If your DH is a white collar worker, do you ever fantasise about blue collar workers?

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My first DH was a white collar worker. High up in finance. Never had a fight in his life. Short and skinny. Unable to really be a guys guy or have any banter with other men. If we had ever been stuck in a dangerous situation, we would have no doubt died 😂 I never felt physically safe with him. When I was with him, I definitely found myself fancying more manly men, like builders, mechanics, police officers, boxers etc, you get the drift, and I was wondering whether I’m unusual in that?

That's exceptionally narrow minded of you. My ex-husand is white collar and an insufferable prick in company, he has all the trappings of a gentleman, dresses beautifully etc but has no soul and definitely not one you'd want around when the chips are down..

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a man that knows how to hit things with sticks - that’s our type

This has modern day Lady Chatterley vibes.. 😅

They’re grubby because of work, but mine is very hygienic. He also takes care of himself and his appearance, probably more than my geeky white collar ex 😂 he’s blokey without being “a lad”.

He’s a trained bodyguard as well as a tradie so he can absolutely look after me 🥰

Same here. It's a big turn off if a man can't change a tyre etc.

DH is as blue collar as they come and I could never ever be with a white collar. The ruggedness and toughness that you get with most (not all) blue collar man is just comparable. Obviously I'm sure there are many tough white collar men and it's not as black and white. But I'm quite old school and like a manly man

There still seem to be a lot of stereotypes about blue collar workers but I see a lot more attractive men working in the construction trade tbh. Admittedly I do encounter more knuckle dragging types too, but the myth of 'white van man' types is a bit exaggerated IMO.

I like men with tattoos etc (not dodgy sailor tats lol) but nice artistically done tattoos. I see a lot more of these in trades etc than when working in an office because it's still taboo in professional environments.

I find a lot of trade guys more stylish tbh. A lot of my male colleagues in the office just wore button down shirts and jeans/chinos in their free time. Kind of dad/golfer attire. I find a lot more tradies to be well dressed with gym bodies and aesthetic tatoos. I defo see a lot more fitness model type physiques and sharp haircuts than when I was in an office.

This is such a weird question.

DH is a blue collar worker who also drives a van. He is a gentle, controntation-avoidant man who'd be shit in a fight and who's main hobbies include doing the crossword and identifying wild flowers 🤷‍♀️

It's also a weird situation whereby the average trade salary is now £10k above the average graduate salary (£35k vs £45k). Being a blue collar worker is different to what it was before. Even bricklayers make £45k on the civil sites I attend and in some areas where demand is short they're making £125k (Google it if you don't believe me!).

Our tower crane drivers make £65k and the new crane driver is only 23yo. That's a cracking salary to have in your early 20s with no student loan!

I think mine must be a grey collar as he doesn’t really fit into the categories.

6’6’ still plays rugby
Volunteers with MR
Can fix cars
Has tattoos and a beard
Does surgery for a living and has blood on his hands every day

I think stereotypes are a bit innaccurate nowadays, especially after the huge surge of professionals retraining in trades at one point (e.g. plumbers).

That said, I did notice a lot more of the 'very important man' types in the professional world. 99% of the dickheads that try and jump the traffic queue and cut in when I'm driving a wagon are professional looking men in Audis/BMW etc and 100% of the time I don't let them in. 🤣

I find a lot of trade guys more stylish tbh. A lot of my male colleagues in the office just wore button down shirts and jeans/chinos in their free time. Kind of dad/golfer attire. I find a lot more tradies to be well dressed with gym bodies and aesthetic tatoos. I defo see a lot more fitness model type physiques and sharp haircuts than when I was in an office.

I agree that the scruffy tradie is a bit of an outdated stereotype, but I much prefer the button-down shirt and chinos look. Not keen on the groomed, tattooed, gym body look at all - I find it actively off-putting (on any man, not just a blue-collar worker).

Not keen on groomed look?
but likes chinos and button down shirt?

Judgemental much 😂

I know trade types with loads of money who don’t have to work while their business runs itself. I know white collar workers with no financial skills whatsoever, always in debt.

Not keen on groomed look?
but likes chinos and button down shirt?

I meant that I don't like the sharp haircut, sculpted, lots of attention to personal grooming-type look. I have no particular specific love of chinos and button-down shirts - I just much prefer that out of the two contrasting styles that poster described.

I work with mostly men. Some white colour and some blue collar. Luckily all hygienic and intelligent.

My DH is a bit of both as manages blue colour workers.

He looks best in casual clothes.

Some blue collar workers can earn a lot of money.

I recommend a novel called 'Rough Trade' by Emma Allen. Middle-class woman and a hunky builder - you can guess the rest

Only women can say these things on here. I agree if a man did it it be would be uproar.

I'm so bored with the word misogyny being used in every other sentence too.

I'm a woman.

Really? So we can make personal comments about men's appearances? They still have feelings.

Exactly, it's a real double standard. Also, I have to laugh that some of the same posters who are always whining about male toxicity are happily joining in on a thread about how hot 'manly' men are. You can't have it both ways!

I’ve got a thing about the tool belts.

Luckily for me any fantasies of blue collar workers are regularly punctured by actually having to deal with them on a regular basis and having to listen to some of them and their their interesting opinions on women, immigrants and people of other races. Most recently our heating technician had a full on rant about Muslims to me, totally unprompted at the end of a discussion about some work.