Mothers Day... to be furious ..

[skiimmed]

That my eldest daughter keeps
Telling me how broke she is , despite part time work through uni and spending plenty on herself, and that she won't be getting me anything , not even a card for Mother's Day?
I have sacrificed so much for her to go to uni... in Ireland..I am
A single parent who works full time so my kids can be educated and have what they need and I feel hurt and angry .
AIBU

A card and a bunch of daffs wouldn't break her.

It's about the cost of a Costa/ Starbucks coffee that students always seem to live on.

I'd be hurt, too.

Maybes she’s tricking you and has something to surprise you with tomorrow

It certainly is!

maybe a sibling has had a word I'd just take it as a win and enjoy your breakfast😀

And that she'll have to pay petrol for the "taxi service" her mother provides - or better still, get an actual taxi.

@KeenAnt My daughter has strong form for this so this is invitation is a surprise. I am always quick to say it like it is when it comes to my kids. As I said, this is a surprise and I am happy so thanks.

But does he do something else?

Cook you a meal?

Wait on you for a day?

i dont expect anything, i have received nothing

i dont see the angst and anger about it all tbh.

so tomorrow is mother's day
there may be a card tomorrow
why are you so annoyed about it?

My ds asked me if I wanted a card whilst in a shop today buying birthday cards for my brother 🤦🏼‍♀️😂

I just said up to him.

But he also said he'd take me out for a coffee tomorrow as it's Mother's Day after we visit crematorium for my mum "as he owes me 2 coffees".

Personally I don't offended because Ds is autistic and I do laugh and point out his social faux pas! He is learning - albeit slowly 🫣😂

She could fold up a piece of A4 to make a card, it would cost her absolutely nothing.

She just can't be bothered, it's that simple

I was Asda yesterday and was surprised to see so many secondary school children buying flowers and gifts.

She probably picked up that you were annoyed and quickly reassessed her choices. That or one of her siblings overheard and pulled her up on it.

I am probably the opposite to most on here, really don’t care for cards, but I do want the day acknowledged - phone call from those living away from home, and tea and hugs from those at home.

I'm firmly of the belief that Mothers' Day is commercialised twaddle and my daughter knows that I am not fussed if she ignores it. That said, I know that my own mother does like the day to be acknowledged and would be hurt if I didn't mark the occasion in some way. So I get a small gift and card to ensure that Mum is happy. I guess it's about knowing what the other person wants but we need to be better about communicating that sometimes.

My DS was about 17 when he forgot Mothers Day - hangover in a mates bed and by 3 in the afternoon, he got a phone call with a very ubrupt and to the point message telling him I was extremely hurt and felt he could at least show some appreciation - even a home made card...
Fast forward - he is now in his 30's, lives abroad, but never forgets, he's very thoughtful to not only me but his friends and family, his partner often remarks how he makes such an effort - in thought not financial. As a parent you have a responsibility I think to teach your children to be kind, thoughtful and appreciative. Yes I have a beautiful Mothers Day gift and the thought behind it makes me feel loved and appreciated😀

Card and box or chocs is about 5 pounds. She is selfish and ungrateful

Especially if its needed tomorrow lunchtime..
Unfortunately, or fortunately it's already booked.

Enjoy not only your afternoon tomorrow OP but make the whole day a day of doing as little or as much as you please, but make it your day.

And maybe even a few more weekend days in the future..

You sound like a lot of fun.

What rubbish - one day of the year the daughter is old enough to be thoughtful towards her mother.

@ArtfulBrickEagleand how is this helping op? Mother’s Day is the most important day to me. More than my birthday or any other holiday. I normally don’t endorse cards…a verbal or text is fine but I absolutely want a card purchased /homemade / dollar store for Mother’s Day and I have let my children know this. It’s important to me they recognize the good mother I am. And IM NOT PATHETIC IN ANY WAY

Exactly this. There is nothing wrong with reminding your children how to be a decent person in the world

Blimey thats sanctimonious right there! Most people want to feel a little appreciated by their family and a card is hardly living the high life🙄

Can she make a card. I know she is 23, but still. I don't get worked up about mother's day. I love love love the cadds they make at school but don't care for anytbing else. I mean, it would be nice but I know they love and appreciate me anyway. If they are short on money, I'd rather they spent money on themselves than on a card or present for me.

Isn’t Mother’s Day tomorrow?

Anyway, it may be because we didn’t celebrate Mother’s Day growing up, but I just don’t see the problem.

Oh fgs. I just saw this. Maybe you should have waited until actual Mother’s Day to get upset? You didn’t even give her a chance..