To think DH should have come straight home today?

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DH was working away Tuesday and yesterday and today would have been home for half five but he’s gone to give his mum a Mother’s Day present. Normally it wouldn’t have been a problem but we have an ill and very clingy baby and I feel like he should have come straight back to help. AIBU? (She’s away Sunday.)

You want your DS to ‘provide you’ with a certain type of DIL, aren’t you lovely!

Would he get another chance to see his mum before she goes away though?

No. So maybe I am being an arse. I suppose I just think an ill baby is more important than Mother’s Day.

I do think you are being a bit dramatic. Your DH hasn't been away at war and I'm sure the children won't be psychologically damaged after 4 days. Besides, one is a baby who won't know the difference.

Did he ghave the alternative of you all going on Saturday? If not tonight or tomorrow would have meant a trip to hers. If he's working close by, then it made sense to go tonight.

We can’t go Saturday because of a trip to a vet (don’t ask!) So fair enough.

Another one of these ?? How the fuck do you think single mums manage ??? Why have women become so bloody pathetic 🤦‍♀️

OP are you tired? I think this is a none issue

YABU. Its his mum, there is nothing he can do with your poorly baby than you have already done and he's been away since Tuesday - it's only Thursday.

I'd be more concerned with raising your DSs to understand when their wife has had a few very long days (and doubtless, nights) with a sick baby while they've been (I'm guessing) getting a full night's sleep in a hotel room and plenty of grown up conversation with zero crying.

I'm sorry what ??? What a load of bs !!

She isn't a single mum. Her DH is her partner in life and in parenting and she's been in the trenches for the past few days.

At no point has she said no one has it tougher than her. She's just eager for her partner's support.

OP I remember the feeling with a clingy baby of counting the hours til my ex got home- I don't think you're being VERY unreasonable.... just a tiny bit as a quick mothers day visit justifies you struggling on for just a but longer imo. Make sure you hand baby over and take a break... try and take it cheerfully and milk mothers day for all its worth on Sunday!

There are some seriously spiteful posts on here irrespective of whether I’m unreasonable or not.

Do not scream abuse at me because you are a single parent, it cannot be laid at my door, it does not mean my DH can stay away all week, it is not my fault.

She's not a single mum and I don't think it's a race to see who has it hardest

If he was working close by, of course it makes sense to stop in on his way home.
If he went tomorrow, leaving you with the child again, but the journey taking even longer as he's had to go from home.

Apologies @PinkWaterlily - my response was to @LovelyTheresa who said to send a card to the DM. Its been a long day.

@rainbowsunsgold - My initial response wasn't directed at you. Its been three days. I hope your DC feels better soon.

If him coming home early means his mum doesn’t get her gift then I don’t think he’s being unreasonable. If your baby was seriously unwell yes but he’s working near there and wants to give his mum the gift. It’s not great for you but one of those thing need to suck up.

Yabu op. Surely you can watch the baby alone so he can see his own mother to give her a mother's day card.

What else do you think I’m going to do? I haven’t really been given an option, have I!

She's been alone with a baby who is ill and clingy for 3 days. She needs a break. The man needs to parent his child and support the other mother in his life

Just raising my DSs with a healthy consideration for all family members here.

I find it very sad that there’s so much conflict between family members who you’d hope would love one another. Will you be going to see your mum over the weekend?

It’s very hard with a poorly baby and another child, but I think it’s good that your DH cares about seeing his mum.

But you're moaning about it and asking on AIBU. So I commented on your post. And now you're moaning about that?! OK then....

You're right, it is. Is her husband a parent?