Upset about Mothers Day card

[Strawberry06]

Before I start I probably am being unreasonable but I can't help the way I feel.

Today is my first ever Mother's Day and my husband usually gets me a nice card for other occasions and writes a personal message inside.

Anyway for some reason he decided to go down the moonpig route and he made me a personalised card using a photo of me and the baby. In said photo I look horrendous, I've had no sleep, no make up on, not even brushed hair and the card is the whole photo. I couldn't help but cringe when I opened it and then burst out crying. Then there's just the most basic line of text inside.

I know I probably sound so ungrateful and there are much more important things but all I wanted was just a normal cute mummy card with a handwritten message inside for my first Mother's Day and I can't help but think he's ruined it and I'm so upset about it.

He knows the cards are important to me I don't ask for or expect anything else but a nice card I don't feel like it's a lot to ask!

In years to come, OP you will be more annoyed at yourself for being silly and spoiling your own first Mother’s Day than you are at him.

The photo is a realistic moment in time. Of course you look knackered and messy - you have a baby. It’s a memory not a model shoot.

Might as well just rip it up in front of him and say she hates it as to ask that! How passive aggressive.

😂Your baby wouldn't have been able to write a message... I genuinely think all these posts are wind ups. You got a card, no one else is going to see it, yabvu.

I fully accept the thought was there and I am not trying to deny I'm not being unreasonable cause I do feel very shitty about how I've reacted.

There's no effort gone into designing the card and even he said he hates sites like moonpig and funky pigeon etc. I just can't understand why he'd deviate from what he does usually. Honestly he writes the most lovely long personal messages in all of my cards and suddenly for first Mother's Day (such a special day!) he hasn't!

I can't help the way it's upset me.

Honestly op it's not the misery Olympics but as a single parent it's hard not getting anything for mothers day or anyone to make the day a bit special for me (my child is still young). Be grateful that you've got a card and a partner who does seem to care even if he hasn't quite got it right this time. Get him to run you a nice bath or cook you a nice dinner and try and enjoy your day. Life's too short (that autocorrected to shit at first 🤣)

Poor bloke, he tried, I wonder if he'll get you anything at all next year, I wouldn't :-/

YABU - I think he's done a lovely thing. New mothers don't always have time to put on makeup and blow dry their hair, but still look beautiful.

Okay, so OP and her husband has a one month old baby, this explains it all.
Husband is probably exhausted too, OP is a hormonal new mother, she should have used the "I need compassion" topic not AIBU (if such existed...)

No you can’t help it but you’ve come here for perspective and you’ve been offered it. It’s up to you if you take it or not.

I understand how you feel. Moonpig cards feel a bit like ransom letters, so impersonal and flat.

The thing is, you can help it. The only person responsible for your emotions is you. Tell him you'd love a thoughtful note about how he recognises your role as a new mum, but don't let a card ruin a special day.

Honestly he writes the most lovely long personal messages in all of my cards and suddenly for first Mother's Day (such a special day!) he hasn't!
Mayhe he felt awkward about the weirdness of pretending to celebrate mother's day when your child is still incapable of forming sentences. I never got the idea of that. Was he meant to wrote something pretending to be your baby? Or something gushy to you about what a great mother you are when you're not his mother? From your reaction I'm guessing whichever route he took you would have considered to be the wrong one.

@edme he's 2 weeks old. I was in hospital 4 days with him. On day 2 husband left early and said he was going to pop in the shopping centre on the way home to get a thank you card for the ward staff. I honestly thought he'd use that opportunity to get me a card.

Then yesterday he went to the cinema on his own to see a film he wanted which I totally didn't mind. Cinema is located in the same shopping centre so it's not like he hasn't had a chance.

You have a baby now, he's probably got much less time on his hands and many more things to think about now then when it was just the two of you.

Go easy on him.

Get a grip of yourself. This is shamefully embarrassing/ first world problems. Broaden your horizons. I hope you look back and this are regretful

Massive over reaction to no problem. Yes of course you can feel upset but try to think is your emotion rational and if rational is it proportional - I think it's down to your expectations

If he usually buys from a shop and writes a thoughtful message, but has now done this despite hating moonpig and it not being what he wanted to do, what’s his reason for doing it?

He hasn't ruined it . He's gone to far more trouble than it would have been to grab a card in Tesco.

@SeeYouInMyDreams I have absolutely no idea which is partly what's upset me! It could have all been avoided!

It could all be avoided by you calming down and stopping this tantrum, to be honest. You are being so ridiculous, it's embarrassing,

Maybe you got a card that reflects real motherhood rather than an all things pink and flowery card.

You are being unreasonable and ungrateful. You have a card you can treasure in years to come and you have a husband who cares and a baby to cuddle. Enjoy your first Mother’s Day and get over it! So the card isn’t quite what you wanted, it’s just not a big deal.

I’m so sorry for everyone with bellend
“d”h’s like this. That is utterly pathetic.

Happy Mother’s Day from me 💐

Between now and Father's Day, make sure you get a truly minging photo of him; treble chin, one eye half closed, bald spot on display etc, then make him an A4 sized card with it.

And this a funny new family tradition is born 😊

This is a perfect idea 😅 hopefully OP will bare this in mind once her hormones have calmed down