To not want to share a bed even if it is a significant birthday?

[KeiraKnightley2]

My dad had a big birthday coming up and he wants to stay in this plush country estate house for it for 2 nights with my mum and my sister.

Originally I hoped my partner would come but now he's away with work and my dad wants me to share a bedroom with my sister (because of the expense no doubt).

The thing is she snores like a train and this sounds like my idea of hell. But it's what he wants us to do. Would you suck it up?

I regularly share a bedroom with my sister on weekends away, and she snores like a pneumatic drill! But then, she puts up with my naked sleepwalking, so.....

Nope. If your father wants to make a generous gesture to celebrate his birthday, he should actually be generous rather than trying to do it on the cheap.

Snorers are horrendous. Alcohol makes them worse, too.

I too need silence to sleep.
I have to take the battery out of a ticking clock sometimes if staying in a room with a clock. -

£350 per room per night isn't what I'd call ''Cheap''. That would be another £700 for him {or OP} to pay to get some peace from the snorer.

£350 per night, and there's no possibility of twin beds?

Do they have 2 smaller, cheaper single rooms?

Same.

well, I personally sleep next to an incredibly noisy snorrer every night and it doesn’t wake me up (or keep me from falling asleep). But if it did, I’d do what you suggested…

And I’d definitely want separate beds. Can’t deal with somebody hogging my blanket or tossing and turning (that definitely keeps me awake / wakes me up)…

It's easy to spend other people's money!

Share a bed (hell no) or share a bedroom? which would depend how you get on with your sister.

Does your sister want to share with you?

Perhaps you could split the two nights between you?

Sure your partner can’t come?

oh gosh, ticking clocks. I used to wrap my school jumpers around the alarm clock because I couldn’t stand the ticking!

What have you proposed as a solution? I would either suck it up or pay for a separate room.

If your dad is paying I think you need to suck it up. Otherwise pay for your own room. Take some sleep aid tablets and ear plugs?

I think it's U of him to demand it. To support someone who's ill, OK. To demand it as part of a birthday treat, no.

Might he accept it more if you said that you cannot sleep if you don't have your own space, rather than mentioning your sister's snoring, which he might possibly interpret as sibling bickering?

Is it truly impossible to pay for a room of your own? (though I see it's pretty expensive)

Would he compromise on your staying just one night?

If there are no other options, could you take a sleeping bag and sleep on the floor? Not ideal, but better than sharing a bed, I'd say.

I get everyone's relationship with their parents is different but I wouldn't even be thinking about it as something that would stop me going. Yeah so it's a couple of nights bad sleep but you've already said it's a big birthday for DF and he just wants to spend it with his family.

I don't see how he's cheaping out either, assuming he's paying for two rooms for two nights that's £1400.

Being selfish isn't abuse. Stop posting tosh, it just looks silly and dramatic, eye rolling like a kid.

Either pay for your own room or use earplugs. I used to think I could not sleep with earplugs but living next to a noisy pub I learned quickly. The foam ones are really bad , try silicone earplugs .

He is being bloody generous! Jesus ...

Normal adults would suck it up for two nights.

It's not generous to give someone something that they actively don't want, however expensive it might be.

Actually sleeping tablets is an idea. It's what I use when forced to camp. Still wouldn't share a bed.

It's just two nights.

Ear plugs and be honest if you're tired and make time for naps.

It's just two nights

If it's so insignificant for OP to have what she's comfortable with, why is it so significant that her father gets what he wants?

Do it. Don't be THAT person who turns the occasion into a saga all about YOU. It is two nights. Either get hammered both nights or have a joint of weed or a mallet over the head.

Please don't be so self centred and immature.

Are you jealous of your sister by any chance, is there something else other than the snoring that you don't like about her?

If your Dad pays for one room, go halves with your sister on another.

How does that help with the snoring noise?