Or dh expecting normal service

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Ds 4 spiked a 40.4° fever out of nowhere on Tuesday night. I gave him calpol and ibuprofen over the course of an hour but it took til 1.30am for it to start to come down. Little sleep for either of us because he was tossing and turning, obviously uncomfortable for the rest of the night as it was still high 38.
Wednesday night I slept with him to keep an eye and he was OK, but he wriggles alot and isnt great to sleep next to. Thursday night fevers back so another Tuesday night. Last night was the worst, he's got a horrible cough now it's making him gag so he's vomitted 4 times overnight.

This morning dh has football. He's the manager of an amateur men's team. I asked him before 7 to cancel or get someone to come get the equipment. He's point blank refusing and says he is going.

Aibu? I've honestly had 12 hours sleep over the last 4 nights. I'm so tired I feel light headed and he's not showing any consideration. I don't know if I'm not thinking straight because of it. He is leaving before 9 which means I have an hour to sleep. Except I'm so angry at his disregard I'll probably get none. He has backshift later so means I'll be parenting all day and no chance of rest.

So if (God forbid) you needed to go to hospital then your husband would not want you to let him know?!
I find this appalling.

Maybe you don't understand because you haven't read the post properly. Or perhaps you are deliberately misrepresenting OP's post to stick the boot it because it's AIBU. Hmmmm.....?

There is no such rule. Temperatures are a healthy sign your body is fighting the virus it has effectively.

Thing is, he could have let OP sleep when he was off earlier in the week and today probably wouldn’t have been an issue. He’s so selfish though that he thinks it’s never his job to look after the children.

You’re going to have years of this OP if you stay with him. I hope when your little one is feeling better and you’re less tired, you think really carefully about whether this is the life you want. 💐

That’s not actually true. The temp doesn’t mean they have a higher risk of a febrile seizure…..

It’s amazing how much weight some women give to the importance of men doing their hobbies. 😅 I wonder if the DH had been awake for four days and op wanted to go do her hobby after not lifting a finger for her her two days off if people would be saying ‘poor op, don’t interfere with her special hobby time!’

Even if he 'had to go' , which is total bollox, but lets say he had to.
How about, 'im so sorry love i have to be there but look ill keep my phone on me so if u need me just call me. Ill be straight back ill bring dinner and i promise ill do evrrything tonight and u can stay in bed all day tmro.
Pls ring me if u need me, ive told the lads i might have to go half way thru if needs be'.
That MIGHT save my marriage, wldnt save him from me being really annoyed, but id know he at least gave a shit.
Not ' i dont want to hear from you'
I swear to fuck if any man said this to my dd id go bananas.

Being as mums are being told on other threads to prioritise others even on Mother’s Day, I’m guessing not.

Women are only here to facilitate men and their wants according to many on here. Blows my mind.

And unless youre a really cool martyr who can do everything by herself without complaint then you clearly are useless.
Except, while i sure as shit can manage on my own, i dont have to. Cos i have a husband. Wtaf is the point of him if not?

Yup same

Women really should be expecting the men they have children with to pull their weight. Then everyone wonders why their husband is nigh on fucking useless, it’s because this is how we raise men “don’t worry about all this vomit and my extreme sleep deprivation love, you go have a little run around, you do enjoy it, of course you come first, you always come first, it would be selfish of us to disturb your hobbies”

Always ask yourself if you would do to your husband what he is doing to you. Would you let him stay up with a sick child for days on end when you were off work and not lift a finger to help, instead moving to the spare room so you can get your shut eye and then buggering off to footie when he could barely walk in a straight line.

Well 12 hours sleep over four nights will soon make her ill if he doesn’t step up. Why does she have to get to crisis point before he takes responsibility for his own children ?

Your husband is an absolute arsehole. I really hope you get some rest tonight and can enjoy your day tomorrow. The early comments on this thread make me so mad. How can women be so anti-women. It really doesn’t help.

He's the manager of a team. Missing a commitment like that is akin to phoning in sick at work. He will let other people down.

Agreed. The low standards of women here and their lack of self-respect in their desire to serve their Men, astounds me here.

OP how dare he not help with the nights. Poor you x

....well that's dumb.
I get where youre coming from but no, just no.

The irony of being called dumb by you is astounding. @Gillbil

Maybe his wife and children should be more important than other people.

And? Whats your point?
He should have let them down rather than let his wife down.
Christ almighty.
WHY are there so many apologists for mens bad behaviour.

Meanwhile, people call in absent to work regularly when their kid is unwell and it's their turn to look after them/take the time out.

He's fine to let his wife and his kid down. Just god forbid not the amateur footballers.

I don't think the football is the problem but the two nights he was off he should have stepped in

So many MN martyr doormats.

Just saw this. What happened when you laughed in his face and went to bed because that is what I would've done.

I don't believe for a moment that a whole team wouldn't be able to play a game of football without him. His wife is the one who is being let down!

write it down in your little book and serve it all back cold at some point in the future when the time is right

His parting shot out the door was he didn't want to hear from me for the rest of the day.

If this is how he normally behaves then I would end the marriage. Disgusting selfish bastard.