Anyone else not make a song and dance about Mothers Day

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The drama this Hallmark Day (yes, I know its origins) creates on Mumsnet every year bemuses me and I don't know anyone in RL who demands such a fuss.

My mum is long dead but I'll remind DH to send his mum some flowers. DD will be working but will drop by the day before with some flowers. If she didn't I wouldn't mind cos I don't need a gesture to show she thinks I'm an awesome mum.

Anyone else not want a Mother's Day afternoon tea or a spa day? Won't be sulking if they don't get breakfast in bed or their husband wants to see his mum?

I'm on the same page as you OP. I love my grown up kids and they love me. Great to see them but no sweat if they can't. 2 have kids of their own and I want their Mums to enjoy their day! My sons help them do that.

We don't make a fuss and my mother is sadly no longer with us x

Don't make the mistake of believing that all MIL are evil, all DH are bastards and Mother's day is a commercial nightmare... because of a few posts on here.

I'm very fond of my MIL and have a great husband and don't think all men are arseholes - quite the opposite.

Most of us are just quietly enjoying the day as we please, as should you.

Will do - however, I'm talking about those on MN who make a big song and dance about MD rather than those of us who are chilled or indifferent to it.

You think it’s all an over egged drama yet you have to remind your husband to send something to his own mother? What would happen if you didn’t remind him?

He'd probably remember at the last minute. Me reminding him at the beginning of the week helps him out.

Oh for gods sake just eff off. Why do you think you're in some way superior for not wanting to celebrate? That's a genuine question. What exactly is it that gives you the kick? Just so you can go around making a "song and dance" about NOT celebrating and how pious and frugal that makes you? Why start a whole thread on it. What an absolute sad case.

Crikey @supercalafragilisticexpealidocious you've got a whole suitcase of issues you need to unpack there. I'll let you get on with it ...

Another day.. everything has become commercialised

Nope. My OP was quite clear.

I have reminded my husband to send his mother something in time but I am not asking if he has sorted something. I need to sort my own mother out but as I am on SMP so that is another thing.

In my family you do something to help your mother. So it could be cleaning the kitchen/doing a whole load of ironing

DH always gets flowers on behalf of DD or something which is nice but tbh I’m not fussed about mothers day. I am tempted to draw up a shopping list for them this year though, I’ve had a hard week

I hope Sunday is ok for you
Sorry about your mum, it's crap isn't it. Don't go on social media on the day, and don't go somewhere where there will be lots of mums. It'll be ok.

For me, it’s about spending quality time with my daughter. I organise a mummy and daughter adventure day for my daughter and I. My partner knows if he is going to do a card, I would like him to help her make one (not buy one) and there are plenty of supplies in the house.

A lie in, not cooking dinner and the only night of the year I don’t do bedtime are the only things I ask of the day aside from that.

We just all join together and cook a roast lunch. I am a daughter and a mother so don't see it as my 'right' to be waited on .. they buy me some daffs and we have a lovely family day with kids who are normally scattered around the country.

Sending hugs.
It's tough isn't? Hope you feel better today,

Me. I think it's totally ridiculous. It's my first Mother's Day without my mother this year but the day is totally unimportant to me. My DS lives over 200 miles from me. He may remember, he may not. I'm not concerned. I won't be asking DH to do anything, I'm not his mother.

Because it's a day invented by Hallmark cards

I feel sad that my 3 adult children aren’t doing anything with me but I won’t tell them. My dogs will hang out with me as normal, they think I’m the most fun ever.

Because it's a day invented by Hallmark cards

Except it isn't ....

Same old rubbish trotted out "commercialised tat" "appreciating mum any other day" blah blah.

It is, believe it or not, possible to appreciate your mum every day of the year but also give her a card and/or a small present on Mothers Day.

It also not that difficult to buy something that is not "commercialised tat".

This is why it becomes a big deal for people- when a lie in, not making dinner or doing bedtime becomes something special to be looked forward to instead of a normal part of life.

Why do you only get those things in your last paragraph on mothers day though?

I took from the original poster that a big deal is flowers, card, meal out, gifts, plans for the day etc. mostly organised and paid for by a partner/husband as a lot of children are too young. I’m not too sure what you mean by your post?

I wouldn’t say everything’s 50:50 in our house as we’ve evolved and adapted over the years around our lives and there’s some work to be done still but we do have a fairly even split on cooking, childcare and lie ins. But to me, Mothers Day is one day a year I can just go out and have fun without having to do my share of those tasks for one day. My partner takes on the share of things I would do that day alongside what he would do

It’s nice in the sense we some family stuff but it’s become so OTT it irritates me and is mostly just people showing off on social media. DH is pretty blase about Father’s Day but then in general that’s a smaller thing, he just uses it as an excuse for bbq.

🙋🏻‍♀️ Putting hand up and owning up to being a fuss making, song and dance person! I celebrate everything. Mother's day is important to me.

I am a mum of 3, but two died at birth. My living DS is my pride and joy and the whole world to me, he kept me going through the immense trauma of losing his siblings and I celebrate that I have him, miracle that he is!

I've ordered myself some presents. We've decided to go out to eat at the weekend and DH and DC will probably go and choose me a bath bomb and a bunch of flowers at the same time. They'll make and write me a card . This is more than enough and I would be grateful if it was "just" the card with thought and love in it.

I've booked to go to a show with my sister and mum for later in the year (we'll give her that on Sunday). We're having Sunday tea as an extended family as usual and will do flowers and champagne. We'll have been to church in the morning.

We've had a horrendous few years with one thing and another, I'll wave my flag for the song and dance fuss pots who love a reason to celebrate even the little things. Life is difficult enough, let me have my daffodils 😁🌷

Nobody says that they don't appreciate their Mum on other days 🙄

🙋🙋🙋🙋🙋. Well said!! Hope you have a the fantastic day that you deserve ❤️.