To have phoned DH’s nephew twice to ask why me daughter and grandchildren aren’t invited to his wedding

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Husband is fucking angry with me. Received an invitation to his nephew’s wedding for us and our two daughters but not for my eldest daughter who is from a previous relationship.

Nephew’s response was that she was a step-relative who hadn’t been thought of but he didn’t think they were close.
He is closer in age to her and has known her longer than he has known the others.

I got his number off husband’s phone. He's furious with me.

Nephew is son of Brother-in-Law. The daughter of Sister-in-Law is invited with her toddler but my grandchildren aren’t invited.

When I found this out I rang him back asking how he felt closer to this family as they had grown up in different countries. He said he wasn’t willing to carry on the conversation.

BiL rang husband suggesting had I requested an invitation, one would be forthcoming, I don’t believe him. I get the sense it was more of control your wife.

I have no hope at all of my daughters not going, husband is definitely going.

I am fucking sick to my stomach. SiL rang me directly virtually threatening me saying I had upset people and not to involve my MiL.

Fucking furious.

People are going ask DD1 is 28, younger two are 19 and 20. Groom is 29.

Obviously yabu.

His Wedding His rules.

And that concludes this thread.

You shown your bothered too much here! Smart move would’ve been to decline the invite, send DH on his own and waited for the comments of why you weren’t there. It’s a shitty move in your nephews part but also you aren’t entitled to an invite just because your family.

YABU

Bloody hell. You know weddings are expensive, right?

You are absolutely out of order. No wonder they are all furious with you.

He can invite who he likes to his wedding!

You can be upset about his decision - that's not unreasonable but ringing him up and demanding an explanation/invite was out of order and really rude.

You may well disagree with their invitation and I would as well because I hate to see DSC left out, but you should not have questioned them over it. They can invite who they want to - and you get to decide whether you and your other DC go.

You're behaving like a nightmare.

This

Did we not have this thread last week?

Does your daughter even want to go the wedding of someone she hardly knows?

Good for you! No pussy-footing around. I hate when people don't invite one random family member, as if the budget was that close.

My sister did it to her half sisters sister, who she grew up with. Just to be extra. Now no one on that side wants to come. And I don't blame them.

People get very precious over their weddings and like to show their power. Fuck them.

Putting this on Mumsnet is also a smart move 👍👍👍

You did have the moral high ground but you lost it when you phoned him twice to complain.

Goodness that’s bad form. Were you planning to harass him into an invite? Well done for making it horrible for all parties though.

You are massively unreasonable to have rang them and demanded anything.

i wouldn't have phoned but I also wouldn't go to the wedding.

When I found this out I rang him back asking how he felt closer to this family as they had grown up in different countries. He said he wasn’t willing to carry on the conversation.

I cannot believe you were rude enough to say this. I'd be cancelling your invitation entirely if I were the groom.

Perfectly reasonable to be a bit miffed about someone not being invited to a wedding. Absolutely massively fucking unreasonable to PHONE THEM UP FOR AN ARGUMENT ABOUT IT. What the hell is wrong with you?

Yeah, you have gone way too far here. YABU.

Have you been ringing other family members involving them if they say you have for your MIL involved...again too far !!

You do not get to decide who he feels or is closer too, thats up to him.

He is entitled to invite whoever he likes and they are entitled to accept or decline.

Im glad your DH will take the kids and not allow them to be dragged into this drama.

Spectacularly unreasonable. You don't phone people to demand an invitation - I would be crossing you off the list, OP.
Oh, and you don't trawl through your spouse's private phone for numbers either - I'd be furious if I were your husband.

It's his wedding not yours!

Yikes.
Big big mistake.
Yes it's hurtful to not get an invite but kicking off was never going to end well.

YABU to have rung him, but not UR about your daughter not being invited. I’d have invented a previous engagement and declined the invite. It’s shit being excluded, especially from family.

I'd of been upset too so your not bu for the way you feel but you are being unreasonable contacting him 🙈🙈

That was very ballsy of you and it wont of gone down well

I get it, I'd of wanted to say somthing too, but I wouldnt of. I'd of quietly been annoyed and not gone