Partner turned off (My) wifi and upset my Son - AIBU

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My partner is childless. I have two children (A son who is eleven and a daughter who is seven)

My ex husband moved to take care of his Dad six months ago but before that we had been divorced two years. Exes Dad has cancer and he's alone (Ex is an only child and his Mum died way before I met him) I'd have moved myself and my children to be nearer to ex so they could see each other but Ex was completely adamant they stay where they are for school and their friends.

One of the ways my children communicate with their Dad is through video games. I dont know how it works but they talk to each other while they play. They do this every sunday for a few hours before tea time. Sunday just gone my son wasn't well but really wanted to play games with his dad. I said that was okay and I'd save him some dinner (I made him some eggs and soldiers)

My partner cut the wifi when my son didn't come to the table. His reasoning was my son was being disobedient but I'd told him three times that DS wasn't feeling a hundred percent and I don't force my kids to eat big meals when they are unwell. My son was understandably distraught thinking his Dad had ended the game without saying goodbye and my partner kicked off.

He started ranting and raving how under HIS roof my son should have more respect. I reminded partner that we live in 2024, not 1924 and the house I owned was mine that my Mother left to me.

I ended up kicking my partner out - He went home in a huff and now I'm being put in the middle by partner's Mum saying that I should teach my children respect.

AIBU in thinking it's not my partner's place to parent my children - he's not a live-in boyfriend, we've been together ten months and that his Mum should keep her nose out

My dh turned off the wifi when my son was 11 and my son went berserk. I totally supported dh though as my son was developing a gaming problem and was in trouble with his school grades. Also dh paid the bills and was a loving stepdad.

In your case though it's your bloody house!!! Why is he saying "his roof"?!! Can you imagine what he'd be one of it was "his roof"?!!! He doesn't even live there and I'd be concerned that he was trying to parent my son so early on in the relationship.

Your poor lad!

Your idiot boyfriend won’t get any better though. He will just get worse. And he already sounds like a monumental arsehole.

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Protect your children from this man.

And you are not in the middle of anything, don't be so dramatic. You are in complete control of your situation. You own your own house, you shipped him in very quickly into your home and now whining about him as if he's some permanent fixture? Why are you even entertaining what his mother said? Do you enjoy the drama? His mother who you have know for all of 5 mins says something and your are 'now in the middle'. Fgs op wake up.

Under HIS roof????? Wtf

Well done OP for getting rid of an absolute knob head. Who the fuck did he think was?

So so glad you did the right thing by your son. Hope he’s feeling better all round x

Good for you and thank goodness he showed his cunty face early.

Well don’t for standing up for your son and getting rid of the idiot.

Never doubt yourself.

Never allow him back.

Wow! What a lucky save! Sounds like this guy was marking his territory! (Also, who gets his mummy to call you? Really???) Your kids would never forgive you if you took this guy’s side.

He doesn't get to parent your children
He doesn't get to come between the kids and their dad
He doesn't get to tell you what to do

It would be a dealbreaker for me

Your whole post shows you have a long history of putting men first.

You were considering moving your kids out of schools away from friends etc to tag along with an ex and then have a new partner firmly with his feet under the table after only 10 months.

you are having to ask Mumsnet if you have done the right thing?!

I don't say this lightly but get some therapy! Your judgement is really skewed and I suspect you have some serious self esteem issues. You and your children are worth more than some shoddy bloke.

How would he know??? Could be a fake post? Does that ever happen ?

That post is a suggested reply the OP should make to her - I hope - ex boyfriend's mother. It is funny.

10 months and he's giving it the big I am...

No you were correct in getting him out, his mum is pissed off because he's gone home and now she has to put up with him.

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You did exactly the right thing. Ignore his mother, like who gets their Mam involved in their relationship of 10 months 🙄. You dodged a bullet with this one, throw him back.

Ooohhhhh. OK lol. 🤣🤣🤣 I'm going to get so much backlash aren't I for not getting it 🤣

Sorry, but ten months IS still 'boyfriend' territory, imo, but it wouldn't matter if he'd been with you for ten years. He's acting like a jerk, and getting his mother to join in is just the cherry on top. Your kids will be better off without this bully in their lives.

Ten months??? Yet he and his mum are sticking their noses in about how you parent IN YOUR HOUSE???

Nah. He's a cheeky cock. Dump him - and his mum.

No, your kids, your house, your wifi.
He needs to respect they were here before him and consult you before doing any rash "parenting".
Had this from an ex myself when he kept saying I didn't make a stand with him against my kid - point is I shouldn't have to. Stop making everything divisive and being childish and start talking rather than being a dick. It's so obvious when they've not got kids they think parenting is just being nasty and having a power trip. Usually makes them look more childish than the actual child.

I would ditch him for interfering in how i parent my children & affecting their relationship with their Dad.

i would get the major ick from an adult man involving their mum in a disagreement with their partner & ditch them for that too. Immature

I think you need to read a little more into what his mum is saying. I don’t think she thinks he is right, I think she is shitting herself that if you don’t take him back he’s going to end up living with her.

I’d guess she’s trying to make you second guess yourself so she doesn’t end up with the prick living with her.

Good on you for sticking up for your son. Your hopefully ex partner seems to think whatever you own is his. I bet it will go if you ever choose to get married as what’s yours is his and what’s his is his

How the fuck did he decide it was HIS house? What a lover. Dump him. NOW.

At least he showed you what an arsehole he is now, rather than after you moved him in.

You have to ask????
Who the fuck does this prick think he is, and why are you talking to his stupid enabling mother?