Four children 1-14 years sharing room

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AIBU to think it's ridiculous and irresponsible that 4 children (same sex - male) aged from 1-14 are sharing a bedroom? There is a fifth child - a girl - who has her own room. There are no funds to extend/loft conversion etc. The children were all planned. No multiple births.

So if people thought they had a good childhood with loving parents despite not having a massive house then they’ve got it wrong? Alright to be an alcoholic, workaholic, emotionally/physically abusive, narcissist (all examples based on multiple threads on here) to have as many kids as you want as long as you can provide material things? Nice yardstick

He would know no different, being surrounded by siblings and household activity would be his normal.

@Jewel52

So if people thought they had a good childhood with loving parents despite not having a massive house then they’ve got it wrong? Alright to be an alcoholic, workaholic, emotionally/physically abusive, narcissist (all examples based on multiple threads on here) to have as many kids as you want as long as you can provide material things? Nice yardstic

It's funny because you're seeing it from the complete wrong angle. If someone had the things you mentioned - like workaholic parents, emotionally abusive, and said they turned out fine, does that mean it's fine?

I don't think anyone has said discredited anyone's anecdotes. But you don't get to insert your anecdotes on other people.

All the "I slept with my 10 siblings In a single bunk bed and we all lived happily". Yeah, good for you. Maybe other children weren't happy, I wasn't. Maybe the boy in this case isn't, either.

It's not the cultural norm to have 4 children of vastly different ages sharing a room anymore. This child is at a disadvantage socially and educationally. It's not "fine" for everyone Just like all the other things you mention

And where has anyone said it's ok to be physically or emotionally abusive, or to eb an alcoholic?

I grew up in a 3 bed 4 Siblings, 1 brother, 3 sisters. We shared the big bedroom 1, 6 and 10 all the way through until older sis left home at 22.
Never an issue, made us respectful to others and very rarely argued or had issues. But there wasn't loads to do in your room, reading/colouring/homework. All our toys were downstairs , no TV etc bedroom was mainly for sleeping in, we were rarely in the house those days!

I am one of six children. We did live in a huge house though.

Personally it’s too many children and I say that even though we had space. However lovely you are as a parent you will never be able to give one to one time to each child in any sort of decent quantity. When I was 14 I had an entire long day out just myself and my Mother. I remember that day like yesterday because it was so precious and I’m in my fifties now, it was the only time. Apart
from the last child we were all born pre the pill. It also left the family poor, children born late fifties to late sixties. It was shit being the poor kid at school. The only good thing it did was spur me on and I’m a case of successful social mobility.

Myself and my siblings all have one or two children apart from one sister who had an accidental third.

My MIL is 1 of 8. She shared 4 girls in a room, 3 boys in a room and 1 autistic boy had his own room. She actually liked sharing with her sisters and they have remained close all their lives. The only bit she hated was all (including parents) sharing 1 bathroom! There was a separate toilet downstairs and she often had to get washed at the kitchen sink so she wasn't late to school.
Personally, I think 2 kids max per room and ideally room each if affordable. Lots of people split up boys and girls but I think just as important to take ages into consideration. 1y and 14y sharing is not good.