I’ve reported this TikTok psycho to his employer?

[DolceGoldie]

I’m not sure if I should’ve done this and I’m having some regrets now. Last night, got into a bit of a spat on TikTok my first ever and I’m embarrassed.

Saw a video of a man building a “titanic” slide for his kids where he got them to slide and then pretend they were dying. Lots of comments, and in my wine and emotional (period) state I commented that it wasn’t really funny as over 2000 people died in the titanic including children. That was it.

Two hours later check my phone and he’s sent me a barrage of abuse, including saying I should shut my mouth, get my face to take a shit? And then he hopes I die in a fatal car crash and that I get raped and murdered and that I’ve made a “fatal mistake”. Truly vile in comparison to my comments about the titanic. He had blocked me so I couldn’t respond, not that I would’ve wanted to instigate it or bothered.

So I go onto his page to have a nosy, and he’s got his full pics and videos of him playing with kids, and videos of him working for his employer including a badge and their name- so in my fury I emailed his employer telling them that this kind of person is saying these things and representing their brand and that violence against women even suggestive isn’t on. I attached a screenshot of some of the comments.

Now I feel a bit stupid and nervous this morning as it was only a TikTok spat and I’ve escalated it, at the same time why do men get away with speaking to you like that? I didn’t have anything identifying in my email or TikTok to my name or location.

I wouldn't regret it either OP. This person is out and about working with other people in a position of trust. A man who wishes rape and violent death on a woman who challenges him is a highly dangerous individual, and you have now unmasked him, which may help protect others from him.

Well done you OP 👏👏
We need more of you.
What a Vile bastard.
He deserves whatever he has coming to him.

You did the right thing. He’s a fucking maniac. He deserves whatever is coming to him if he’s going to say that and identify his employer. He sounds thick as shit.

I would log it online with the police. Even if they immediately close the case at least it is logged for the future.

It's weird, I've had a few spats online & have never once felt the need to message someone with threats of rape.

Not once.

Not even a little bit.

Not a threat of any kind actually.

Glad you reported him

I’d be reporting to the police aswell as it may come under the malicious communications act.

I was expecting it to have just been a silly fight or he said something mean about a video you made or something but if he took it to the rape and death threats, then I’d report to employer and police. It’s too often a go-to when anyone online wants to insult women and it won’t stop until it becomes completely socially unacceptable and affects employment etc, so report! If his employer has a twitter page then you could tag them in a post with a screenshot of his comments too, so it is public. If he is clearly showing his employer on his socials, and has photos in the uniform etc, and is posting comments like that, then he will be in breach of their social media policy.

@CrashyTime no-one said it’s only men who speak like this, gtfo

You absolutely did the right thing.

You are absolutely in the right why should he get away with saying those disgusting things to you and for the titanic comment you were right too

Maybe I’m a sicko but I would find it amusing. However it’s all subjective and you are entitled to your opinion. He was not entitled to give you that kind of abuse. He will learn the hard way and that’s completely his own fault. Don’t feel bad about calling him out.

OP it doesn’t matter how ‘trivial’ the origin for the spat was or who started it, his subsequent response and behaviour is abhorrent and he fully deserves to be reported, I hope you also reported to TikTok and the police

If he took objection to your comment about Titanic, then his correct response would have been to mouth off in the privacy of his own home, maybe reply to your comment with 'your opinion has been noted' or something. To let loose with that barrage of personal abuse was beyond the pale. It's one thing to object to something someone says, but to start blatent ad hominem attacks and threatening death and rape - that's where he crossed the line into 'needs reporting'. You were completely right, OP.

What's his job? I hope it's not working with anyone vulnerable.

The titanic slide is a thing, not in great taste, but there's a ton of bouncy castles for sale and hire that are I the shape of a titanic sinking, so I guess making a comment on one person doing a vid and not the places selling and hiring them out could be seen a bit precious.

That said... his response is absolutely vile and it seems to be a common theme these days to hope women get raped and murdered and that people die in a car crash/kids get cancer etc and people reporting them is going to be the only way to try and put a stop to it. So your reaction wasn't disproportionate because he was way out of line, so far over the line he can't even see the line!

I sometimes worry that some Gen Zedders don't understand the ramifications of living their lives online and the flipside of it which your post pretty much details. I'm not going to comment on the rights and wrongs of you reporting him to his employer but this is one thing I wish more people were acutely aware of. Your life can be blown apart over one misunderstood tweet or comment - not to say that the words of the man were anything but abuse - but the point is just that - him completely losing it in his response to you could potentially cost him his entire life as he knows it.

Yes OP! Well done! 👏👏👏👏

Not sure if this has been said already as haven't RTFT but maybe also block him now too so he can't unblock u and message u in the future.

Neither of you are covered in glory here.

As others have said, you must report this to the police as well.

He said he hoped she'd get raped or killed..in response to her slight over reaction.

He's gone way beyond not covering himself in glory.

A toxic cesspit, too.

Women who spring to policing other women’s language when talking about men, do my absolute nut in. Not all men, blah, blah blah, why do we never hear not all women? BECAUSE MEN DO NOT DO THIS SAME PERFORMANCE FOR YOU.

Play stupid games, get stupid prizes. Well done @DolceGoldie for reporting him - he deserves the top prize, hopefully his employers agree