To think my DH should have eaten the dinner I cooked

[Rosebyanothername19]

I wfh full time and have to juggle picking up DC and taking to after school clubs etc. So don't have a huge amount of time for shopping/cooking delicious home made meals from scratch.

I managed to do a quick weekly shop the other day but was running out of ideas for dinners and grabbed a packet of something on offer that you just chuck all the ingredients in a bag and cook so it's nice and easy to prep and I can leave cooking while I do other stuff. We have had a couple in the past and my DH has said he didn't really like them, but this was was more Italian based which we eat a lot of so hoped it would be OK.

So tonight he sits down to dinner and just pulled a face and said I'm not eating this. I'll just make a sandwich. This caused my DC to say I don't want it either!

I managed to convince my DC to eat it and they enjoyed it, but my DH just sat there with a full plate and a face on.

I've gone to take DC to bed and he has gone to the shop to buy a pizza.

AIBU: I shouldn't have cooked it if there was a chance he wouldn't like it, forcing him to get his own dinner

Or

NBU: He should have eaten it and said maybe don't get that again?

Probably you would need a penis, but these days it’s nobody’s business what’s in your pants so you can just claim to have one and nobody will check.

He doesn’t need to eat it. But he could have said it in private, not in front of the children.
Imagine if it was the other way around: he cools and she says I’m not eating it….

I’m more concerned as to why you work full time AND do all the cooking AND put DC to bed…… does he help at all?? EVER??

I love where this is going…..😂

The more I read suggestions that add even more to OP’s load – an eight-week meal plan! – the more I think she should serve food in a bag every single night. Fuck it, do breakfast and lunch, too: put the cereal bag in DH’s bowl. Give everyone soup in a bowl but DH gets his in a Sainsbo’s bag for life. Cash in your pension, liquidate your assets, create a food-in-bag budget and it’s ALL you’ll cook. What’s for pudding? Custard in a bag. Pour his beer into bags. Hide his toothbrush in a bag. Look him dead in the eye and deny all knowledge of where he left his car keys (they’re in a bag). Bag him to death.

Do you also warm your husband's slippers and greet him at the door with a martini?

He needs to grow up.

A martini? No, a menu surely? A man cannot be expected to drink any old drink.

Hell of a lot of assumptions you just made there

I would not eat that and would be a bit annoyed you'd bought the brand I don’t like - but I'd try not to be a brat about it

They had something 'similar' in method but with different ingredients/flavours: Italian, which he likes, so she thought it'd be OK.

Got rid of mine for being useless.
I wasn’t commenting on anything else, I made one point. I disagree with the fact that he should have just eaten it, there’s a chasm load of jumping to assumptions going on about the rest of what I think.

Then tuck him in Bed and sing a lullaby.

Ooor: Ask him to cook you the kind of dinner he’d like to have. It will be good fun for everyone.

Should he be outraged by the suggestion, gently point him towards the fact that you are just the same kind of person as him. The fact that you have a uterus, helps in making children but its utterly useless for cooking.

He's being a dick by drawing attention to the fact he doesn't like it in front of his kids. As a parent he should model apropriate behaviour by showing some gratitude Not surprising that the kids then copy his behaviour. An adult should adapt to the situation and eat what is available especially when time for preparation is limited. Sounds like he has the taste buds of a five year old. Pathetic behaviour.

Nope, it's right there in the OP. Did you read it?

I wfh full time and have to juggle picking up DC and taking to after school clubs etc. So don't have a huge amount of time for shopping/cooking delicious home made meals from scratch.

And later

I just struggle fitting in my full time job around everything and being expected to do the house chores on top because I'm at home rather than out in an office.

Don’t give him food next time or he can cook for the family.

if you don’t like something I agree don’t force yourself to eat it but to refuse to even try is completely rude.

That rather sounds like a choice to opt out of doing his fair share at home imo

He is not being fair in the division of labour at home.

He was acting like a child and I would have told him so. He needs to start planning, writing a shopping list and cooking. It may not have been a favourite of his but as an adult he should have just eaten it, as you'd expect your children to. I expect the pizza takeaway will become a regular for him, you're the excuse.

I’d never force and adult to do something they didn’t want to do.

Who said anything about forcing anyone to eat something?

The question was, should a grown man, have a bit more respect for his wife, who works full time, does all the parenting, shopping, cooking and cleaning by at least tasting the dinner she’s cooked before making a face, refusing to eat it and then refusing to help tidy up afterwards?

Threads like this remind me why I'm happier being single.

If someone behaved in such a rude, ungrateful and disrespectful way towards me, I'd be utterly dismayed.

Especially if I was also expected to do all the domestic chores and childcare every day.

It would be unbearable to live with someone who thought that kind of selfish laziness was okay.

I know I'm derailing but how do you cook a meal in a bag? Is it a plastic bag or a foil bag? I'm up for that if it means not having to wash pans.

The only thing I've ever cooked in a bag is microwave popcorn and I alway scorch the middle 😳

He had time to go to the shop to buy a pizza and then cook it but somehow couldn't think to do that for all of you?

He’d already told you he didn’t like yhem

what did you expect

Yeah, well in that case he could say: “Oh honey you know I didn’t like these, did you forget about that?”
So that they can have an adult conversation about what exactly he didn’t like.

Having said that once already doesn’t exactly buy him permission to sulk. Nothing actually does…