to the Titanic museum as well.

My old boss is on the hen night. She was a bitch at times when I worked with her and was very judgemental of others, including me, when I worked for her.

Anyway tonight she has clearly cheated on her husband. I saw her leave the bar with a man now I can hear her in the next room and she's not alone...

I know people that know both of them. Do I say something or just keep it quiet, since it's none of my business. I'm desperate to tell people and it's wrong what she did, but is it my business to mention it?! I'm torn on it. Reasonable or not reasonable to tell the people close to her husband?

Sorry yes I get what your saying I’m presuming she is back probably a single who was ready to mingle fairplay

The PP is talking about another member of the hen party.

Although I don't know why they'd be more worried about them, as the OP hasn't stated her relationship status.

Just what I was going to say!
She’ll never know if you’re going to spill the beans or not! Let her suffer.

The person on the other side of shagger didn’t come back.

It's dreadful isn't it?

And for all the misogynistic name callers know, the woman could be in an open relationship, or hiding the fact she's separated from her husband.

Yes I’ve addressed that

Because they weren’t in their home city and she didn’t come back to the hotel. I was thinking more about her safety than whether she was married.

Sorry- didn’t see that!

Would elastic knickers be more appropriate

@Nicetobenice67

you really should be ashamed of yourself, tearing other women down in that manner. It’s not needed - men are quite happy to do it to us without us women doing it for them.

She clearly says she wants to tell other people who know the couple. And again OP I understand the temptation and I would want to know if I was being cheated on BUT in her husbands eyes you are some random that has a bad history with his wife, it's your word against hers and you ve no idea of their relationship arrangements. I hate cheaters, male or female but this is not a situation to involve herself in imo, it will all be twisted against her, it's pointless

Ha! Sadly, you probably shouldn’t say anything, but I too am naturally quite vengeful. Enjoy the power of knowledge you have over her.

I know I’ve had lots happen to me my ex partner cheated on me with someone I knew so nice woman eh so don’t tell me I should be ashamed I’m not you should be though for judging me you really have no idea so unless you have walked in my shoes keep your ashamed to yourself

I absolutely will judge anyone using misogynistic language and tearing other women down by calling them sluts, dirty bitches etc. it’s abhorrent.

I spent ten years married to a serial cheat. I still wouldn’t use such awful language. You are no friend to women are you.

And yet you took issue with a PP calling you bitter?

No comment on this specific post., but Belfast is a really nice place for food/drinks, very underrated, I'm originally from the general area, so a bit biased :)

I'm in Belfast every month over a weekend and it's become very popular for hen nights post-COVID. Some of the hen parties look very wild.

To be fair, no-one needs to walk in your shoes when they can just read the awful misogyny in your posts.

I'm sorry you've been hurt, but your ex partner did that to you.

When do you ever hear men talking like you are, about other men when they've cheated?

It's quite possible to have an intelligent discussion without resorting to calling this woman vile names.

Wow that’s a big statement to make I’ve been through the mill but that’s not your business I’m a very girly girl actually and have many friends they are just not cheats I don’t know who you think you are calling me names you do you and I will do me have a good day

Oh that will feel so sweet holding this over her considering the type of person she is

I don’t know who you think you are calling me names

The irony...

Brilliant good advice

Make her sweat at the wedding. Let her know now you know what she was up to last night and then at the wedding have a chat with him.

the old bitch deserves to feel uncomfortable after the way she’s treated you in the past

@Nicetobenice67

the only one name-calling is you…

No it not ?

There’s a huge difference between telling her husband, sensitively and discreetly, and telling everyone/making it obvious as a revenge act.

Her husband has a right to know, both morally and potentially from a sexual health point of view. Nobody else needs to know, and gossiping about it (especially on your friend’s hen do!!) is an unpleasant thing to do.

The language on this thread is bloody awful, too. Slut/whore/dirty etc. I don’t think it’s acceptable in any circumstances.