To tell my daughter she goes on too many holidays?

[Salltee]

I have a daughter, aged 26. She has an addiction to holidays abroad. She spends every moment of her annual leave on a beach in a foreign land.

She should be saving the money instead. She rents and doesn’t have a huge amount of savings. She earns a lot of money for her age and does work hard to be fair to the girl.

But it’s hard to see her rentin, when she could save for a deposit on a house.

She’s just told me she’s booked flights again for £500 to go to mexico for a week in December. Heaven forbid another holiday. I reckon she probably spends about 20-30% of her income on holidays.

Well this isn’t very good is it op. She’s 26, she’s having fun and travelling, she can save later. Her choices do not need to be yours. It’s her life. Not yours.

Good for her living her life and enjoying their youth. You should be really proud of her.
Working hard and playing hard

Agree with other posters in that its hers to spend as she likes and good on her.

For a reality check also - even if she spends say £5k a year on holidays, putting that towards a house deposit its going to take her TEN YEARS to get a half decent deposit and by then £50k wont even be a half decent deposit anymore unless house prices totally crash... so shes probably thinking why have ten years of zero fun or experiences just to be in same position

She’s 26! Not a child.

Good for her. Tomorrow isnt promised. Travel is incredible. I've only just started travelling long haul since the kids became late teens. I regret not doing it sooner.

Money comes and goes, life doesn't.

Ps. Owning a house isn't all that. I won't be able to appreciate it when I'm 6ft under will I?

That's what your 20's are for! Good for her.

Good for her! I wish I’d been less sensible in my twenties. I had a few fun adventures but rather envy my friends who spent a few years backpacking, doing ski seasons or working in bars in Ibiza. We are all old, sensible home owners now.

I started saving for a house deposit the best part of 10 years ago and still no where near getting there. I've recently decided to spend some of my savings on living a little (two holidays booked this year!) instead of holding out for a dream that will likely never come to fruition with the way things are going economically. Maybe your daughter thinks something similar, if so, good for her for chasing some great experiences and building memories. I wish I had done the same several years ago.

I can understand what you mean, however, she is an adult. Perhaps, you can ask if she has any plans for buy a property or has she started thinking about her pension etc.

Agree with this.
I wish my parents had offered more advice when I was a young adult.

Some people her age spend their time snorting coke up their nose every weekend, your daughter instead spends her time making memories on holidays. She sounds fantastic and a lot of people would love to be doing what she’s doing. You should be proud of your daughter and not resentful of her ‘not saving’. So what, she can be old and be sitting on a bunch of money with no memories so the money dies with her… or the money be spent and she can look back on a wonderful life she lived. I know what I’d rather.

It might be old enough etc, but at 26 - having my first proper job that paid well - I had NEVER looked into savings and investments for the future.
It didn't even cross my mind, being single, no kids, no responsibilities... And my parents had never talked to me about it.

Good for her. I have kids in their 30s and we encourage them to travel and enjoy life while they’re young and carefree.

Good on her! I spend all my husbands annual leave on holiday. I work term time only so more time off than him. We've 4 abroad holidays booked this year and a few city breaks. Life's too short.

It is a huge regret that I did not travel more when I was younger and had no children, pets, partners etc.

She can do what she likes, however you are never under any obligation to bail her out. My SIL was very like this, we are all now in her fifties and her Mum , my MIL has bailed her out so many times.

Absolutely her choice how she spends her money as long as she's not asking you for money!
Depending on where you live in the country being able to afford a property to buy is a distant pipe dream so not much point!

Before kids my husband and I would have multiple holidays abroad a year it's what we enjoyed doing.

I always worked hard in my 20s , did courses , got promotions , have a lovely house I own but I really wish I'd travelled more !

I’m sure pointing this out wouldn’t make you popular but her carbon footprint must be huge with all those flights!

My sister is the same, but her holidays are funded by our parents 😁 if she works hard and pays her own way, I don’t see what business it is of yours.

I’m now 36 with two children and no opportunity in the foreseeable future to travel around. Good for her! I bet she won’t regret it in the future!

I spend about 20% of my income on holidays and I own a house. That’s not a crazy amount to spend

I wish I had done the same at her age instead of getting married and having dc. She has the money and it’s her choice what she does with it, maybe she doesn’t want to buy a house?

Good for her.

Her money, her life, you are being incredibly unreasonable. She has an entire life ahead of her to be sensible.

Mind your own business