Or dh expecting normal service

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Ds 4 spiked a 40.4° fever out of nowhere on Tuesday night. I gave him calpol and ibuprofen over the course of an hour but it took til 1.30am for it to start to come down. Little sleep for either of us because he was tossing and turning, obviously uncomfortable for the rest of the night as it was still high 38.
Wednesday night I slept with him to keep an eye and he was OK, but he wriggles alot and isnt great to sleep next to. Thursday night fevers back so another Tuesday night. Last night was the worst, he's got a horrible cough now it's making him gag so he's vomitted 4 times overnight.

This morning dh has football. He's the manager of an amateur men's team. I asked him before 7 to cancel or get someone to come get the equipment. He's point blank refusing and says he is going.

Aibu? I've honestly had 12 hours sleep over the last 4 nights. I'm so tired I feel light headed and he's not showing any consideration. I don't know if I'm not thinking straight because of it. He is leaving before 9 which means I have an hour to sleep. Except I'm so angry at his disregard I'll probably get none. He has backshift later so means I'll be parenting all day and no chance of rest.

exactly, it's a hobby, it's not important!

Many of us managed empathy without needing the extra info. Sorry that you struggled with that.

Temperatures in an otherwise healthy child can reach 40-40.5 for quite mundane reasons. In an adult, 40-40.5 is much more serious. A moderately high temperature doesn't cause fevers in itself. It's the rapid rise in temperature than can cause fevers.

• The advice from the NHS is that you seek advice for a temperature above 39, child under 6 months. Once over 6 months, it's 111/GP for:
• has other signs of illness, such as a rash, as well as a high temperature
• has a high temperature that's lasted for 5 days or more
• does not want to eat, or is not their usual self and you're worried
• is dehydrated – such as nappies that are not very wet, sunken eyes, and no tears when they're crying

Obviously, 999 if serious illness is suspected.

Maybe they're just as useless as he is.

he sounds like a horrible, unkind and selfish human and I would seriously be reconsidering staying married to someone who shows such utter lack of concern or respect for you. You don’t treat someone you love the way he is treating you.

What @misskatamari just said

all uselessly avoiding interacting with their families or doing their share of the domestic work

You don’t have to be with a man like this.

there is a different life you can choose.

YANBU OP. He should have cancelled football and helped out at home. Massively selfish behaviour and prioritising others over his family.

He is a real nasty piece of work OP. I hope you leave and find peace and happiness.

Well then I suggest you take it up with the NHS, who publish the advice.

Pack him a bag and leave it outside for him with your key in the door.

Honestly.

You deserve so much better.

What a load of old toot.

https://www.nice.org.uk/guidance/ng143/chapter/Recommendations

NICE guidelines:

1.2.11

In children older than 6 months do not use height of body temperature alone to identify those with serious illness. [2013]1.2.12

Recognise that children younger than 3 months with a temperature of 38°C or higher are in a high-risk group for serious illness. (Note that some vaccinations have been found to induce fever in children aged under 3 months.) [2013]1.2.13

Recognise that children aged 3 to 6 months with a temperature of 39°C or higher are in at least an intermediate-risk group for serious illness. [2013]1.2.14

Do not use duration of fever to predict the likelihood of serious illness. However, children with a fever lasting 5 days or longer should be assessed for Kawasaki disease (see the recommendation on additional features of Kawasaki disease in the section on symptoms and signs of specific illnesses). [2013, amended 2019]

You are stating that you are a GP and you are giving erroneous information.

You are stating that you are a GP and you are giving erroneous information.

They aren’t a GP.

I can only assume you’re not in the U.K. then, as NHS advice is very clear.

If you search her posts, she works from home with five kids and runs a home improvements company with her husband. So she is not a GP. If the way she writes didn’t give it away already ;-)

Tbh it was the ‘lol’s that gave it away more than the complete lack of medical knowledge…

It’s weird how people don’t think they will be ‘found out’. Says it all really.

I have actually reported their post as I think it is concerning for someone who is clearly not a medical professional to be posting and saying they are. Rather alarming too!

Especially when giving wrong advice.

Didn't have time to whinge? Why, because your useless dick of a husband was out playing a game with a bunch of other dicks so you had to just cope all by yourself?

Thank fuck my husband is nothing like yours is all i can say.

he married her and helped concieve a baby. he made a commitment there too. if OP collapses from exhaustion what will he do? tell the ambulance to take the 4 yo with them cos he's got a game to play?

darling you need a divorce not a nap. well you need a nap. but my god you need a divorce too