Anyone else not make a song and dance about Mothers Day

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The drama this Hallmark Day (yes, I know its origins) creates on Mumsnet every year bemuses me and I don't know anyone in RL who demands such a fuss.

My mum is long dead but I'll remind DH to send his mum some flowers. DD will be working but will drop by the day before with some flowers. If she didn't I wouldn't mind cos I don't need a gesture to show she thinks I'm an awesome mum.

Anyone else not want a Mother's Day afternoon tea or a spa day? Won't be sulking if they don't get breakfast in bed or their husband wants to see his mum?

@foreverandalltime enjoy every single minute of it.

Have a fabulous weekend!

Have a lovely day, and ignore all curmudgeonly joy suckers

Pat yourself on the back for being a miserable knob. Your kids might want to get you something and you're spoiling it for them but as long as you get to be "alternative and edgy" then that's great.

If I don't get a new Emma Bridgewater MUM mug, and a bouquet from the florist, there will be hell to pay.

Yeh don’t get the fuss. The kids buy cards and presents but I honestly wouldn’t care if the didn’t. I wouldn’t expect my kids to give up time with their friends or anything.

My teenager is looking forward to his Grandma & Grandad coming for dinner and my DH cooking for us all. It takes an hour tops and then he'll go out with his mates

Low key here loved the fuss when my kids small. Meals are overpriced here (dublin). Card is fine. Think people get over the top about it

I'm surrounded by people who make a huge deal out of it and go on and on about the amazing afternoon tea/lunches/gifts etc their children have organised, then post it all on social media.t They seem to think it's a bit odd that I don't usually see DS that day.
He always sends a card and gives me a gift when I see him next which will probably be Easter. He's a teacher, does lots of extra ciriculars like DoE, doesn't live close so I'm used to seeing him mainly in the school holidays. I suppose I would be upset if he didn't send a card but that's mainly because I won't see him in person. I rather a hug than a card, personally.
My mum has long passed but we never made a huge deals of it either.

My lad is cooking dinner for us. Pork 3 ways with pasta. His signature dish. His other is stir fry

Pat yourself on the back for being a miserable knob. Your kids might want to get you something and you're spoiling it for them but as long as you get to be "alternative and edgy" then that's great.

You're really not coming across well @Millie890 Aren't you able to disagree with someone without being rude?

It isn’t edgy or alternative to not make a song and dance about Mother’s Day (not that there is anything wrong with being edgy or alternative- there is nothing superior about being like everyone else just for the sake of it)… it’s just an opinion that is different from yours- but one that is shared by a lot of people.

There is nothing "edgy and alternative" about not getting suckered into the whole overcommercialised Hallmark thing. it is a completely normal thing. My children are welcome to give me gifts whenever they feel like it! But not because Hallmark says so. It doesn't spoil it for children at all. It relieves them of the burden of an expensive and meaningless obligation every year.

It's so interesting how traditions differ from family to family.
I had never imagined grandmothers or older mothers might be wanting attention that day. To me mother's day is when toddlers make hand prints at nursery and bring them back for mum. End of.

But my husband is from a culture that celebrates women's day and I find that so much nicer. Mother's day is inherently painful for so many, those who have lost a child, a parent, those who suffer with infertility etc... It's like an organised emotional car crash every year.

I got flowers yesterday for women's day and I am more than happy with that.

@Commonsense22 Women's Day celebration sounds an excellent idea.

This is the first time I have not spoken and sent flowers to my Mum, who died in May, in my life. Seems really weird.

Me too - my DM died in May too. Sending you a hug and a hope that next year will be easier. Think I might celebrate Women's day instead.

@Barneysmomma thank you and I hope it is easier for you too next year. Look after yourself and 💐for you.

I think it is sad for people who don't have their Mums here anymore. I always send a message to my friends who don't.

However, Mothers Day is fun for many. I get appreciated by my DC and DSC. We've had my parents over for dinner and took flowers to my MIL's grave. We miss my MIL though so give my DH a big hug.

My Mum is long gone, but I do find the expectations sometimes for my MIL a little difficult. I can remember one year DH and I were unwell with (what we thought were) horrendous colds, we explained we weren't well enough to do the Mother's Day Celebration that had been arranged at their house (we really were not well at all) and offered to do something another day. We were pressured by BIL and FIL to still go, I can remember sitting at that table feeling like I was going to cry I felt so unwell and DH was the same. It didn't help to hear the comments of 'brighten up it's mother's day' either. Turns out we had covid and were both so bad we took a week and a bit off work. Luckily we didn't pass it on that day - but I do wonder how much being forced to get dressed up, and go and play nice set our recovery from covid back.

I see so many women get upset when mother's day is forgotten/less than expected and so many of my friends with mums who feel the need to create some sort of perfect day or buy just the right present. The day in itself is not an issue, but the pressure often associated with it is.

No, I'm not bothered. And yes, all the posts here are quite bemusing. But, to be honest, I always feel that the people making all the fuss are those who are generally unhappy with their lot. If generally you feel unloved or undervalued then hyperfixating on this one day is likely to me more of a thing.
That said, I also had a mum who didn't agree with celebrating mother's day, so I suppose it's never really been a thing in my life.

I'm sorry but your post is rubbish. Very happy here day to day but made a deal out of Mothers Day.

Not a huge occasion in our house but we do acknowledge it. DC bought a card and DD put together a lovely hamper (from both of them) with some lovely bits, bath bombs, sweets, slipper socks, the coffee syrup I love etc. DH cooked a fabulous steak dinner with cheeseboard for afterwards. I still do ‘jobs’ but DC certainly help out a lot more than they usually do. It’s very sweet and I’m grateful, but likewise don’t expect the world to stop and revolve around me for the day.