To think my DH should have eaten the dinner I cooked

[Rosebyanothername19]

I wfh full time and have to juggle picking up DC and taking to after school clubs etc. So don't have a huge amount of time for shopping/cooking delicious home made meals from scratch.

I managed to do a quick weekly shop the other day but was running out of ideas for dinners and grabbed a packet of something on offer that you just chuck all the ingredients in a bag and cook so it's nice and easy to prep and I can leave cooking while I do other stuff. We have had a couple in the past and my DH has said he didn't really like them, but this was was more Italian based which we eat a lot of so hoped it would be OK.

So tonight he sits down to dinner and just pulled a face and said I'm not eating this. I'll just make a sandwich. This caused my DC to say I don't want it either!

I managed to convince my DC to eat it and they enjoyed it, but my DH just sat there with a full plate and a face on.

I've gone to take DC to bed and he has gone to the shop to buy a pizza.

AIBU: I shouldn't have cooked it if there was a chance he wouldn't like it, forcing him to get his own dinner

Or

NBU: He should have eaten it and said maybe don't get that again?

children should never be eating that volume of salt.

Exactly how much salt do you think is in it? You're bonkers. Assuming they're not babies it's fine as a one off.

Wow!!

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@Willyoujust OP doesn't need good little woman advice she needs a decent DH with a better attitude.

What is the matter with people who always minimise the real issue and give advice on how to keep a man child happy. It doesn't matter if the OP served up gruel, she's the one who cooked dinner and is soley relied on to do so....it's not acceptable and the least he can do is not be an AH if he doesn't fancy what she's plated up. It's not that he didn't eat it even, it's the drama he's made and the bad example he's set for his child. What is it with people (worse when it's a woman) who think because a man "works hard" he gets a maid not a mate.

I’m not giving her advice on how to keep a man child happy. She said she struggles with finding the time to cook healthy meals from scratch so I suggested a slow cooker incase she hadn’t considered it. You need to calm down 😂

@Willyoujust I'm calm 😂. I think she's probably heard of a slow cooker, hardly life hack of the year. She's explaining why she picked something she thought would be convenient not asking for you help. It's not titled "what can I do to be more efficient with cooking healthy meals for my DH?"

After 4 kids, I’m so sick of meal planning and cooking for 6 - not every night is going to be gourmet night. My DH sometimes gets ready meals when it’s his turn, which I don’t like, but frankly I’m just grateful someone else is doing the cooking so I’ll eat them!

Yeah, this is it; I mean, it's not like she served up something actively offensive, or even particularly strongly flavoured, which I could understand a bit more. At worst it might be a bit bland perhaps?

Every message I read at the moment makes me glad to be single. I had the opposite when I lived with my ex, he was the most amazing cook and refused to let me do anything in the kitchen - if I so much as cooked a piece of salmon he’d criticise me for how well or not well it was cooked so I gave up trying.

It would then take hours though for him to cook so we’d eat at 10pm every night - and in the meantime I’d be bored out of my brains watching rubbish TV and starving hungry by the time he served up. I tried to talk to him but no compromise was made. I’d suggest the OP comes up with a plan - maybe they meal plan together, one person buys ingredients together and the other person cooks.

Now I am on my own, I take joy in cooking simple meals and if they’re not all a huge hit with my daughter then she doesn’t starve as can always add some plain pasta or rice maybe with some chopped tomatoes and some broccoli or something for her.

What bothers me for the OP is that she is taking on all the load and then he is still being ungrateful. It’s not okay to refuse to wash up/load dishwasher because the meal wasn’t to his liking. Two wrongs don’t make a right and not all of us have endless inspiration when it comes to cooking! X

My DH is an incredibly fussy eater, it’s ridiculous. But I asked him to be mindful of any comments he makes as I don’t want his fussiness to influence the children. I don’t think it’s a lot to ask someone to try it or at least be subtle about how they reject it.

I've done chicken /meat in a bag before with herbs etx

Cooks it really moist /falls off the bone

Tho guessing if add veggies in bag as well are they very soft and squishy ?

So not as nice ?

Yes if he doesn't like then u feet and why he didn't eat it

But was rude about it

And needs to cook some evenings his self

😂😂😂

@Rosebyanothername19 Can you please do me a favour and start a new post with exactly the same text but with your and your DH’s roles reversed (he’s the one cooking and you are the one sulking about the dinner) and then ask if you’ve been unreasonable?
I would be incredibly curious how that thread would evolve…

Please let us know if you did.

Exactly. It’s not that he didn’t like it, that’s fair enough. It’s the way he behaved and his childish response (though most children know to be more polite than that). Grim. Selfish. Mean.
He should cook his own meal next time ungrateful arsehole

So you do all the chores because you work from home yet he also works from home, 5pm onwards, and all he does is just clear up after dinner but only when he's not in a mood?🤨
I love the way he 'works' during dinner prep and then 'works' again during bedtimes. I'm not getting a 50/50 vibe here.

Hmmmm I think you took a risk knowing he might not have liked it. However he also made the wrong decision by mouthing in front of his child.

My family are meat eaters, I am not. Generally everyone eats vegetarian. However from time to time my husband will ask for some meat to be added to the online shop so that he can batch some meals and freeze. We usually do one or two left over nights a week and we all eat something we want. My husband accepts that I buy and meal plan and although I take into account everyone's preferences I don't get it 100% right which is ok. He would not have the nerve to criticise in front of the kids.

Cheeky sod!

I would have put the whole lot in the bin and told them to sort themselves out in future.

Next time you wfh I’d be tempted to tell DH to sort dinner himself and I’d kick back with a nice glass of Chardonnay.

He also would be getting any slap and tickle from me for a while.

But she is complaining he did not like a meal she cooked him that she suspected he would not like. And I am suggesting that her work-life balance perhaps needs tweaking, which could include DH taking some of the load, after all. Why does everyone have to put jobs first? We work to live, not the other way round, surely?

Cats and pigeons. DH is a boor and should have eaten his food or said he wasn't hungry. OP seems to do all the housework. On consideration, perhaps DH might like to cook. If not, then put up and shut up. But the work/life balance seems a bit out esp if one person is doing all the household running.

This. Are you sure he is actually working and not just gaming and checking out for a nice rest.

I mean, DH could've handled it more respectfully but by your own admission you knew he wasn't keen on that type of food and bought it anyway.

The way around this is to agree a meal plan in advance and if it's practical to share the cooking / prep so you're both happy. It's frustrating when you make a meal and get that reaction I get that, but if you're in charge of the cooking it's not unreasonable to choose things you all like.

Another poster making more of how op should prevent her DH from being an AH. No opinions on his little party piece in front of his child? Or that he's too lazy to make dinner of his own preference. Just that she really should cater better to the likes and dislikes of her DH to avoid the disrespect. I hope people don't teach their daughters this rubbish. My DH would never do this, our children are watching and learning.

I literally suggested sharing the cooking, it's what we do but I tend to cook more as I'm generally home more and can see no reason to cook food I know my partner doesn't like. I don't think that's unreasonable. My son is more interested in cooking than my daughter so jog on with your nonsense.

So the one doing all the cooking never gets to eat what they want? Does that seem fair to you?
A grown man doesn't need to ushered into the kitchen if he wants to cook, he knows where it is. Otherwise he can be grateful for the meal, even if it's not always his favorite. My God.