To say F** OFF!!

[zunchie]

Maybe I'm overacting but I don't think I am. The other day I was at a cafe with my friend (31F) and I was pouting my lips when she looked at me and said 'that reminds me' and started applying chapstick. I was a bit confused by this but then I realised what she meant and I was very angry. But then yesterday we went out again and I can't remember the conversation but I stuck my teeth out in a funny way and she looked me up and down and said in a smug voice 'I need to book my dentist appointment' and she set a reminder in her calendar. Am I overreacting or is this not on? And how do I approach it without sounding paranoid?

It looks as if you’ve lost a friendship group. I really hope there is no child involved, who has potentially been ousted from a group.

Do you still not regret the message this morning?

I think your friend has dodged a bullet.

I have an "ex" friend who used to behave and speak exactly as you do. It was utterly exhausting.

I miss the good times we had but overall, my life is much more peaceful without her in it.

"l*sbian"😂You are allowed to type the word "lesbian"! It's not an expletive!

Act like a fool and get treated like one my gran always used to say, never knew what she meant til I read this post though.

Maybe Katy is a lesbian with natural teeth and dainty lips! 😉

she blocked you over a reasonably polite message.

seems like you were right: there are some issues (whatever they may be).

Move on and spend time with people you genuinely like and like you back. Good luck!

edit: I am not saying that she was the one to blame for whatever issues, btw. I would take this as a chance to examine my own behaviour and the people you surround yourself with.

Why are “other” people telling you that your (former) friend is jealous? Is that normal in your friendship group? That sounds genuinely toxic!

”reasonably polite” was probably a bit of an exaggeration. Mentioning other people talking (gossiping) about her was rather unkind.

That reminds me; never type out some weird shit going on in your head to a friend late at night because a random mumsnetter has egged you on.

Either you’re both twelve, or you haven’t got enough to worry about.

YANBU OP she does sound jealous of you. If she was typing, did you get a response?

I don’t think it’s this though, I think her now ex friend made a couple of flippant comments and OP overreacted and took them too seriously. We have no idea of their friendship. If her friend is jealous fine but it sounds to me and a few others that she’s tired of OP showing off her procedures and preening. It also sounds to me that her friend isn’t into looks and surgeries/enhancements as much as OP is.

Where OP did go wrong was to kick off after this and send texts where she sounds unhinged. Most people would want to distance themselves from this behaviour.

Like I said before in my 20s I blew up sometimes with my best friend (who sometimes wound me up) but luckily I was spoken to to say it was out of order and I didn’t do it.

How does she possibly sound envious of her?

@DontLeanOnTheKeyboard

in your opinion. Filler lips are not nice lip in your opinion. I think you missed that bit out, you are not the oracle.

And meanwhile at the grownups table...

In quite a lot of people's opinion. I don't think they look nice; I wouldn't compliment anyone who had them and certainly wouldn't be jealous of anyone who had them.

I read this a while ago and laughed out loud - having just re-read I have got to highlight this amazing post 😂🤣👏🏻

@IHaveNeverLivedintheCastle

and lots of people evidently do like the look of them so 🤷‍♀️

I can't wait for the next post....I really must get out more, but I'm finding this thread hilarious. Has a ransom note been sent yet for the glasses? If so, what are the demands? Isn't withholding someone's glasses a criminal offence? If not, why not?

I think it was just your pulling faces that reminded her of those things. It doesn’t sound like she’s criticising you!

Well if some posters insist we now treat this as a real dilemma ..

I mean we’ve all been there tripping out on some weird internal dialogue that a friend applying chapstick is ribbing you in a cafe (possibly in Holland?)

The best course of action if your trip is getting dark is to laugh and ask Are you taking the mic out of my pouting Sarah?

Going home and messaging “What’s your problem tell it to my face you’re well jel and you’re not the best looking and my other mate said you might be jealous as well” is akin to torching your house because you thought you heard a wasp.

@IHaveNeverLivedintheCastle
I once followed a woman round Asda because I was fascinated by her duck pout. She had tattooed caterpillar eyebrows as well.

It's surely a very weird stance to think that someone who hasn't had work done, is jealous of someone who has? They would have it if they wanted it and were jealous of it?!?
It can only be the other way round.
Person A isn't happy with their looks so has stuff done. Person B doesn't have work done because they are already happy with their looks.
It makes literally zero sense to say person B can be jealous of A.

The lips/brows/lashes of now will be the source of hilarity for years to come, and you will look at pictures and think ‘omfg did I actually go out like that’

Much like I do now at the picture of me dressed a la Boy George, whilst also crying to my mum that I couldn’t get a boyfriend.

I wouldn't worry about the whole situation, regardless of anything, you clearly got an off vibe that she was somehow taking the mickey out of you it made you feel uncomfortable. You think she's jealous of you. Whether she is or she isn't, I don't believe you two match as friends. I'd try forget about the friend if possible and move on x

It’s just fashion, it comes and goes. And yes in the 80s it was thin over plucked eye brows and big hair. Christ we all had short hair with a rats tail tiny plait at the back at one point. Wandered round in ra ra skirts and leg warmers, wore blue eye shadow and heather shimmer lipstick.

i don’t think anyone views it with hilarity though, maybe you do. More nostalgia and an understanding it was the fashion at the time.

I’m not sure it’s that hilarious if you regret getting turkey teeth though! Your original teeth are filed into tiny spiky stumps underneath..