To not want to share a bed even if it is a significant birthday?

[KeiraKnightley2]

My dad had a big birthday coming up and he wants to stay in this plush country estate house for it for 2 nights with my mum and my sister.

Originally I hoped my partner would come but now he's away with work and my dad wants me to share a bedroom with my sister (because of the expense no doubt).

The thing is she snores like a train and this sounds like my idea of hell. But it's what he wants us to do. Would you suck it up?

Personally i wouldn't but then I feel absolutely dreadful on a lack of sleep and I wouldn't be able to function very well so I couldn't enjoy whatever I was doing.

Yes, I would (assuming the relationship with my dad was a good one). I'd just get some good quality earplugs and try to make the best of it.

@existentialpain so do I.

Apparently this is what he really wants and to all be together but I don't want to do it. I'll probably be seen as selfish for refusing.

Is it a hotel or self-catering and if so is there a sofa bed ? Is there an alternative accommodation option nearby?
Could you and your sister go halves on the cost of an extra room?

Suck it up or pay for your own room

pack ear plugs and take a sleeping tablet? being next to a snorer is awful so you have my sympathy, but for one night I think you can power through for your dad. But shove your sister when she snores too loud!! Good luck x

Absolutely not. I just wouldn't go.

Presumably he's paying. If it's not super expensive and you want to go then pay for your own room or ask to go halves on a room since he'll then be covering your sisters room for free.

But nah, suggest just he and your mum go.

Could you pay the extra to have your own room?

It's about 350 per night and we need to stay 2 nights...

No local accommodation otherwise

Can't it be set up as twin beds?

I would absolutely do it. It's two nights.

I assume my parents lost a lot of sleep for sake over the years. And I have voluntarily lost sleep to celebrate with my friends at weddings and birthdays etc.

Earplugs, a day of annual leave afterwards if possible, and summon up as much gratitude and stoicism as you can for the weekend.

I’d just sleep on the couch

Offer to lay for your own room?

If that's not possible I would suck it up. One night won't kill you surely. Do it for your dad.

Ah I see it's for 2 nights!

My DH snores, I've used Boots wax ear plugs for decades, they work really well.

Yes, I would suck it up. And get some earplugs.

Compromise by offering to pay the difference?

I love my DF. If this had been us I'd just suck it up (and probably drink a skinful to make sure I slept through it anyway).

However, if you're not that close to your DF and don't mind the fallout, just make an excuse and don't go.

What would have happened if your DH could have gone too?

Loop ear plugs are great, the only ones that have blocked out the sound of snoring for me but I'd hate sharing a room and there's no way I'd share a bed, I'd bring along a camp bed to use.

Im assuming you are just renting 2 rooms within the plush country house, as i would imagine it's bigger than just 2 rooms.

I would do it for my father for one night. But i function ok on limited sleep and wouldn't mind in that situation.

But if you are going to resent doing it, this will probably show throughout the stay and may spoil it althogether. Can you not just hire your own other room??

I once stayed in a triple room with my mum and sister, they shared the king size bed and I had the single. The both snore like drunk bears on a train. I would suggest earplugs, over ear noise cancelling head phones playing white or pink noise and have quite a few drinks to help you drop off. But yes, I'd do it, if I couldn't afford to pay for my own room, but as someone else suggested, take annual leave for the day after!

Who's paying?

If it's your DF I'd bring a roll mat and earplugs. if yourself, then thanks but no thanks.

Either way they must surely be able to offer you a twin room. Have you tried contacting the hotel?

I don’t think I could.
My sister snores like a train in whatever position she is in, just sharing a room is terrible, you don’t have to be in the same bed. In the last 5 years I have shared a room with her 4 times and I shall never do it again. I’m so tired in the morning that I end up cross with her (and myself for doing it yet again).

Pay for your own room? Tbh I think if he's stumping up £700 per room for the break, there's a big difference in price!

Does your dad always call you selfish if you don't do what he wants? I'm wondering if there's a backstory here. It's uncommon for an adult to insist that another adult sleep next to some who snores, especially if they've said they don't want to. Is he unwilling to even consider your feelings?

Between what and what?