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zunchie · 03/03/2024 13:38

Maybe I'm overacting but I don't think I am. The other day I was at a cafe with my friend (31F) and I was pouting my lips when she looked at me and said 'that reminds me' and started applying chapstick. I was a bit confused by this but then I realised what she meant and I was very angry. But then yesterday we went out again and I can't remember the conversation but I stuck my teeth out in a funny way and she looked me up and down and said in a smug voice 'I need to book my dentist appointment' and she set a reminder in her calendar. Am I overreacting or is this not on? And how do I approach it without sounding paranoid?

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Devonshirerexx · 05/03/2024 06:05

Just mention it to her, tell her you felt quite offended on both of these occasions, do you have issues with your lips and teeth? if you feel like she is mocking you them hash it out with her, if she is a friend she will explain and laugh it off , and then you can both move on, or maybe you feel she is superior to yourself and are getting your back up purely from paranoia? if all of her quirks annoy you maybe it's time to end the friendship, spend time with people you feel more comfortable around :) but don't ever look down on yourself or feel anyone is better than you, as we are each unique, try to work on your confidence ( if this is the case) and try not to take things the wrong way not everyone is mocking you.

EmeraldA129 · 05/03/2024 08:17

Barrenfieldoffucks · 03/03/2024 13:40

Are you often pouting or "sticking out your teeth in a funny way'? Sounds very odd.

Anyway, it may be that the sight of your pouting lips reminded her of her own, and your teeth reminded her to sort her own. Not that there was anything wrong with yours.

This.

DontLeanOnTheKeyboard · 05/03/2024 09:31

@Devonshirerexx RTFT….that ship sailed several pages back, doused in petrol and burnt to an all-party block-a-thon.

Piwi1625 · 05/03/2024 10:57

zunchie · 03/03/2024 13:38

Maybe I'm overacting but I don't think I am. The other day I was at a cafe with my friend (31F) and I was pouting my lips when she looked at me and said 'that reminds me' and started applying chapstick. I was a bit confused by this but then I realised what she meant and I was very angry. But then yesterday we went out again and I can't remember the conversation but I stuck my teeth out in a funny way and she looked me up and down and said in a smug voice 'I need to book my dentist appointment' and she set a reminder in her calendar. Am I overreacting or is this not on? And how do I approach it without sounding paranoid?

She's taking the piss 🤣🤣

4610J · 05/03/2024 11:28

I can't see anthing about the glasses. Did OP take her friend's glasses?

DriftingDora · 05/03/2024 11:43

4610J · 05/03/2024 11:28

I can't see anthing about the glasses. Did OP take her friend's glasses?

Keep up - the glasses are being held to ransom. A ransom demand (payable in used notes, money to be placed in a bin in Regent's Park) will shortly be received. End of.

Gonnagetgoingreturnsagain · 05/03/2024 11:46

It's such a shame that OP has left MN (I think?) never to return.

But it's a nice funny post which kept me giggling whilst I was/am sick... so for that I am truly grateful!

Please put in classics MNHQ.

Gonnagetgoingreturnsagain · 05/03/2024 11:47

4610J · 05/03/2024 11:28

I can't see anthing about the glasses. Did OP take her friend's glasses?

The glasses are a moot point. They're someone called Katy's glasses. Whether this is an adult friend of OP and her friends (ex friends now, we must assume) no one knows. It could be the child of any one of the adults. Poor child if it's caught up in this mess.

Gonnagetgoingreturnsagain · 05/03/2024 11:51

Devonshirerexx · 05/03/2024 06:05

Just mention it to her, tell her you felt quite offended on both of these occasions, do you have issues with your lips and teeth? if you feel like she is mocking you them hash it out with her, if she is a friend she will explain and laugh it off , and then you can both move on, or maybe you feel she is superior to yourself and are getting your back up purely from paranoia? if all of her quirks annoy you maybe it's time to end the friendship, spend time with people you feel more comfortable around :) but don't ever look down on yourself or feel anyone is better than you, as we are each unique, try to work on your confidence ( if this is the case) and try not to take things the wrong way not everyone is mocking you.

Edited

As I think PPs and OP have said, OP has tried to raise the issues with her lips/teeth and her friend seemingly making fun of her and it's all blown up. OP really hasn't helped herself here with her PA comments by text/WA.

I mean, who knows, it could all be sorted by now and they're all besties again. We will never know.

I totally get that OP may be insecure about her looks and then not be happy that her friend by her words is 'making fun of her looks' and is 'jealous of them'. Both of them haven't really covered themselves in glory here, especially if they're in their 30s. But I've known similar women, similar ages and older create dramas over more than this. It just seems that OP and friend are ill matched as friends.

OlderGlaswegianLivingInDevon · 05/03/2024 12:45

@4610J

The OP took a photo of the reply text that she got from her friend - it was removed
( maybe because it showed identities of people ? )
and in the message was apparently a reference to someone named Katy and that the OP has Katy's glasses - why I don't know.
I didn't see the photo, but others did.

I reckon the OP hasn't been back is because her parents don't allow internet use on a school day as she is 13 not 31.

or the whole thing is a wind up.

4610J · 05/03/2024 13:03

@OlderGlaswegianLivingInDevon thank you.

Gutted I missed the reply before it got removed.

Did the friend tell her to get a grip?

OlderGlaswegianLivingInDevon · 05/03/2024 13:35

@4610J

I don't know, i didn't see it :(

i only know from what I read in this thread by other posters.

cockapup · 05/03/2024 13:43

4610J · 05/03/2024 13:03

@OlderGlaswegianLivingInDevon thank you.

Gutted I missed the reply before it got removed.

Did the friend tell her to get a grip?

Yes her friend said she sounded mentally unhinged and asked her to not contact her again. She also asked for the return of Katy's glasses (but we don't know who Katy is).

DriftingDora · 05/03/2024 22:50

cockapup · 05/03/2024 13:43

Yes her friend said she sounded mentally unhinged and asked her to not contact her again. She also asked for the return of Katy's glasses (but we don't know who Katy is).

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Katy? The friend's name's Katy? Why didn't you say so? It's glaringly obvious - it's....it's....the ROYAL Katy! So that's why she's not appeared in public.....her glasses are AWOL? Phew, what a relief, that's another mystery solved..I can sleep peacefully now I know.... but must contact the media tomorrow, to let them in on the secret.

I'll go and take a tablet now....😉

EmeraldA129 · 06/03/2024 16:20

zunchie · 03/03/2024 17:55

I unsent my old message and sent a new one and she's read it right away but hasn't responded.

oh op, why on earth did you delete the message suggested by another mnetter & send this instead? If one of my ‘friends’ sent me this, I wouldn’t bother speaking to them again.

I don’t think the pulling faces is why everyone is challenging you for being immature, it’s the way you are coming across & seriously, with how you describe your friends, how do you talk about your enemies?

we are only hearing your side of the issue, but even then the only person that sounds jealous or mean is you.

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