Curious to see what others think of this request from DH as I just think it's a bit bizarre and unreasonable of him to expect.
We share one 4 year old and he has two older children who are 11 and 13 with an ex.
DH has never really been much of a holiday person and so in the years we've been together (6) we have never gone on holiday with DSC.
That's absolutely been his choice, I have said many times over the years I'd be happy to but he's never fancied it and they have always gone with their mum. We've had the odd weekend away in UK but nothing more with them.
I have been away with family and friends since we've been together and also since our child was born I have taken them away with my parents a few times too.
DH is now suggesting that he'd like to take DSC away in the school hols, great I said! Except it turned out in his mind what he was suggesting was us just taking DSC and asking someone to look after our 4 year old. Apparently according to DH it won't be a relaxing holiday with a young child and he'd like to go walking and exploring with me and the older ones that we can't do with our child yet. Said in a few years it'll be fine with our youngest.
I have been on a few holidays now with youngest and always enjoy them so I don't really get or appreciate his reasoning.
I have basically said under no circumstances am I going on a summer holiday with DSC and leaving our child at home. I won't even discuss it to be honest as it would feel absolutely wrong to me. I would not want to go off on holiday with other children and leave my own behind, I simply wouldn't enjoy it knowing we'd done that.
To make it absolutely clear, when I have been away with our child in the past he has not come. He has never been on an abroad holiday with our DC and not DSC so I have no idea why he thinks it'd be fine the other way around but to me it isn't.
He thinks I'm unreasonable, I don't. So what do you think please?