Husband hates taking his shoes off inside

[WarmSwan]

… that’s it, really.

We live in a city centre, and when we walk outside, we frequently see dog poo on the pavements, and occasionally vermin.

However, I apparently am a massive nag because I want him to take his outdoor shoes* off when inside our flat or other people’s homes.

*I even bought him really nice slippers, as I know he doesn’t like the feeling of walking barefoot through the flat. He puts them on most of the time but still complains that I am being difficult.

It may not surprise you to learn I am the person who does almost all of the cleaning.

Can anyone else relate to this situation or AIBU?

Oh I also have to wheel my pushchair into my living room! (Hard floor). Just imagine the lovely germs from the wheels 😁😁

Sure you are. That’s why you are commenting… 😂

Do you strip off at the door and shower straight away if you live in an urban area too?

Those of the no shoes inside persuasion...how do you deal with wheelchair users coming in?
My mum was such...how would you have greeted her into your home?

@shenandoahvalley I feel the same as you. We are actually moving from city to rural!

@pictoosh At present I don't know any wheelchair users. I'm planning to go all hard flooring in my home apart from bedrooms once we move so I could just mop after. It's dirt on carpet I really have a problem with.

I don't know any wheelchair users, but if I did, I'd have no problem accommodating someone with a disability. I don't mind cleaning up after a guest who's here occasionally and who is respectful, but actually has to wear shoes.

The problem comes from people who refuse to respect the shoes-off nature of my home. Usually walking around everywhere, too, like at least sit still. That makes me really uncomfortable and I just want them to leave and not come back!

We have no carpets downstairs. If we have a party. I don't expect people to walk about in their bare feet or socks in their nice outfits. They can, if they want wear shoes, flip-flops, slippers, socks as I want them to be comfortable and relaxed.
If we have a barbecue I don't expect people nipping in to use the loo to change shoes.
After my guests have gone, I sweep up the floors and mop the floors before going to bed. I hate getting up to mess. So everything is washed, dried and put away.

A close friend wears high heels to all our events.
Her house is a no shoe environment. I follow her rules but always come away covered in cat hair.
I don't like her cat walking on the kitchen surfaces. I think is uhygienic.
At home we tend to put our outdoor shoes in the cupboard in the downstairs loo and wear slippers.

I remember many many years ago when I was a teenager, we had some guy come round and demonstrate a super duper vacuum cleaner, it really brought home how much dirt we brought in on our shoes that you don't see. Ever since then, it's been shoes off at the door.

I'm not the type of person to attend or throw dress up parties but I do think they're the kind of event that people that are usually shoes off would make an exception for because for a start, the attachment people have to their shoes as part of their outfit for some reason (I don't get it myself, but I don't dress up), secondly the shoes are most likely much cleaner than every day shoes and very unlikely to be walked through mud on the way! and thirdly its a rare event that would need a proper clean up the next day anyway so any dirt that gets tracked in would get cleaned up. Its quite different from normal popping in for a cup of tea visits.

But all the parties I go to are wear comfy clothes (or halloween costumes), take off your shoes, and get comfy. And usually at some point take off the rest of your clothes and all go to sauna together, at which point any carefully chosen outfit will definitely not matter

Each to their own but I always find it funny on these threads that many of the carpet brigade think not taking shoes off is unhygienic when to me having a piece of thick cloth permanently on the floor that you only wet clean every few months or so is much worse. Especially when you have pets!

I would obviously accommodate wheelchair users as they obviously can't take off their wheelchair but my floors would be the least of the issue as there's several steep steps to get up to the front door so just getting in the house would be the main problem!

If they don't say it then it's not compulsory. It's not the same to be shoes off in your home as to impose that on guess who may not be prepared for it (e.g. holes in socks) or have slippers to keep their feet warm.
If it's so important to them they need to warn people in advance and make it clear.

I'm not a strict shoes off person, but I can't be the only person who lives upstairs so to a wheelchair user couldn't get to my place anyway unless carried.

Each to their own but I always find it funny on these threads that many of the carpet brigade think not taking shoes off is unhygienic when to me having a piece of thick cloth permanently on the floor that you only wet clean every few months or so is much worse. Especially when you have pets!

My carpets never get anything dirty on them, the only thing that touches them is clean feet really. No pets in the house. That being said, I'm making more of a switch to hard flooring anyway as I think it's a bit easier.

Indoor shoes or divorce OP! 😂

I’m with you, I don’t want dirty shoes that have been worn on streets, in public toilets etc in my house. I have children that play on my carpets.

Doesn’t help with rude houseguests unfortunately though. A couple I met through my children used to clomp through my house with their shoes on despite knowing it pisses me off. The first time they came over, their son ran in the door and straight over my (cream) lounge carpet, leaving mud everywhere. We pointed out at this point we are a shoes off household and to please leave them at the door. They told the boy to take his off but still left theirs on. We ended up having tea in the kitchen (hard floor) and not inviting them in the lounge (carpet). Just before they left they told the child to come in the lounge and sit on the sofa while they put his shoes on. They were obviously amused by it as going forward they used to deliberately find a reason to go in the lounge every time they visited- even if it was a glorious day and we had been in the garden. Needless to say they aren’t invited anymore.

I don't have pets...and nothing dirty gets on the carpets.