Four children 1-14 years sharing room

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AIBU to think it's ridiculous and irresponsible that 4 children (same sex - male) aged from 1-14 are sharing a bedroom? There is a fifth child - a girl - who has her own room. There are no funds to extend/loft conversion etc. The children were all planned. No multiple births.

As long as they all have a bed I don't see the problem.

As long as the room fits two bunk beds and the eldest has a space to study separate from where children are playing, it's fine.

I think it's less than ideal, and not what id choose, but think ridiculous and irresponsible is a little excessive.
It's what the parents have chosen, so presumably they are happy with it.

Who are you in the situation? And why are you concerned?

It won't kill them. As long as they're happy with it, it's fine. Lots of people around the world making do with worse.

It's what the parents have chosen, so presumably they are happy with it.

But are the children? The 14 year old will need somewhere quiet to study.

You assume there is the ability to make a choice to do something different.

Depends on the faking dynamics. How well the kids all get on, if they are happy with it.

As long as it's a happy home, does it really matter?

Many of us grew up sharing bedrooms with siblings and doing our homework at the kitchen table. If that is the biggest hardship these children ever face, they will be more fortunate than most children in the world.

People grew up sharing bedrooms with more siblings than that and did fine in years gone by

as long as there is space for homework to be done and the likes it’s fine.

It's not ideal but it will become increasingly common over the next generation as housing costs get further out of reach. Whether you agree or not there are plenty of families who won't limit their number of children on the basis of the number of bedrooms they can afford (bearing in mind that housing has increased disproportionately, so they might afford other essentials comfortably, but not additional rooms).

Remember it's only in recent times that it became the norm for all children to have their own room,historically this was never the case.

Fourteen is puberty or post-puberty. Need their own space. Not just for studying.

Five children is a ridiculous number to have, especially if you don't have the space. Yanbu.

The choice was to not have five kids. Loads of people make that choice.

Is the eldest boy is 14 and the youngest is 1...that's means in four years an 18 year old will be sharing a room with a five year old. Still, I suppose the poor sod will have a good incentive to move out asap.

I think it’s incredibly selfish and irresponsible

I shared with my two sisters until we left home. My DB had his own room. We had one bathroom. Shocking 🙄

Yes selfish and irresponsible parents

Sounds absolutely horrific.

I'd have hated that growing up. Kids' need for a space of their own grows as they do. I think don't have 5 kids if you can't afford adequate bedroom arrangements.

Not your business.

I prefer to assume people are doing the best they can until proven otherwise. If that’s the situation the family find themselves in, I hope they can make it work.

I'm all for people being able to have a family regardless of income. Lots of us don't have children in perfect circumstances

Nonetheless!

This is ridiculous. They chose, 5 times, to plan a baby. They didn't need this many kids with only two bedrooms. Shit for the children and selfish. They could have still had three children- a good size family- but they decided to keep having more. Why????

That ship has sailed.

My self and my husband grew up like this, it was fine!

i think that 5 kids in a 3 bed with no money available to increase space means that there are probably other things that the kids are missing out on - friends staying over, peace and quiet to do homework, extra curricular activities etc.
My 2 boys shared a room until they were 13 and 10. by then it was getting really obvious that the older one needed his own space for studying and going to bed a little later (and we had already made a little area in the study for him to use) Since we moved and they now have their own rooms things are much better for everyone.

It’s not what I would choose for my family, overcrowded homes are becoming more common, or will be.

Are the children having the rest of their needs met? Adequate beds, food, clothing etc? Are they clean? Are their emotional needs being met?