Anyone else not make a song and dance about Mothers Day

[TheSparkofCreation]

The drama this Hallmark Day (yes, I know its origins) creates on Mumsnet every year bemuses me and I don't know anyone in RL who demands such a fuss.

My mum is long dead but I'll remind DH to send his mum some flowers. DD will be working but will drop by the day before with some flowers. If she didn't I wouldn't mind cos I don't need a gesture to show she thinks I'm an awesome mum.

Anyone else not want a Mother's Day afternoon tea or a spa day? Won't be sulking if they don't get breakfast in bed or their husband wants to see his mum?

I will likely get a card and token small gift and a lie in if I want one. DH and I will briefly pop round to our own respective mums with a small gift on the day. It works for us (I have one DS age 10).

I don't judge anyone for wanting to make more of the day if that's what they want. I don't like the competitive under-celebrating I see on here at times.

At the same time though it's a relief I don't have to deal with the drama that's on some of these threads!

I would never have expected my DH to forget his Mum once I became a Mum myself. But equally if/when I'm a MIL I will also happily accept that my DIL with young kids should be a priority for my DS. Surely most people in life are reasonable about this.

What I don't really get (and I'm wondering if this makes me awful) is those who feel they must spend time with their young kids. I spend pretty much every Sunday with DS..I don't get what's so different on Mother's Day. I love him to bits but if anything I'd like my treat to be time to myself...not just a day like literally any other!

I’m spending morning with my girls then out for Sunday lunch with Mam and sisters.

i don’t demand pricey presents or experiences just some thought and a lie in!

It never used to be a big thing when I grew up. In infant school in the early 70s we made our mothers a card and that was it.

I've never celebrated it nor have my sisters and my brothers wife doesn't make a big thing of it either.

It's turned into a big commercial affair.

I can't stand it & I'm a mother with my mother & mil both still alive.

It's a pain in the arse. We don't see either of our mothers on the day - they live 300km away but I've sent a card for mine no idea what dh has done for his & I don't actually care.

I'll get a card from dc & that'll be that & it's just fine with me

We just have a nice day and don't worry about it. My husband has been working away for a fortnight and he'll be shattered when he gets back very late on Saturday. The plan is he'll go see his mother later in the day after a lie in on Sunday.

I'll take toddler son to spend some of the day with my mum. I'll bring her flowers and we'll just play it by ear.

Equally, if I was exhausted my husband would take toddler with him and let me have a break and I'd see my mum by myself.

We don't overthink it.

First one without my mum. Previously I'd take her flowers and occasionally we'd get together as a family or we'd go out for lunch on a different day.

I'd like nothing more, but ds1 is often away with the army reserves, or away with his girlfriend, or doing judo tournaments, or is otherwise busy, and ds2 is at his dad's every other weekend, so co-ordinating schedules can be quite the task! Not all families have every Sunday free and spare to do a Sunday walk.

And as it happens this year, as I mentioned, ds1 is away with the army reserves, so it'll just be me and ds2. We'll do a walk when we can all fit it in, I'm sure.

We don't make a fuss either. Dh and myself will buy our mums a bunch of flowers and a card. DH will get me cards and flowers from our DC then we will spend the afternoon watching our DD in a football match and then chill for the afternoon. Just a simple day and the way I like it.

Yes, I had a lovely mum and I loved spending time with her, we were very close. However, I liked to make a fuss of her on Mother’s Day because she was the best! We had such great times together! Miss you Sadie ❤️

I usually get a lie in on a Sunday anyway, DH has one on a Saturday. My eldest (20) loves cooking so has been bringing me my favourite breakfast in bed and a pot of tea for the last few years which is his ‘gift’ to me. I think it’s lovely :)

My teens usually ask me what I’d like, and I always respond the same - ‘Just a cuddle’

My younger kids might make a card in school, and if anyone does want to buy something to give me the answer for that is always the same too - ‘a bunch of daffodils’ as I love them and can never have enough around the house in the spring.

I have my mother over for dinner either the day before or after, and MIL doesn’t acknowledge Mother’s Day for religious reasons so no dramas about it here, it’s just nice and relaxed.

I do like to make a roast dinner and go for a walk after but it’s not obligatory.

We've always done a card and gift but never the getting together or big fuss. DH always cooks at the weekends anyway and I don't want breakfast in bed.

When our DDs were small a perfect Mother's Day would be to not see the children all day 😂
I've always been a SAHM so a day off from the nappy changes and tantrums was the least he could do.
Father's Day was a day I'd encourage him to spend the day with the kids because he wasn't around all the time.
Win Win for me 😂

We don't do it. My birthday was last week, so I already have flowers, chocs and gifts. Other people can if they want to.

I’m taking my mother for lunch on Friday, but we’d planned to anyway. DS (11) will make me a deeply weird card, buy me a bunch of tulips and bring me coffee in bed, which is perfect.

We do cards (homemade generally but not amazing 😂) and see each other and that's it really. Very not bothered to be honest, we speak regularly and see each other all the time

My Mum and I don't celebrate it at al and neither do my daughters and I.

We are all really close and get along extremely well so Mothers Day seems pointless. It's ok for little kids making cards at school but after that I'm not interested.
It used to be just little kids making cards at school but if Mumsnet anything to go by it's now about husbands having to buy gifts for their wives.

I'm a single parent since the kids were small. When they were younger, it was hard (for them & me) as there was no-one (ex pointedly wouldn't do it) to help them pick out a card or gift, and they were disappointed. So I'd be bringing them to shops & doing various contortions so they could pick a gift & I would organise payment quietly with the staff.

I really don't want gifts or fuss. All are teens or nearly teens & I'd love a happy day without squabbling, that we spend together & a demonstration of thoughtfulness. I think it's no harm at all to have a day to remind us to appreciate our mums but I actively hate the overpriced flowers, chocolates & other tat.

Lovely!

Oh I'd love the Sunday walk but it's hard to get teens out if they work on weekends or have football games.

For me, it's mainly about my mum. She doesn't care for the actual day at all and lives 2 hrs away. We'll all go over on Saturday and have a get together with a take away. It's fun.
Then Sunday is popping over to local mil and dh arranges some flowers for her and a gift from the dcs for me. I don't like flowers as a gift. I usually get a book and some nice shower stuff which im happy with.

I have found Mother’s Day hard as my mum died when I was a teenager. I’m pregnant this year and asked my partner to make a bit of a fuss so that I can hopefully have a less depressing day (of avoiding social media posts all day) than usual.

Do i make a song and dance? No. Not at all.
Do my children and dh mark the day for me with flowers or a gift and or a phonecall from the ones away? Yep. They sure do.
Are they lovely to me the rest of the year too? Yes they sure are.
But they think that taking a moment to celebrate the work i put into them and our family is worth a bit of fuss and appreciation. Its not a song and dance. Its lovely.
Much like we do the same for dh on fathers day.
Life is nicer with wee celebrations along the way.
Sing and dance as much as you can thats what i think.

I don't get that at all. I barely even notice it or hear about it these days.

I always mark these days. We get our respective mums cards and a present
Youngest always wants to get presents for people so other half will help with that and I do the same when it's his turn
We see our mums a lot and text every day anyway

we dont do gifts or cards. me, dd and dgc just go somewhere we like spending time at and enjoy the day together

We don't make a fuss. A card, a little gift and a pub lunch. Feet up in the afternoon and watch a film with a pot of tea and some cake. My mum really appreciates it, and so do I.

It isn't really much different to lots of Sundays, but it's nice to know your kids want to make you feel a little bit special.