Anyone else not make a song and dance about Mothers Day

[TheSparkofCreation]

The drama this Hallmark Day (yes, I know its origins) creates on Mumsnet every year bemuses me and I don't know anyone in RL who demands such a fuss.

My mum is long dead but I'll remind DH to send his mum some flowers. DD will be working but will drop by the day before with some flowers. If she didn't I wouldn't mind cos I don't need a gesture to show she thinks I'm an awesome mum.

Anyone else not want a Mother's Day afternoon tea or a spa day? Won't be sulking if they don't get breakfast in bed or their husband wants to see his mum?

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😂 ‘paraded into a restaurant’!! I’m going out with my MIL, FIL, husband, child, who gets to parade who? Does my husband parade me, or his mother? Does my toddler lead me in the parade, or should my MIL go first.

I have never been paraded before despite having visited a lot of restaurants. Should I wear a hat, maybe a carnival style costume? How exciting!

I didn't even realise it was this Sunday, I'm so not bothered by it.

It does sound fun @Revelatio! I’m going to go a step further with my parade and have an actual float I think.

I'm up for this! Let's turn it into an actual carnival!

Millie890, I was joking. I love a birthday or a mother's day or any other day of celebration. Makes life more fun and I am looking forward to sunday!

I love it, but then I love any reason to celebrate and to show people that I appreciate them. I’ve just been to buy my MIL’s present, DH can choose a nice card. No she’s not my mum, but after being with DH for so many years, she feels like one. I’ve invited both my mum and his for a roast on Sunday, and the kids have been excitedly making cards. Not expecting anything more than a bunch of daffs and a hug, but DH is very thoughtful so will probably have a couple of surprises for me, but don’t mind if he hasn’t!

Never really bothered very much about it here.

I often do get cards from my DDs, which is nice, but I'm not about to get all offended and sulk if it doesn't happen. I've certainly never wanted breakfast in bed and would really rather get up and make my own so that it is done my way.

I'll be on my regular monthly visit to my elderly mother this weekend and I will take a card with me. We'll have a meal in a café on Saturday when we go out to do her shopping.

I said to ds1 not to bother with sunday as we are seeing him this friday

he said it depends on whether he has my card 😀 if he has bought it by Friday then he’ll give it to me

and if he hasn’t bought it by friday I will be seeing him on Sunday

Why thank you @Revelatio I'll spend Sunday exactly as I please. And comment on how others will be spending it. What with this being a chat forum!

God I like Mother's Day. Didn't realise this was bad.

Well now you know that makes you a terrible person you can adjust your thinking.

I love it. Looking forward to our roast cooked by DH with the parents and DS then the local for a couple wines.

Never make much of a fuss. I liked it when DCs were little and made me cards. Eldest usually bothers to buy me some chocolate. My and DH's Mums are both dead so no visiting.
We might go out for breakfast, if DH's van passes it's MOT on Saturday.

I don't do most 'Hallmark' stuff though and most years we forget our anniversary (not this year, I've actually booked things).

Me too!

We spend most Sundays with our friends anyway but for special occasions we make more of an effort and it's always loads of fun. I'm particularly looking forward to Sunday as my friend's husband has booked us into our favourite place for lunch.

Any excuse for a celebration 🥳

Me. I've said to dh the school made card is enough and maybe help ds buy me a small bunch of flowers or something if he wants to. Or supervise making me a coffee on Sunday morning! I've sent my dm a card. Usually send a gift or flowers but feeling low key this year all round

Me. My daughter is going to cook me a lovely meal, but I've told her that's all I want.

I don’t know anyone who ‘demands a fuss’ - most of the mothers I know are happy with just a card.

Finding it hard this year as first Mothers' Day after my DM died last year. All the chat today at work has been what they're all doing on Sunday so feeling a bit rubbish tbh

We don't make a huge amount of fuss, but will use it as an excuse to get the family together for a buffet (my turn to host this year!)

I've never taken any notice of it - partly because it's commercial bullshit, partly because my mother always hated it. My oxygen-thief father and brother would make a half-hearted fuss (flowers etc) on Mother's Day and completely ignore or "forget" her birthday.

Mercifully I'm not in the position of having anyone push it on me, being childfree!

I dont do MD.

commercialised tat, etc

how about appreciating mum any other day? Certainly means more to me.

Its possible to do both.

I have 3 adult children. Dd always buys something lovely and puts a lot of thought into it even though I've said not to but she is a genuinely thoughtful person so it makes her happy. Ds1 will not bother, as a pp mentioned he has mh issues and won 't know or care either way. DS2 will throw a card and flowers at me when he realises. I'm happy whatever happens as I know I am always appreciated except by ds1 who can't help how he is.

As if anyone who enjoys it actively treats each terribly every other day of the year.

Going by the endless threads on here and a lot of people I know in real life an awful lot of women are treated terribly most of the time.

Expected to do everything house and children wise, expected to do all extended family stuff, expected to put their blokes job, convenience and desires before their own, expected to do all the night wakings and the school runs as well as work full time etc etc.

It’s easy to see why Mothering Sunday takes on an inflated importance to these women, and equally why women who feel valued, loved, appreciated and respected by their families in general might be a lot less bothered.