Anyone else not make a song and dance about Mothers Day

[TheSparkofCreation]

The drama this Hallmark Day (yes, I know its origins) creates on Mumsnet every year bemuses me and I don't know anyone in RL who demands such a fuss.

My mum is long dead but I'll remind DH to send his mum some flowers. DD will be working but will drop by the day before with some flowers. If she didn't I wouldn't mind cos I don't need a gesture to show she thinks I'm an awesome mum.

Anyone else not want a Mother's Day afternoon tea or a spa day? Won't be sulking if they don't get breakfast in bed or their husband wants to see his mum?

Me. Cards made at school, I post one to my mum, bunch of daffodils from church, job done.

The hamd-wringing and expectations on here are alien to me.

Never a huge deal in our family. I send my Mum a card and a text. My own children get me a card and make me breakfast, we also have a rule that on birthdays/Mother/Fathers Day that you don't have to do any household chores. DH may pop in and see his Mum with a card. When I was growing up my parents didn't do anything for Mother/Fathers Day; it feels like it's become more of a thing in recent years.

I agree.

I am actually find the thread hilarious with so many posters making a song and dance about not celebrating it, not giving their mum anything, not wanting anything from their own children.

So many posters desperate to tell us all that they and/or their children show love all year round so don't need one day to show it. Valentines Day is another time we get all the "we don't need to be told when to show love" posts.

Everyone I know celebrates it with a card, present and maybe lunch out. My mum died 2 years ago but before that me and my siblings would always get her a card each, some flowers and probably other presents and go out for lunch with her.

My siblings have children and they always visit their mum, give a card and present and go out in the evening for a meal.

I really don't think the attitudes on here reflect the country. If it did card shops would not be packed with people buying Mothers Day cards would they?

My children will do a card and I'm happy with that because it's from them.

I dont need dad to celebrate me with spas and lunches.

I think if you get treated well throughout the year then The Day doesnt need celebrating with gifts.

Mothers' Day has never been a thing that I've bothered about.

I think it depends on what you like though. I like being at home and not being the centre of attention. I get a coffee and lie in most weeks. We go out for food quite a lot and we go out as a family once a week and spend lots of time together playing games and movie nights. Were very close. I couldnt think of anything worse than being paraded into a restaurant so everyone can see how thoughtful my husband has been to book something.

But I can absolutely appreciate that parents of older children that they dont see as much might want to make time to go out together. And that a gift might be a nice gesture from a child that is proud to be earning their own money. Or a bit of effort from dad for a mum that carries the load.

Perhaps it depends on the stage if life or family set up?

I’m not sure it even really existed when I was a child. It definitely wasn’t a big thing in our house. I’m separated from exH but he usually reminds our children and messages me and I usually reply that I’m thankful to him for our 2 children. I have no expectations of it, I simply consider myself incredibly blessed to be a mother.

I know people who have been estranged for their dc for years because of a late MD card.

My adult DH generally send flowers, chocolate and wine, which is lovely of them, but in a way I wish they wouldn't, as I don't want them to feel obliged.

I remember the sheer panic when DH and I suddenly realised it was Mothering Sunday and we had to get something sorted for our three Mothers, or else they would go into a decline…

Yes. On Sunday, this board will be full of wailing and gnashing of teeth threads by mothers with useless husbands, useless kids or because their ridiculous expectations that they didn’t communicate to anyone weren’t fulfilled.

Hate all forced displays of appreciation and my kids know that I don't need a big fuss, just like a message or chat. I'll see my kids at some point in the next few weeks, I know how they feel about me. I don't want the pressure of anything performative but love reading their cards when we get together.

I've just rang my Mum and invited her and my Dad for Sunday dinner. My DH will cook. I'll get her card and small present. I'm looking forward to it and DS and Niece will there too.

My DM is long gone but I always tell my DSs that I'm their Mum every day so I don't need acknowledgement
Having said that DS2 has booked a meal for me to meet his new GF this weekend

Yeah, birthdays can do one as well

I love a bit of effort on Mothers Day. We usually have a meal with my mum and MIL on the day that none of us have cooked and my kids get me gifts. Nothing extravagant, a dressing gown or some slippers. Shock horror I know, but my oldest DD has arranged an Afternoon Tea for another day and I can’t wait! We make an effort to show love and appreciation all year round but I also enjoy Mother’s Day, it’s not an either / or situation.
OP, you do you but don’t judge others who do it their way.

😂😂😂😂😂😂! What a sad life

My mum died when I was a child and all the other mother figures in life have also died, so I will visit the cemetery at some point this week. My DH only posted a card to his mum abroad today as he forgot, he doesn't get her a gift. But all 3 of my DC are coming over on Sunday for dinner, my DH wanted to cook or get a takeaway, but I want to cook something lovely for my DC, as having them all home at the same time is rare. I usually receive gifts of flowers etc, but tbh, just having them home fills my heart, I always say the greatest gift is their presence, cringe I know, but I have one friend who used to give her DH a gift list when their DC were small, I thought that was awful, I used to love the homemade gifts when mine were little, and the carefully prepared ( sometimes unsupervised !!. ) breakfast in bed.

Im sorry its forced thats a bit crap.
Our celebrations are neither forced or performative.
Its lovely.

This!!!!
My god this thread. All the competitive "I don't need a Mothers Day card because our family are so superior and celebrate having each other every day. We don't NEED a day to be told to celebrate" As if anyone who enjoys it actively treats each terribly every other day of the year. I'm sure a few genuinely aren't fussed but definitely some people who sound like they're trying to convince themselves!

I love Mother's Day (and Father's Day and Valentines and Pancake Day and Easter etc etc) It's fun, it's enjoyable, my children love it, it's sweet. And yes, we also love each other, appreciate each other and spend time together the rest of the year ❤️
This year we're going to head to the local garden centre for bacon sandwiches for breakfast, then feed the fish and the birds in the tropical garden there, pick up some cake and have a Movie afternoon with the kids DS6 and DD3. I'm taking my mam out for lunch the day after and seeing MIL/Aunt the day before. Will be a lovely weekend, a few small gifts such as flowers, cards, DH has got me a nice silver bracelet from the children (DS told 🤣🤣)

No I don’t care if my kids get anything or not, as in genuinely don’t care as I think it’s just a money making thing and I know my kids and the dog think I’m awesome! Just me and DD this year as DS2 still at Uni and DS1 has a puppy that he needs to stay with - I’m fine with it and will treat it like any other day

I'll have my usual breakfast in bed of a mug of pond water and a bowl of sawdust and be greatful for it. I wouldn't dream of expecting anyone to be nice to me.

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Wow!!! Sorry you feel the need to jump in with silly comments. I was replying to the original question, feel free to walk on by. Goodbye.

Walk on by?
I reply how i like thanks.

Why on earth would you be "paraded into a restaurant"? Lots of people eat out on Sundays but I know on Mothers Day places are very busy. No one knows though what they are there celebrating. They don't all wear placards round their necks.