Why is being successful frowned upon by most on Mumsnet

[Teenangels]

I have been/seen on some threads that people, are negative towards those that have become successful, children go to private school means the kids are entitled.

Why can't we celebrate that some people get lucky with an idea, take risks, work incredibly hard and pay their fair share on taxes.

I have seen people demand that the OP gives their profits to charity without even knowing what the OP gives to charity.

We need to celebrate all in society.

Not really. They don’t need to acknowledge the unrelated and thus irrelevant situations of others in some weird act of appeasement. Not everything has to be about you and/or what you consider important.

The irony lol.

We need to be super supportive of women who earn a lot, given all the posts about abuse, physical or mental. Often comments on here are like " I preferred to spend time with my DC" or " You must be lying because I don't know anyone who earns over £50 k".

Someone needs to be paying those taxes also if £10 m are going to be paying nothing.

Of course, but it works both ways surely? As you say MN posters are not a monolith, and are all from different backgrounds/incomes etc, so if you start a thread hoping for sympathy about your rising stable costs/school fees/nanny fees - you will get a range of responses and some of those will be users who can’t relate.

And sometimes maybe views from others might put things in perspective. You could argue ‘don’t reply if it’s not relevant to you’ and absolutely I agree, I’ve seen people who outright say they’ve never breastfed replying earnestly with breastfeeding advice on threads 😄 But equally if you post a very specific issue/lifestyle problem on a very generalised board like AIBU (which is literally a board for asking people if you’re in the right about something) - you have to expect all sorts of responses.

That 10 million figure is VERY misleading I think.
It includes students... And the sick.. and CARERS FFS.

It's a stupid figure that tells a different story than the actual facts of it.

Thus proving the point of the op and what I’ve said. These people are the majority on mn now. Literally spending all day going on threads which really aren’t relevant to them to make themselves angry. They are like volunteer forum police spending all day trying to pull down people different to them. Saying they shouldn’t be posting. The irony is strong.

It’s also the lack of imagination, that’s astounding. On the high earner threads, you get people sneering at high earning women saying it can’t possibly be true, they are making it up, they are fantasists.

It takes a special level of closed mindedness and low expectations to think that anyone saying they earn 6 figures must be lying.

Or when someone starts a thread saying they have 27p in savings and would like to invest, asking for advice. Oh, well, what audacity. How dare they come on here flaunting their wealth when some people cannot afford to eat.

Or if someone says they want to get a cleaner to free up some time. Well, how elitist and pretentious. Don’t they have any humility.

Such pathetic attitudes.

It doesn't matter for what reasons they are not working. The effect on the economy is the same.

🤷‍♀️If the cap fits I suppose.

We’re either a hotbed of snarling revolutionaries surrounding the guillotine, or we’re not particularly keen on smugness, entitlement, or demanding respect because someone’s made a few bob. My money is on the latter.

In a thread about the subject?

See under the dictionary definition of ‘hyperbole’

Bragging and conspicuous consumption are not generally something the UK as a whole considers nice

I guess because it can lead naturally to jealously and envy and other emotions that don't make a coherent society

Because no one likes to feel that the other person considers themselves superior to you - that's something that should be driven by respect not demanded

Which brings up another point, that in a properly civilised society there would be no need for family to be full-time carers of the sick.

This poster just confirms everything.

Where has anyone every said that they are superior to others?

They don’t though, do they? Just reinforces your own prejudices

But there are some people who could work really hard and just don’t have the brains to be able to do those things. I say that as someone who came from a one parent family, worked hard at school, went to uni and now has a professional career, part of it was hard work but I was also lucky enough to be born with the intellectual capacity to do those things

To be honest most people can’t even pronounce it correctly. Such is the appalling state of education nowadays. My post is how mn is now. As this thread is proving.

I have noticed that these days on social media- not necessarily on MN- you are supposed to acknowledge your privilege and come all over Uriah Heep before saying anything at all. I am not talking about bragging about holidays or designer gear. That's awful in any climate. But even the smallest achievement seems to require an apology before it and a fawning #blessed#gratitude

Snobbery and entitlement

The working hard at school is usually followed by working hard in a career. Those earning well may well be working longer hours than the cleaners and carers you cite.

This country is now so dominated by a dependency culture that resenting high earners is akin to biting the hand that feeds you. Live off other people’s money but then hate them for earning more than you.

What about those that want to?

How are we going to pay for all the taxes, shall we have a Scandi style tax system, should everyone earn the same?

Keep going. Maybe change cats with crabs? Crabs in a bucket 🦀

I know that some people would never work a 90 hour week, and are resentful to those that do.