To cancel the wedding?

[Anothertiredteacher]

We are supposed to get married in early June. The wedding is in a registry office in the city we live in but I know family who live about an hour away have booked hotels/Airbnbs in the city.

I found out yesterday I’m pregnant, which is lovely but very unexpected. There’s no question about whether to keep the baby but we are debating cancelling the wedding.

I’d be about 17 weeks pregnant by the time the big day game around. So we wouldn’t tell anyone the reason why we’re cancelling the day. I’m only about 3 or 4 weeks pregnant at the moment so well aware that anything could happen with the pregnancy.

Is it massively unreasonable and unfair to those who have already paid for accommodation?

Just do it. You'll barely show, if at all. Your child will love bragging that they were hiding at the wedding!

Just get married! What is the problem?

Why cancel?
I don't begin to understand.

Congratulations. Being pregnant is even more reason to get married. Just plan for the dress though as you will expand so much in that time - belly and boobs. I was 3m pregnant on my wedding day and had a loose full skirt 2 sizes up and bodice top one size up.

OP a blogger I follow was pregnant when she got married (Isabella thordsen), she praised the bridal shop for adjusting her dress so that it hid the bump as they wanted to keep it a secret for a bit longer, they can do all sorts of tricks! Also she said they told the venue who made sure she always had a glass of alcohol free champagne in her hand

Just get married?? You probably won’t even be showing at 17 weeks, it will be a double a celebration! You could even announce on your wedding day to extended family.
Only difference will be not being able to drink, but I didn’t drink on my wedding day anyway as wanted to be at my best to enjoy and remember every moment and not have a headache the day after!

Onky reason I’d cancel if I was throwing up every hour!

No idea why you'd want to cancel? Post makes no sense.

Easier to do it now than when you have a kid! Will always be much harder to save up once you have kids!
I was 16 weeks pregnant; we announced we were having a girl at the ceremony.

I understand that it will be a bit conspicuous and a bummer for you not to dink at your wedding... but am glad to read you are going ahead.

Better get it out of the way, and if your guests work out what is up, they'll be delighted. Have fun!

Go ahead. Announce pregnancy during speeches. We did. I was 16 wks. Just had a bigger bust than when I'd first bought my dress but it was easily altered.

Wishing you a beautiful pregnancy experience and a health baby OP! I (like many previous posters) was a pregnant bride (19 weeks pregnant) and I'm currently cuddling my DS now. We eloped, so not quite the same situation that you are in but I can remember being so nervous about the dress fitting. I went with the one in the picture attached because I loved the ethereal quality-but even if this isn't your style, just wanted to say you can have many dresses modified to accommodate a growing bump and even necklines slightly altered without it being too pricey and when in doubt, an empire silhouette always looks lovely. I had the seamstress reduce the plunging V- neckline because I wasn't super eager to bare that much of my chest 😊. We love saying that our child was our only invited wedding guest. As a bonus, our photographer did a mini-maternity photo shoot for us so I bought along a cute onesie and sonogram photos and we did a few poses to highlight the growing bump. Magical!! Best wishes on your special upcoming day and baby.
P.S. LOL, your username says it all. I'm also a teacher 😂

If it’s already planned then do it. It’ll be much easier to do it now than with a baby/toddler in tow. Enjoy things now whilst you can because it all changes once baba comes along.

Dont cancel it will be a nice surprise annouce it after the wedding once baby comes you may not get a chance to do it again. When my daughter married her girls were flower girls. You will regret it

You might not even be showing at that point. I wasn't showing at my 20 week scan. But my morning sickness had ended by then and I had it quite bad.

Hi OP. hope it’s ok to come back to this thread. How did it all go?

Hi @Cosycore. Unfortunately I lost the pregnancy about a month after posting.

But was doubly glad not to have cancelled the wedding - it was a bit of joy and helped us get through a sad time.

I’m so so sorry to hear that.

sorry to drag the post back up. I hope you had and enjoyed that bit of joy. Best wishes.