To tell my daughter she goes on too many holidays?

[Salltee]

I have a daughter, aged 26. She has an addiction to holidays abroad. She spends every moment of her annual leave on a beach in a foreign land.

She should be saving the money instead. She rents and doesn’t have a huge amount of savings. She earns a lot of money for her age and does work hard to be fair to the girl.

But it’s hard to see her rentin, when she could save for a deposit on a house.

She’s just told me she’s booked flights again for £500 to go to mexico for a week in December. Heaven forbid another holiday. I reckon she probably spends about 20-30% of her income on holidays.

Hmm I wish I'd been able to travel more when I was younger. Couldn't afford it then. Now I'm 52 I can afford it but my physical health not so good since operations etc for cancer.

My 20 year old son travels plenty in uni holidays. Worked at summer camp in Austria last year. When he finishes uni he has ever intentions of travelling and working abroad and no interest at all in owning houses and having kids. Why should be not do this to save for the future? At my age group I've seen a fair few people get ill and die. One friend was criticized for blowing his lump sum redundant/ pension at 55. Everyone telling him how he'd have nothing for old age. He had a lovely 18 months ( worked since 16) then went to bed one night and never woke up. He was 57.

You sound envious OP.

I did the exact same thing at her age and was absolutely the best thing I ever did. I then settled down in my 30's & had kids with no regrets, no feeling like I was missing out! We have a mortgage. Plenty of time for that

Who did she book with?
Sounds like a great deal!

She's 26, she has a job, she's allowed to spend her earnings how she wants. It's not really any of your business. She's an adult. Sounds like she has a passion for travel and would probably be bored out of her mind staying at home saving for a house.

I just came to agree with what everyone else is saying! Good for her!! Enjoy being young and not tied down. She’s an adult and it’s her money she can do what she wants with it. Sounds fantastic to me.

Does she have unpaid debts that she's disregarding? Are you supplementing her income? Does she have any longstanding financial responsibilities?
If not, let her reap the rewards of the hard work and enjoy her wages.
I wish I'd been in a position to do the and when I was her age.
It's really not your business.

Let's hope she doesn't come running for any financial help then or expect bank mum or dad to help with deposits and free childcare

I’d much rather my DCs had the chance to retire in their 50s than pull their tripes out till the day they die.

I'd much rather my DCs travel and see the world when they're young and have the energy. I had amazing, amazing adventures in my 20s. I have recently lost several friends in their late 40s-early 50s, several others battling potentially life limiting diseases. Retirement is not guaranteed.

Jings, let her live. She might gasp not be arsed about buying, meeting a partner or having kids. There's more than one way to live.

I know, the assumption on here that everyone has the same aspirations (mortgage, marriage, kids, work) is pretty depressing. Then again I moved abroad for 5 years at 26 so my view may be somewhat skewed.

Good for her she's living her life far too many people only live to work and pay bills these days

At 26 she should be saving as hard as she can to secure her future. One holiday a year is more than enough if she would someday like to own her own property.
She’ll be on Mumsnet in 10 years complaining about the price of houses and worrying how to afford her first child. Much like a huge percentage of current mumsnetters atm who didn’t realise that to have financial security in the future you have to make some sacrifices when you’re younger. I bet she drives a relatively new leased /pcp/ gp car too. Probably an Audi or a Mini Cooper 🤪

As long as she's not in debt, let her crack on. Her money she can do what she likes with it. Sounds like she's living her best life to me!

I’ve also known loads of people in their 40s and 50s who have found themselves suddenly homeless, and living in a one room council hostel with 2 kids. Nobody is saying don’t go on holiday, but it’s sensible to find a middle ground.

Old age, even retirement age is not guaranteed. It's not up to you how she spends her money.

The way the economy is going no matter how many sacrifices young people make they will still never be able to get on to the property ladder. Better to enjoy life while you’re young, which is something I’m going to assume you didn’t as you seem incredibly spiteful. You sound like one of those middle aged MC posters who believes that not buying coffees or avocados will save you enough for a house deposit 🤦‍♀️

Respectfully, it couldn't be less of your business what she spends her own money on.

Sounds like she's having a whale of a time. Fair play to her for living life how she wants - not how others think she should.

Yes that’s exactly what I believe ! How did you know. It’s the avocados and coffees fault. Always !
Please define ‘enjoy life?’