I’ve reported this TikTok psycho to his employer?

[DolceGoldie]

I’m not sure if I should’ve done this and I’m having some regrets now. Last night, got into a bit of a spat on TikTok my first ever and I’m embarrassed.

Saw a video of a man building a “titanic” slide for his kids where he got them to slide and then pretend they were dying. Lots of comments, and in my wine and emotional (period) state I commented that it wasn’t really funny as over 2000 people died in the titanic including children. That was it.

Two hours later check my phone and he’s sent me a barrage of abuse, including saying I should shut my mouth, get my face to take a shit? And then he hopes I die in a fatal car crash and that I get raped and murdered and that I’ve made a “fatal mistake”. Truly vile in comparison to my comments about the titanic. He had blocked me so I couldn’t respond, not that I would’ve wanted to instigate it or bothered.

So I go onto his page to have a nosy, and he’s got his full pics and videos of him playing with kids, and videos of him working for his employer including a badge and their name- so in my fury I emailed his employer telling them that this kind of person is saying these things and representing their brand and that violence against women even suggestive isn’t on. I attached a screenshot of some of the comments.

Now I feel a bit stupid and nervous this morning as it was only a TikTok spat and I’ve escalated it, at the same time why do men get away with speaking to you like that? I didn’t have anything identifying in my email or TikTok to my name or location.

Nah you did the right thing. He's a disgrace

somemmight not agree but good for you. I’ve reported vile things I’ve seen online via the report button…nothing gets done. They continue to post and feel they are above repercussions for their actions. Yes slightly extreme response but unless you have your own social media platform and can expose them then there’s very little we can do other than this. Well done

YANBU. You did the right thing. When you post videos for public consumption on social media, you invite public comment. Your comment was measured and inoffensive.

His responses back to your were abusive, threatening and misogynist. I would also report to police.

I'm sorry you received such hate from this man.

I don't think you needed to comment negatively on his feed but his reaction was disproportionate.

I think you did the right thing. Too many arseholes are getting away with this vile behaviour and it’s not acceptable.

It’s my first ever little spat! Just feel nervous and embarrassed this morning but I wouldn’t have my employers name public on my feed if I was being as vile as that!

The thing is this isn't a spat, you made a perfectly reasonable comment (his video was in bad taste and therefore he must have expected to receive some negative feedback, or maybe he's actually that thick), and he reacted in a completely vile and aggressive and disproportionate manner.

If he's putting enough info on his profile for you to easily identify his employer then he deserves any consequences that come his way.

The pathetic excuse for a man sounds utterly vile!

Well done for reporting it.

Women can and do behave like that also, it's not exclusively a 'man'thing

Sounds unhinged, be careful

You absolutely did the right thing. Good for you for alerting his employers.

it takes guts OP well done.

“And then he hopes I die in a fatal car crash and that I get raped and murdered and that I’ve made a “fatal mistake”.

If one of my employees said this I would be taking that a LONG way especially if they publically showed who they work for. I would expect them to remove themselves from their position. And probably I would imagine they would lose their professional registration and I would 100% be reporting them

YANBU at all. People need to realise that their actions on the internet have consequences.

YANBU. That sounds really traumatic for you. Your comment was harmless and you don’t deserve that abuse. He’s an idiot for leaving his employer visible in videos etc if he’s going to act that way.

Good for you, I hope they throw the book at him.

You’re completely right, women can and sometimes do say such awful things.

You've done the right thing.

Good for you, what a horrible experience. That should not be something he can do consequence-free.

Try to put it out of your mind now, don’t worry too much if you can help it. Don’t let it taint your whole day.

I sort of want to know how we can find his account, to see if he will make any direct reference to all of this. (I know it’s just my baser instincts making me curious though)

If there were lots of comments and some of them were negative, I’d bet you are not the only person he messaged in such a horrible way.

Pretty sure HE was the one who escalated it, not you. Well done, I feel proud of you. Horrible for you though.

Tik tok is horrendous people just posting more and more extreme nonsense just for likes, you did the right thing i doubt anything will happen to his account he probably has a few over other platforms and is now obsessed with validation. Anyway good for you just delete the App its a cess pit.

Yanbu.

I'd have gone through his profile and picked out his spouse and a few other key friends or family members to send it to too.

You didn't need to make that comment. Tbh I rolled my eyes at that, it best not to engage. However once you were sent those vile comments your actions were extremely appropriate.

Well done OP. You did the right thing.

But to be honest If I had received those messages I would have also reported him to the police.

Kinda want to see the video now.

If he's stupid enough that people are ale to identify his employer when he's posted videos, he deserves anything coming to him, especially after harassing someone.

I don’t regret my comment. Children did die in the titanic and it isn’t funny. The same as it wouldn’t be funny if they were re-enacting any other tragedy such as 9/11 etc!