To think DH should have come straight home today?

[rainbowsunsgold]

DH was working away Tuesday and yesterday and today would have been home for half five but he’s gone to give his mum a Mother’s Day present. Normally it wouldn’t have been a problem but we have an ill and very clingy baby and I feel like he should have come straight back to help. AIBU? (She’s away Sunday.)

I honestly don't know why you've had such a bashing on here @rainbowsunsgold
You've had the kids on your own, one of which has been sick. I imagine you're absolutely bloody exhausted!

You said your DH could have left work at 3pm but chose to stay until 4pm.
He forgot to post his mum's card, so clearly wasn't intending to see her for Mother's Day, especially as his mum isn't even around on Sunday.

I can kind of understand the logic of dropping the card round as he was working near there but a quick, 'Hi mum. Really sorry I can't stop but Rainbow has had a rough few days and I really want to get back to give her a break. We'll catch up properly soon.' If he'd left work at 3pm and delivered his mum's card, he could have been home way earlier to give you a break.

I'm thinking this is deeper than that though. He's never done a night feed. He seemingly doesn't know how to put a washing load on or clean up a bit.
I'll hazard a guess that this is the top of the iceberg.

I really hope your little one is feeling better and your 'D'H steps up.

I have spent months in zombie mode with non sleeping babies. There was no housework, or very little. There was a LOT of mumsnet. Sitting on my sofa with one hand free, or up all night, having those words to focus on to keep me awake when I didn’t have enough hands or brain cells to focus on a book was lifesaving. Someone who thinks someone with a sick baby shouldn’t have any time for mumsnet must have no imagination and to be honest pretty limited capacity for thought full stop.