Partner turned off (My) wifi and upset my Son - AIBU

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My partner is childless. I have two children (A son who is eleven and a daughter who is seven)

My ex husband moved to take care of his Dad six months ago but before that we had been divorced two years. Exes Dad has cancer and he's alone (Ex is an only child and his Mum died way before I met him) I'd have moved myself and my children to be nearer to ex so they could see each other but Ex was completely adamant they stay where they are for school and their friends.

One of the ways my children communicate with their Dad is through video games. I dont know how it works but they talk to each other while they play. They do this every sunday for a few hours before tea time. Sunday just gone my son wasn't well but really wanted to play games with his dad. I said that was okay and I'd save him some dinner (I made him some eggs and soldiers)

My partner cut the wifi when my son didn't come to the table. His reasoning was my son was being disobedient but I'd told him three times that DS wasn't feeling a hundred percent and I don't force my kids to eat big meals when they are unwell. My son was understandably distraught thinking his Dad had ended the game without saying goodbye and my partner kicked off.

He started ranting and raving how under HIS roof my son should have more respect. I reminded partner that we live in 2024, not 1924 and the house I owned was mine that my Mother left to me.

I ended up kicking my partner out - He went home in a huff and now I'm being put in the middle by partner's Mum saying that I should teach my children respect.

AIBU in thinking it's not my partner's place to parent my children - he's not a live-in boyfriend, we've been together ten months and that his Mum should keep her nose out

This ^

good riddance. Well done for kicking him out

This is excellent and definitely good to keep note of for the future!

😂 Brilliant! I'd be sending this!

OMG send this! It's brilliant.

BUUUUURRNN

What an absolute wanker. Under my roof indeed!!!

Him and his mummy can fuck off.

He’s not your partner. He is your boyfriend. And he shouldn’t be hanging around your kids yet.
He should also be an ex-bf by now. Stop putting your kids through dealing with shitty men. Next time, keep them separate for longer until you actually know the guy.

Your house. Your rules. Your child.

He doesn't live there and he has no right to do it. End of

He’s an abusive cunt and his mother needs to fuck off. Do not let this awful man back into your life.

omg I love this.

Dump him OP. He is flexing his muscles (HIS house indeed!). If you had let him off with this, then he'd know he is in pole position and would be acting the big boss in your house and with your children.

In fairness to his mother, she has a strong vested interest in having him in someone else's house and not hers.

Well he tripped himself up didn’t he.

Was expecting himself to get his feet under YOUR table and that to be his house as well. He really did view it as his house, because his intention was to make it his house.

nothing makes a toaster fall in love in quicker than somewhere to live and assets he thinks he can get his hands on.

Get rid of him! Either he is a nasty authoritarian full stop, or he's jealous of your ex and taking it out on your kids. Or most likely both.

And what does his MUM have to do with it?

And why the fuck are you entertaining his mother at all. She can only put you in the middle if you choose to be.

He is a dick. She has no right to comment on your son. Tell her fuck off as well.

' HIS roof ' !!!

that says it ALL

seeing as how it's YOUR house !!!

do not let him ever come back, he will persuade you to marry him, then when you get divorced he will take half YOUR house !!!

Tell him and his mother to fuck off all the way to the far side. It would be negligent to allow this abusive man to stay in your life. I'd be blocking him immediately.

He just showed you exactly who he is - a controlling, arrogant, arsehole of a man who wants to rule YOUR house and punish YOUR children, and who involves his mum to bring you in line.

Are you going to let him?

Do they own Bates Motel?

As a man I thought no he's right. Your son should come to the table to eat as a family...then I 're read it that his dad's ill. You're all close.

So I rethink....it's doesn't matter that your kids don't come to your table....they are your kids and if you are ok, then your partner should be ok

2 things wrong imo…

1. your partner is a complete idiot & should be dumped straight away for many reasons

2. Why on earth have you had a 10 month Bf staying at your house with your children?!

You’re both massively unreasonable. Your poor son.

Who tf does he think he is. 10 months, doesn't live there, ranting about "under his roof" that isn't even his roof! Nah good riddance to him!

" As a man I thought no he's right"

What has being a man got to do with anything?

He's shown you who he is

A prick

I hope you kept his door key

Fir the love of goodness (and love of your children more importantly) if you cannot find it in yourself to completely end it with this asshat now, do not ever let him in move in or god forbid marry him. His roof?! After ten months and he doesn't even live there?!
He has showed you good and early who he is, PAY ATTENTION!

What a tosser of a man!!

You did the right thing making him leave. Sounds like he's got issues with the dynamics of your relationship, but your children need to come first. He knew the deal and that you had children from the get go, so he should be prepared for this.

His mum is WAY out of line for getting involved. Pure hypocrisy too, you can't advocate for your child, but his gown ass needs to get his mum involved 🙄

Don't let him grind you down.

The apple doesn't fall far from the tree - he's wading in with your son, and his Mum is wading in with you!
Clearly he's had some dodgy role modelling if he thinks that lack of instant compliance needs escalating to cutting off the utilities by a guest. He's doesn't even know how to try to behave properly!