To think my male colleague shouldn't have asked me this?

[pikky]

Long story short, co-worker has been mildly flirting with me for a few weeks (at work) and eventually asked me to go out for a drink with him because in his words he thinks I'm a nice person. He took me by surprise. I had just got out of the loo and was walking to my office. We coincidentally met in the corridor and it was just the 2 of us. I politely declined and explained that I don't drink but we could go for coffee instead (he proposed this a few days prior to asking to go for drinks).

Anyway, a couple of days later he looked at my ID badge , said the photo is nice and asked if it was taken in a bar. He then looked directly into my eyes and seemed to be eagerly waiting for my response. I said it was indeed taken in a bar in Marrakesh.

Only my face and shoulders are visible on the photo. Background is plain black. I did have a full face of makeup on but the photo could've been taken anywhere really.

She asked "am I being unreasonable...?" And 92% yes.

That's literally the point in the aibu board. 😂

I saw your point right away and it did to me appear as if he was trying to catch you in a lie. Just tell him that it’s probably not a good idea to date coworkers. Things could get awkward down the road. Especially if he’s always playing got cha games.

Same!

Gut reaction is he would like you to drink, therefore 'loosen up' for a date? He seems to be someone who's used to meeting girls in bars, both have a few drinks, inhibitions go etc. May be wrong, some people can't understand the fact others don't drink. Personally I am a drinker so recognise this sort of situation. X

There you go, you don't really want to go out with him so be polite, try to be subtly clear until he moves on...

My very experienced spidey senses are going off here. If you feel at all uncomfortable, don’t go. The fact he asked if your photo was taken in a bar after you explicitly told him you don’t drink rings alarm bells with me, or maybe I’m just an old cynic. If you have any qualms don’t go, it’s not worth it.

You are completely right. He sounds mad and should be avoided. There are plenty of obsessive men and I think this is one. I'm surprised nobody else can seem to see it.

Run a mile, my ex used to do this, say sly things to prove I must be lying.
He doesn’t believe you don’t drink and is trying to prove you do and catch you out.
Your gut feeling is telling you not to go out with him.

Oh! I didn't even realise I had the votes option turned on.

Not bothered about the votes tbh. I was looking for advice which I'm thankful I've received now.

Will know to look at the votes next time though.

I will 100% not be going.

I'm new to the platform. I'll ensure to include all the necessary information in the post so it's clearer and not be the ' Mother of all drip feeds'.

Thanks.

@MadAntonia Thank you so much for the great advice.💐

@HoopLaLah Thank you so much for sharing your experience and advice.💐