Upset about Mothers Day card

[Strawberry06]

Before I start I probably am being unreasonable but I can't help the way I feel.

Today is my first ever Mother's Day and my husband usually gets me a nice card for other occasions and writes a personal message inside.

Anyway for some reason he decided to go down the moonpig route and he made me a personalised card using a photo of me and the baby. In said photo I look horrendous, I've had no sleep, no make up on, not even brushed hair and the card is the whole photo. I couldn't help but cringe when I opened it and then burst out crying. Then there's just the most basic line of text inside.

I know I probably sound so ungrateful and there are much more important things but all I wanted was just a normal cute mummy card with a handwritten message inside for my first Mother's Day and I can't help but think he's ruined it and I'm so upset about it.

He knows the cards are important to me I don't ask for or expect anything else but a nice card I don't feel like it's a lot to ask!

I know!

I don't think a "I need compassion" section would work here.. no one would reply🤦‍♀️ even the daily mail posters are kinder then mumsnet

Exactly. Two weeks after giving birth I couldn't 'get a grip' of anything if you paid me.

Are you? Really? How unpleasant.

If she wants a staged photo there will be plenty of opportunities to have one

Oh no 😂 dh might book one of those “Mummy and me” professional photo shoots for your birthday to make up for this faux pas.
You’ll have to schlep to London, spend 3 hours in a studio and then endure a hard sell of all 20 images to you at extortionate prices.

Tell him now if you don’t want this !

Agreed! At 2 weeks postpartum none of my thoughts were remotely rational.

Hope you're OK, OP.

I have no issue with it, it's none of my business. But it stands to reason that newborns will interrupt the routine.

@indigovapour

how mean of you

@DanielGault

maybe, maybe not!

where there’s a will there’s a way!

Oh god that REALLY made me laugh!

Look at it this way , OP . I don't think it would occur to many men to buy a Mother's Day card when their wife has only just had a baby . You also said he went out when you were in hospital to buy a card for the ward staff .

He sounds lovely and you've told him you weren't pleased with your card . I expect you're not the only one who's upset .

Papers have picked this post up now 💀

I feel sorry for your husband tbh, having to pussyfoot around your sulking.

New motherhood is raw, not a staged Instagram , 'memory making' experience.

Well, no, not necessarily when it comes to babies.

Yes. 🤔 Your problems to me, OP.

God forbid a husband treats a woman who has just given birth with gentleness

YABU.

He tried.

i suspect you’ll be starting a lot of threads on mumsnet over the coming years Op of this particular issue causes you to start one a fortnight into becoming a mother for the first time 😆

It doesn’t sound like he is usually lazy over these things as you said he gets a card and writes something nice in them for other special days. It sounds like he tried something new and you didn’t like it, which is fair enough. I think the crying was probably hormones and you’ll look back and laugh in time.

I'm sorry the card made you feel rubbish... But keep it because it WILL give you a laugh at some future point! (And it is a lovely thought even if you felt the picture was awful.)

Trust me in years to come you will come to love that photo.

I was very much a ‘mum behind the camera’ and as a result there aren’t many photos of me with my children. None of them are perfect, some of them I look utterly dreadful but I love every single one of them

And on a further note - perhaps your husband loves that photo he chose, maybe it means something to him. Maybe he looks at it and sees your natural beauty and the beauty of a natural unposed photo

Just because you think you look like crap, doesn’t mean he thinks you do.

He possibly chose that photo because it’s so natural and means more to him (and he thinks to you too) than a posed photo with hair and make up done.

As a PP said, you will look back and love this card more than any other generic card from a shop.

I actually think this is a lovely idea and something that could be done every year to look back on how both you and baby have changed.

Sounds like the words of someone who hasn’t had a baby and doesn’t have a clue.

It’s just not true on many days with a baby in my experience and my friends experiences.

@Shiningout single mum here too. Got nothing for Mother's Day. Just to cook the dinner and entertain everyone like usual. Pity party for one please.