Mothers Day should be banned

[DinnaeFashYersel]

Thread after thread on here with Mothers Day drama and grief

Partners who haven't made any plans
Partners whose plans aren't WOW enough
Mothers v MILs
Mothers v Mothers and MILS
Partner isn't making plans for mother of unborn baby
Blended family dramas
The list goes on and on

Post Mothers Day will have the threads

He forgot
It was rubbish compared to the elaborate day he got for Fathers Day
MIL spoiled it
Etc

Its not worth it. It seems to be make so many people unhappy and angry and we'd be better off without.

YABU: its a cherished and important day, how dare you even ask
YANBU: ban it and save us all from the grief and drama

Full disclosure: I celebrate it to the extent that my kids will serve me tea and (burnt) toast in bed. Otherwise its a normal day. And of course I know it won't actually be banned. Its just a discussion.

YANBU I was just saying the same on another thread that people have turned these days into some sort of “I’m a princess and need worshipping” day and it’s all to do with social media. Appreciation doesn’t need to be some grand gesture, and people should be appreciated all the time anyway. My 3 made me cards, DH bought a gift I asked for and I had a lie in and a takeaway. Pretty perfect! I

In what way? Where there not cards and flowers here for Mother’s Day before?

Yes, that be true in the U.S….In the uk, it’s traditionally linked to lent (half way and why our mother’s day here moves around from march or april).

May in rest of Europe and Australia as May is the month of the Virgin Mary.
In U.K. Mothering Sunday is religious. It comes from visiting your mother church I believe.

I don’t know…I guess the religious side was ‘returning to your mother church’ etc.

But i think like most of these ‘days’ gets overtaken and influenced by what the u.s. does (halloween, valentines)

tbh I don’t think anyone in the uk actually celebrates it as a religious holiday anymore, even religious people, and haven’t done for a long time.

Father’s Day isn’t the big deal compared to MD.

Firstly those who have one parent (alive and in contact with) 90% of these - it’s the mother.

Secondly - men aren’t that bothered

Father’s Day is a card shop invention isn’t it?

Nope.

https://www.almanac.com/forgotten-history-fathers-day#:~:text=The%20first%20known%20Father's%20Day,especially%20those%20who%20had%20died.

The first known Father’s Day service occurred in Fairmont, West Virginia, on July 5, 1908, after hundreds of men died in the worst mining accident in U.S. history.
Grace Golden Clayton, the daughter of a dedicated minister, proposed a service to honor all fathers, especially those who had died. However, the observance did not become an annual event, and it was not promoted; very few people outside of the local area knew about it. Meanwhile, across the entire country, another woman was inspired to honor fathers …
Sonora Smart Dodd
In 1909, Sonora Smart Dodd of Spokane, Washington, was inspired by Anna Jarvis and the idea of Mother’s Day. Her father, William Jackson Smart, a farmer and Civil War veteran, was also a single parent who raised Sonora and her five brothers by himself, after his wife Ellen died giving birth to their youngest child in 1898. While attending a Mother’s Day church service in 1909, Sonora, then 27 years old, came up with the idea.
Within a few months, Sonora had convinced the Spokane Ministerial Association and the YMCA to set aside a Sunday in June to celebrate fathers. She proposed June 5, her father’s birthday, but the ministers chose the third Sunday in June so that they would have more time after Mother’s Day (the second Sunday in May) to prepare their sermons. Thus, on June 19, 1910, the first Father’s Day events commenced: Sonora delivered presents to handicapped fathers, boys from the YMCA decorated their lapels with fresh-cut roses (red for living fathers, white for the deceased), and the city’s ministers devoted their homilies to fatherhood.

I could live without it.
My husband did a great job at getting me a card, chocolates and flowers from my 5yo. My 5yo immediately asked if I had got him a toy in return and I said I hadn’t - cue a massive tantrum … then I travelled 2 hours to my hometown to see my mum and as I got off the train my dad phoned and told me mum didn’t want to catch the cold my son had - even tho I am fine I might be carrying it and they were both adamant I not visit so I went back home without seeing them and it was 4.5 hours door to door… we’ve had 2 more screaming tantrums from my boy about not getting a toy and I’m now hiding in a Luke warm bath while my husband does bedtime … and thinking of the big glass of gin I’ll have in about 10 minutes.

oh dear! another joyous 'mothers day ' this is why it should be cancelled

No breakfast in bed (not even burnt toast)
No gift
No meal out for lunch or dinner

Not arsed in the slightest 😂

Just another day for corporate companies to make millions 🤷🏼‍♀️

Have you said the same about Father's Day or is it only mothers who should be unappreciated and just get on with things?

I may get flamed for this; but I think it can be quite a cruel day - for those who've lost their mums, and for childless-not-by-choice women.
I wish we could celebrate International Women's Day more instead? It's less divisive...

Are you sure about that? I thought it was when girls in service went to visit their mothers and gave them a simnel cake.

Jesus, your parents are awful!

It's like watching the news, you are hearing the worst of what's happening not the best. Millions around the country had a lovely day, appreciating the little things .... quietly without the need to post about it 💐❤️

In the past if I bought anything, bar a card. I would have got told off.

Last night at my parents “I would like a chocolate”

Can’t bloody win

@Ilovecleaning the girls in service were released for the day to go back to their Mother Church which would be their home Church and would then, as they would be returning to their home town, most probably spend the day with their mother/family.

@Auburngal 😂

Oh, ok. Thanks. I didn’t know about the Mother Church thing. 😊

sorry what have my parents go to do with this?

yes i am always saying this, mothers day is incredibly hard for many

I don’t know. Have I made an awful mistake? Really sorry. I shall look back and read the posts again.

We can celebrate both

Sincere apologies to Busybee44. I thought I was replying to someone else. 🤦‍♀️