“I've been utterly baffled at some of the attitudes displayed here over the past few days. I've only just realised it's a class thing and this is all about protecting wealth and keeping it in the bloodline! If this is what private school does to you, I think both your daughters are better off out of it, OP!”
“Yes, but the extent of the money discrepancy has only really come into it recently. Initially it was about an invitation to a wedding (or lack of one). I hadn't realised that the reason people might be so cruel to a 10-year old child is to deliberately keep them at a distance so as to protect their own financial interests. It doesn't make it any less cruel, but it makes more sense to me now. It's just rich people doing rich people things.”
“This thread has been so enlightening! The moneyed people here have made it perfectly clear that money - and all the advantages that brings such as a private education - is either yours by absolute birthright, or it isn't.
Yet rich people often claim that poor people are poor because they don't work hard enough or because of some moral failing on their part.
They create a world of have-gots and have-nots and then blame the have-nots for not having.
I think all the "what class am I" type threads should be directed here. It's a real eye-opener!”
“For what it's worth, I think your husband is an a-hole and his parents are horrid people (well, his mother, I don't think you've mentioned much about your FIL). However, as I've come to realise, having money apparently makes it OK to act that way towards an innocent child as long as the money stays in the bloodline. I was angry with him this whole time, but if you're now going to defend him then I don't know what it is you want from this!”