To think my DH should have eaten the dinner I cooked

[Rosebyanothername19]

I wfh full time and have to juggle picking up DC and taking to after school clubs etc. So don't have a huge amount of time for shopping/cooking delicious home made meals from scratch.

I managed to do a quick weekly shop the other day but was running out of ideas for dinners and grabbed a packet of something on offer that you just chuck all the ingredients in a bag and cook so it's nice and easy to prep and I can leave cooking while I do other stuff. We have had a couple in the past and my DH has said he didn't really like them, but this was was more Italian based which we eat a lot of so hoped it would be OK.

So tonight he sits down to dinner and just pulled a face and said I'm not eating this. I'll just make a sandwich. This caused my DC to say I don't want it either!

I managed to convince my DC to eat it and they enjoyed it, but my DH just sat there with a full plate and a face on.

I've gone to take DC to bed and he has gone to the shop to buy a pizza.

AIBU: I shouldn't have cooked it if there was a chance he wouldn't like it, forcing him to get his own dinner

Or

NBU: He should have eaten it and said maybe don't get that again?

And grow a pair (since the conversation is now all about his xxx)

I do agree to an extent. But I don’t think children should be forced to eat food they don’t like either. He handled it really badly though.

Yeah, well in that case he could say:“Oh honey you know I didn’t like these, did you forget about that?”

Good idea. She can reply “Oh sweetie pie, you know that I work full time, pick the kids up from school, take them to clubs, do the shopping, clean the house and cook the dinner. Did you forget about that?”

😂 That’s good. One of the kids being him I suppose…
well quite obviously so

she might as well offer to change his nappy

I don't know why some people seem to think it is ok for children to be forced to eat but not adults. Adults typically have 1/3 of the taste buds of young children, so can often gulp down food that they don't particularly enjoy but that children would find intolerable. I'd be much more tolerant of a child not wanting even to try something than an adult.

Its not about the children eating the food.
For all I care (and so should the OP) nobody needs to eat the food.
I don’t like that OP was told off in front of the children and the manchild has been pulling faces and ruined the mood at dinner.
Whatever “terrible” offence happened, he should have handled himself better.
@Rosebyanothername19 are you sure it’s about the food? Or is he (still not an excuse) taking something else out in you?

I just don’t see how anyone can sulk about food.
As for not eating the food: I haven’t ever seen anyone starve to death with a full plate in front of them, so I don’t see any problem here.

f they say @Rosebyanothername19 is not a good enough cook: great! Win-win!
As a bonus, show him how bad you are at the washing up too 😉

Oh gosh the how dare you upset your husband brigade are out again. It's fine to not like something but to be disrespectful and childish over it in front of DC is not on. How can he expect your DC to try new foods, have table manners and respect for you if he behaves like that in front of them. If he wants to starve or go off in a huff and buy a pizza, fine but don't make a drama of it. He's an adult needs to behave like one x

If my partner (who is ‘chef’ in our house) served me a meal I’d told him previously I didn’t like, I wouldn’t eat it. I strongly dislike seafood; if he served me seafood saying it’s all he could get, I’d leave it. He knows I don’t like it. Why should I eat it?

That’s not what happened though. They are flavours from around the world and this one was Italian. We eat a lot of Italian food so I thought it would be OK. she didn’t realise that what he objected to was the cook in a bag type meal. What you have here is an entitled selfish man whose wife works and brings in a salary and also does everything for their kids and the house, he doesn’t even turn up for them. He leaves early, comes home for dinner and then works more, has the nerve to expect her to do all that and then also to really concentrate on home cooked meals he will enjoy, and if she doesn’t he is rude to her in front of their children, sulks and he won’t wash the dishes, his one contribution. I hope finances are extremely open and shared or the op should just get rid instead of telling him that was the last fucking dinner she ever cooks him or shirt she washes for him.

I would have told him he can cook his own dinner in future, you work hard to do a food shop and cook dinner and he acts like a baby and not even try it?!

Just a spoon full of…..

Does he ever cook dinner?

Maybe EH should either do the shop or cook the dinner. You are not the maid !

He didn’t even try it? Congratulations you have another child!!!

He’s pathetic.

I’m fed up of being the only one to think of meals, and do a food shop for everyone (mostly the thinking of meals) and I don’t work, so I really feel for you! He can get his finger out and help out.

Definitely another child.

Shocking how many women here think it's totally ok for the hubby to be such a manbaby. Nobody was forced to eat. DC liked the food once tried. Hubby didn't even try. Yet he made an unnecessary scene making it more difficult to get the DC eat.

This is exactly why we have a global malnutrition/obesity problem. People no longer recognise the value of healthy home-cooked meals but demand comfort food/junk food in every turn. He could have fixed himself something healthy to show example to the child but rather made it clear pizza is the solution.

You can be discreet and polite even when you don't want/can't eat a meal someone's prepared.
Also it's hubby's turn to cook more often.

I’ve noted YABU purely because I know how much salt those things have in them.

It was a bag meal. They are a major contributory factor in terms of obesity and poor health. Loaded with salt and other nasties.

It was not a ready meal
It was not a ' boil in the bag ' meal

it cooks in the oven

I am guessing it is this one, altho there is an Italian herbs one too.

copied from the website:

Maggi So Juicy Italian Chicken is inspired by Italian ingredients,

this packet provides the effortless way to give chicken an rich Italian flavour with no mess or stress.
The special cooking bag enables the chicken to cook in its own juice meaning there is no need to add oil or sauce.

The result is a deliciously rich Italian Chicken dish that the whole family will love.

This So Juicy packet contains an Italian Chicken recipe mix along with a special cooking bag that helps lock in all the juices so there is no need to add oil.
Free from artificial colours, flavours or preservatives, no added MSG and no hydrogenated vegetable oil.

Directions:
Each packet contains a delicious Italian Chicken recipe mix of tomato, garlic, basil and oregano along with a special cooking bag.

Fresh ingredients you will need to add to your shopping list: 4 chicken breasts, 1 courgette, 1 red pepper and a tin of chopped tomatoes (230g).

Following the instructions on the packet, just add the chicken, ingredients and Maggi So Juicy Italian Chicken recipe mix to the special cooking bag provided, mix it together and cook it in the oven.

Maybe the previous times the OP purchased such a mix she chose the butter chicken or the bbq or the mexican etc.

So what exactly was it that caused the husband to act like a 2 year old ?
the chicken
the sauce
the flavour
the red peppers

the couscous
the cooking method
the length of cooking time
Cook for 35-40 minutes (53-60 minutes for 8 x chicken drumsticks). Remove the oven leave to stand for 2-3 minutes before opening the steam will be very hot. Ensure that the chicken is fully cooked through and piping hot.

Was the OP not stood in the kitchen for long enough cooking ?

And no he didn't make himself a sandwich, like he said he would do
he went out and bought pizza **

It's literally just seasoned chicken and vegetables. Let's not discourage people from eating that please. You're talking nonsense.

Again, the salt and other nasties in pre prepared seasonings is really high. Let’s not kid people please.

This for example - that is too much salt for a child.

https://www.tesco.com/groceries/en-GB/products/305738179

They’re rotten though. Taste absolutely vile. Probably full of chemicals from being cooked in a plastic bag too. No one in my house likes them and I did try a few different varieties over the years for convenience but nah all vile. I think the whole texture changes when cooked in those bag things. My heart would sink if someone played that up for me and expected me to eat it.

What are the other "nasties" you're referring to?

same here.

He didn’t want it so let it go. It’s okay that he didn’t want to eat the meal and it’s not worth losing sleep over. You two should probably have a discussion about meal planning though so it’s not always on you to figure out.