Mothers Day should be banned

[DinnaeFashYersel]

Thread after thread on here with Mothers Day drama and grief

Partners who haven't made any plans
Partners whose plans aren't WOW enough
Mothers v MILs
Mothers v Mothers and MILS
Partner isn't making plans for mother of unborn baby
Blended family dramas
The list goes on and on

Post Mothers Day will have the threads

He forgot
It was rubbish compared to the elaborate day he got for Fathers Day
MIL spoiled it
Etc

Its not worth it. It seems to be make so many people unhappy and angry and we'd be better off without.

YABU: its a cherished and important day, how dare you even ask
YANBU: ban it and save us all from the grief and drama

Full disclosure: I celebrate it to the extent that my kids will serve me tea and (burnt) toast in bed. Otherwise its a normal day. And of course I know it won't actually be banned. Its just a discussion.

I got woken up with cuddles from my two and then they made and served me tea and a bagel ❤️

Can't beat that.

you don’t HAVE to do Mother’s Day ect it’s a choice

I don't like the Valentines, mothers or fathers day especially now with the cost of living. People feel they have to go out of their way. A card if anything is enough, especially a homemade card. There is no need for the pressure

It think it’s a chat with the fam and say let’s just not engage in this tradition

Or maybe people should chill and stop worrying about the type of made-up celebrations like Valentine's Day, Mother's Day that are really just marketing opportunities to sell us more stuff at this stage and stress people out...

You should be judging people on how they treat you all year around, not just on whether they buy you a card and flowers once a year.

The problem is not with mothers day, but with the fact that men and children are in charge. What mother's day needs is a large company run by women who arrange everything in advance of the day.

I'm all for it. Rarely have a lunch out but a lie in and some dafs and chocs,.make me happy. It's nice to spoil our mum's too!

Sorry, I misread your post and thought you were saying the mums on here struggling with MD were being dramatic.

I am one of the posters saying it shouldn’t be banned and that banning it is ridiculous.

It’s a choice at the end of the day you do or you don’t just let fam know your not doing it

This is what I came here to say - manage your expectations and celebrate what you do have.

It’s def got out of hand like every other ‘day’.
I was pleased to get a card from dd at uni. Nothing from ds at uni but I may get a text later if he remembers- bless him! - he’s got a lot in so I’ll let him off.
My own DM has been dead for years, but we never made a big deal of it - I didn’t send her a card until I got to uni myself.

Same as Christmas, Halloween and Valentines Day really. All commercialised crap to make people spend money on things they don’t want or need. And makes those who no longer have their mothers or children feel really low. I love my own mother to pieces, and I’m blessed to still have her in my life, but we don’t go overboard. I’ll ring her later for a chat. I’ll spend bits of the day with any of my children who are around, and some of them will put a bit more effort into make during that they ARE around for an hour, than normal, but I USUALLY spent bits of my days off work with whichever DC are around, and call my own mother for a chat. It’s not that big a deal really.
I’m not the biggest fan of the commercialised American version of any of our religious festivals tbh, and I’m not even religious 😂

In our family dm gets cards and a phone call.
When the dc were little I got the dreaded breakfast in bed. 😂
Both my adult dc have remembered this year and I have cards but this isn’t always the case.
I’ve never been upset not to get a card.

Theres nothing wrong with Mother’s Day it’s the ridiculous expectations that are the problem. If you get a call or a card you’ve been remembered, what more do you need?

I said that in a previous post on this thread too. :-)

My mothers day has resulted in me and DH arguing as I've got up and nothing has been sorted. Dishwasher not been emptied, dirty dishes everywhere. School uniform not washed. Kids tried their best to make me a breakfast which was a disaster.i cannot bear runny eggs and they give me super runny barely cooked eggs with raw tomatoes.so I've check out of mothers day.

Disclaimer usually I would spend all Saturday cleaning, doing washing etc whilst everyone else does their activities but I chose to prioritise myself yesterday and went to the gym and hairdresser. Not had my hair done for over 2 years. Biggest regret of my life.

Mine started the same as every day, YANBU it’s just another day (only one where everyone is expected to waste money on cards and tat).

Yabu. I've enjoyed every mothers day since becoming a mother. Why something that appreciates motherhood?

It’s all about expectations innit? I’m happy with a card or drawing and a cup of tea in bed. Nice to be made a fuss of however small. My husband is with his mother. Which in my mind is right and proper. The kids will do their best to their mother, and he will spend precious time with his. Wish I could still spend time with mine, but I like having another day that focuses my mind on how lucky I was to have her as a Mum. Happy Mother’s Day people of Mumsnet.

Everything is commercialised these days all to get the money in....I don't bother with any of these days ..Xmas, valentine's, mother and fathers day, etc by all means show your love and appreciation to your loved ones every day, but cancel out marking these days out.

Yes my great grandmother was in service from the age of 12 ( in Bala, North Wales) and would come home to Liverpool to see her mother on Mothering Sunday.

I feel it should be banned this year. My own DM died yesterday and I’m💔💔

I dont think it needs to be a drama. I got some cards and some chocs. Box ticked everyone gets on with their day. I wouldn’t be bothered either way tbh.

I'm so sorry ohdear 😔

I’ve had tea and a bagel served to me too, only difference is that I had to wait until 10am as dd is 17 and needs her beauty sleep!!!
cuddles are good whatever age they are though ❤️❤️

Mother's Day has never been a big day in our house but my dm does like a card! I haven't always seen eye to eye with her and she can still be a pain but watching her learn how to give my brother ng feeds, give him morphine and change/ suction his tracheostomy so he can come home from the hospice tomorrow has given me a new respect for her. She is 81 in a few weeks and db is terminally ill with weeks to live. He can't go back to his own house as he lives on his own.