Partner turned off (My) wifi and upset my Son - AIBU

[candragonsbepurple]

My partner is childless. I have two children (A son who is eleven and a daughter who is seven)

My ex husband moved to take care of his Dad six months ago but before that we had been divorced two years. Exes Dad has cancer and he's alone (Ex is an only child and his Mum died way before I met him) I'd have moved myself and my children to be nearer to ex so they could see each other but Ex was completely adamant they stay where they are for school and their friends.

One of the ways my children communicate with their Dad is through video games. I dont know how it works but they talk to each other while they play. They do this every sunday for a few hours before tea time. Sunday just gone my son wasn't well but really wanted to play games with his dad. I said that was okay and I'd save him some dinner (I made him some eggs and soldiers)

My partner cut the wifi when my son didn't come to the table. His reasoning was my son was being disobedient but I'd told him three times that DS wasn't feeling a hundred percent and I don't force my kids to eat big meals when they are unwell. My son was understandably distraught thinking his Dad had ended the game without saying goodbye and my partner kicked off.

He started ranting and raving how under HIS roof my son should have more respect. I reminded partner that we live in 2024, not 1924 and the house I owned was mine that my Mother left to me.

I ended up kicking my partner out - He went home in a huff and now I'm being put in the middle by partner's Mum saying that I should teach my children respect.

AIBU in thinking it's not my partner's place to parent my children - he's not a live-in boyfriend, we've been together ten months and that his Mum should keep her nose out

He's done you a huge favour and shown his true colours early. Thank goodness you don't live together or heaven forbid, we're married. At least the exit will be relatively easy.

Don't put your children through a childhood with this man. Get out quickly and cleanly.

My mother always says if people show you who they really are, believe them. Actions speak so much more than words.

RUN!!

Wait, his mum got involved? There are way too many red flags for this to just be a misunderstanding or one-off overreaction, and the mum thing puts it well over the red line for me.

You are not being unreasonable but both your boyfriend and his interfering mother are. Their behaviour is really unreasonable and a big red flag. Get them both out your lives.

Definitely need to say goodbye to this one, his behaviour has major red flags

The partner's mom is nothing to you, her opinion counts for nothing. Don't even discuss it with her.

You are definitely NOT being unreasonable. YOUR kid, YOUR discipline and rules about them. Let partner know he needs to accept this and support it or he needs to stay away from your house and your kids.

What a dick!

😂 this!

There are over twenty pages of comments and no sign of the OP 😄

One week and 21 pages later,
and

the Op never came back.

Sounds like his Mum wants rid of him too!! Fuckity Bye tho 🤣🤣🤣

I know, I wish people would drop it. This thread is a prime example of reading the initial post then going to the end and giving advice which has been said umpteen times before

So you decided to post to tell other people to stop posting 🤔.

Indeed 😁

Although I wasn't 'telling' people.

She has a point though. The same things have been said over and over again.

Get rid of bf. If this is how he behaves towards your children now, when he doesn't even live with you and them, imagine how he's likely to treat them if your relationship with him becomes more serious?

@OlderGlaswegianLivingInDevon "One week and 21 pages later,
and

the Op never came back."

Yeah. I have a life, it included kicking my partner out and moving my kids to their Dad - Sorry I cannot be on the internet all day every day

Well done @candragonsbepurple , hope you're doing good now!

@ReadingSoManyThreads Life's a lot better now. I've been without wifi for a while so it's been a bit strange

Kids are having a whale of a time with their Dad and Im settling into my new home well enough. Things are okay

I am so pleased that you have come back and updated us.

Good on you for kicking him out, and keeping him out ! and moving on with your life.

Good for you, OP. All the best to you

@WitchWithoutChips thank you 💐

Wow the audacity of him. He was a guest in your home and he thought he had the right to turn off the WiFi? If that's what he behaves like as a guest, how on earth would he behave if he did live with you? Probably best to ditch him now.

Bet you feel better for being in the driving seat of your life op. 👍

What do you mean by gone to dad, just temporary?

I hope you are ok. You did the right thing kicking the ex boyfriend out. x

Did you have to move house! That doesn't seem fair ! 😕

Why have you been without wi-fi? And why have the kids had to move? And why are you settling into a new home? What’s happened?