I’ve reported this TikTok psycho to his employer?

[DolceGoldie]

I’m not sure if I should’ve done this and I’m having some regrets now. Last night, got into a bit of a spat on TikTok my first ever and I’m embarrassed.

Saw a video of a man building a “titanic” slide for his kids where he got them to slide and then pretend they were dying. Lots of comments, and in my wine and emotional (period) state I commented that it wasn’t really funny as over 2000 people died in the titanic including children. That was it.

Two hours later check my phone and he’s sent me a barrage of abuse, including saying I should shut my mouth, get my face to take a shit? And then he hopes I die in a fatal car crash and that I get raped and murdered and that I’ve made a “fatal mistake”. Truly vile in comparison to my comments about the titanic. He had blocked me so I couldn’t respond, not that I would’ve wanted to instigate it or bothered.

So I go onto his page to have a nosy, and he’s got his full pics and videos of him playing with kids, and videos of him working for his employer including a badge and their name- so in my fury I emailed his employer telling them that this kind of person is saying these things and representing their brand and that violence against women even suggestive isn’t on. I attached a screenshot of some of the comments.

Now I feel a bit stupid and nervous this morning as it was only a TikTok spat and I’ve escalated it, at the same time why do men get away with speaking to you like that? I didn’t have anything identifying in my email or TikTok to my name or location.

You just know that poster’s off to Facebook to post ‘Be Kind’ and ‘Poor Men’ type quotes…

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There was a news thing a year or two ago where someone made a model Grenfell Tower and put it on a bonfire and got jail over it. Even the person who only recorded the video got in trouble as well, so yes making jokes about tragedies is not funny and often not legal either

Wishing rape on someone is not OK and if I was his employer as a woman I'd want to know. Most companies have a policy about this. The dumb idiot was wearing the company he works for uniform. I hope he isn't the owner. I'd never want him near me or my family.

Have you heard anything yet? It's truly vile that he would say those things! 🤬

Just to have a nosy, do you remember what the video was called on tiktok?

I’m not on SM, this is the only site I look at.
Is there any way he can track you down through it? Sorry to be dramatic but there’s a strong possibility he may lose his job. If so, he’s going to be very angry. I really think you ought to talk to the police.

TikTok is a public forum set up to invite comment - just as this one is. Why isn’t OP allowed to comment that she thought it was distasteful, therefore? She didn’t abuse him, threaten him with death or sexual violence, she simply said it wasn’t funny or in good taste. How is that policing humour or other people?

… and the irony of you telling OP she should have minded her own business only to rail at people saying the same to you? ROFL

Man's an idiot. He threatened you. He probably didn't expect a reference to his employer but honestly I'd say he's totally overstepped here because if he said to you in the street it could be a matter for the police.

Absolutely this... People think that they can hide behind a screen and what they say on the internet means nothing. Everything said or typed could have consequences and he will ultimately if his employers are decent do the right thing also. Someone mentioned reporting to the police, I would definitely do so, he threatened your life

Your garden is a private space. A TikTok comment is public. They are not remotely comparable situations.

This is what you take from this situation?

So what? You must know that the vast majority of threats of sexual violence come from men.

Good for you. People need to be more accountable for what comes out of their mouths. A simple f*ck off is one thing, the rape, murder, fatal mistake was what did it. Little Man Syndrome🙄

Me too. I wonder if he is abusive to all women who comment?

One should think before they act then
His own doing imo.

I don’t feel sorry for him but make sure you’re not traceable online OP as he might seek revenge.

As for the original video he made, frankly I think kids pretending to drown or whatever is fine - nobody affected by the disaster is alive and it’s really not worth getting worked up about. Is it also wrong to pose in stocks or under a guillotine? But if you put it on a public account then you invite comments. If I were him I’d have told you to get a grip but when it descends into death threats, it goes so far beyond the line that there is no way back.
personally wouldn’t have gone for the employer as a direct attack on livelihood will affect the children massively. But I’d have informed the police who would probably have issued a warning that wouldn’t have led to a loss of employment.

This has been picked up by The Sun! It’s online!

I still don’t understand why you want to see them? Do you not believe the OP? You are literally the only poster on this thread who has asked to see the messages … it’s weird 🤷🏻‍♀️

Am I the person thinking "Wayne Couzens"?

Was he being abused or was he messing about?

Perhaps they are a Sun reporter :)

The article is as vague as this thread what's the point.

Oh my goodness, that would make sense!

I've skimmed the article it's not even worth reading. I lost time out of my life reading it it's that pointless. You would have thought the writer would mention the dangers off online social media but none of that was mentioned. They write as if they are still sending short posts on Mumsnet very bizarre article.

Misuse of Telecommunication’s act, pretty sue the police would be interested in his threats. He’s an idiot for writing traceable stuff like that.

Good on you! 👏