Mothers Day... to be furious ..

[skiimmed]

That my eldest daughter keeps
Telling me how broke she is , despite part time work through uni and spending plenty on herself, and that she won't be getting me anything , not even a card for Mother's Day?
I have sacrificed so much for her to go to uni... in Ireland..I am
A single parent who works full time so my kids can be educated and have what they need and I feel hurt and angry .
AIBU

It is a Christian thing actually.

No it was women in service mainly.

Mothering Sunday is a day honouring mother churches, the church where one is baptised and becomes "a child of the church", celebrated since the Middle Ages in the United Kingdom, Ireland and some Commonwealth countries on the fourth Sunday in Lent. Wikipedia

I came on here this morning to see if your daughter had stepped up. I am so glad. Breakfast, a nice walk and opting in with the other child for a gift is showing you are in her thoughts. I hope you have a lovely day. Thank you for the update

people in service were given the day off 4th Sunday of lent to visit their mothers.

I don’t think the OP Apia’s being “precious” or any of the other things being thrown about on here

Being told - “I’m not doing anything for Mother’s Day” the day before is hurtful, regardless of the change of heart. At best it was an attempt todo a surprise that was very misguided at worst it was cruel and deliberately said to hurt.

The fact she changed her mind doesn’t take away from the fact she said it and the OP was quite rightly upset about that. Regardless if your household doesn’t mark the day making that statement the day before is hurtful.

You have every right to feel
put out. We all have that one family member who is a selfish shit , doesn’t mean you have to accept it. She might be skint but cooking you dinner or doing a shiuty chore for you wouldn’t cost a fortune .

People should really read all of the OP’s posts before commenting

Great update have a fab day OP. Glad she stepped up.

I always think this is a stupid remark, as if people are just robots programmed by their mothers. Don’t they have a personality of their own and aren’t there other influences in their lives?

Glad your daughter did something nice for you in the end OP

The Christian element refers to going back to your mother church, not your mother.

The day off was that so you paid your ‘mother church’ a visit - either the church where you were christened, or your parish church, or the nearest cathedral.

The current version of Mothers day in the US is an invented fixed day specifically to honour mothers. The UK version isn't fixed because it's tied to Lent.

And which many of us have done today so it is still Mothering Sunday.

Mothering Sunday in England has got different origins to in America.
It dates back to the 16th century when everyone returned to their mother church and visited their own mother's and family. It is not a made up Hallmark day but just like Christmas and Easter ....and all our lives...is more commercial each year.

Ungrateful and selfish.she is very lucky to have a mother.

Yes it's hurtful and lazy. 'I feel quite hurt by the fact I don't even receive a 99p card for mother's day tbh love'. Think that's exactly what I'd say.

What utter crap.

OP Exactly the same scenario here, Eldest in first uni year, youngest in GCSE's, neither got me a card, their father left this year for a OW after over 20 years and did his best attempts at weaponizing them both (still does)...I am just so greatful to have their company together in one house today 💖 The eldest came home from Uni yesterday for today and wrote me the most beautiful message in WhatsApp this morning that I'll treasure forever, the youngest is giving lots of extra cuddles. These are things that could never be replaced by a card or any gift they could buy. They are my world. I hope you don't feel upset for too long 💖💖

I feel the same, I babysit, collect youngest (8) grandchild from school have him until dad gets home, sometimes Sundays as well while older children have football, both mum and dad go with them. Not e 3n a text message today. Feeling so hurt and unvalued.

No excuse, a card can be home made, save up and sacrifice a few personal expenditures. I used to save a bit of pocket money as a child and buy little things then hide them for my Mum's birthday and Mothers' day because I love my Mum so much. Xx

This is about basic good manners. Daughter has none.

That’s mean of her. You can buy a cards cheaply if u shop around a bit, even a €1.50 plain card, dunno what the postage is but I’m sure the total price would be less than a fiver. I’d focus on how hurt you are rather than angry.

When my daughter was about ten she bought a Mother's Day card for me.
It cost £3.50 out of her £5.00 pocket money. I just knew she hadn't budgeted for that sum.
So we had the talk about the whole concept being a money shakedown made up bollocks non-event. She buys things for me she knows I will actually like, no occasion necessary.
Upset over the lack of a card for a bullshit nonsensical sentimental 'Special Day?
Grow up.

No not at all; I’d be pissed off that I’d raised a self centred little bitch too if I were you; just give her a reality check later in the year no Easter eggs if you usually give them, no birthday cards or gifts & just a token Christmas gift & when she has a hussy fit tell the ungrateful little madam; that you realised on Mothering Sunday that you mean so little to her so instead of splashing the cash in her direction you brought yourself some lovely things. She won’t ever forget another Mother’s Day again in a hurry 😂😂😂