Husband hates taking his shoes off inside

[WarmSwan]

… that’s it, really.

We live in a city centre, and when we walk outside, we frequently see dog poo on the pavements, and occasionally vermin.

However, I apparently am a massive nag because I want him to take his outdoor shoes* off when inside our flat or other people’s homes.

*I even bought him really nice slippers, as I know he doesn’t like the feeling of walking barefoot through the flat. He puts them on most of the time but still complains that I am being difficult.

It may not surprise you to learn I am the person who does almost all of the cleaning.

Can anyone else relate to this situation or AIBU?

Ruin? Do all your socks have holes?

Taking your shoes off in somebody else’s house isn’t giving them a hard time, it’s called common courtesy which given the tone of your posts you heavily lack. Absolutely nothing rude about not wanting whatever grime and bacteria is on the soles of someone’s shoes in your house.

You do what you like in your own home, let's others do what they like in theirs. I don't personally see anything 'yuck' about it - just different cultural preferences.

I will do me. I'm long since past caring what a random mumsnetter thinks 😂

Whether they had holes or not, no one ever thought, oh you know what would go brilliantly with this sequinned dress? A pair of Winnie the Pooh socks.

I'd match my socks to my other clothes

You do what you like in your own home, let's others do what they like in theirs. I don't personally see anything 'yuck' about it - just different cultural preferences.

Nobody said you can't do what you want. This line has to be one of my biggest pet peeves. Sorry- your entitled to say what you want, of course.

I'm not usually going to a pyjama party.

Great, I'm glad we agree

It's very normal in many cultures and households to remove shoes in the house, when dressed in daytime clothing. I would not wear holey or non matching novelty socks.

@Kalevala Ok. Find me some socks to go with this then.

https://lavishalice.com/products/metallic-velvet-puff-bardot-mini-dress-in-indigo

I know I'm supposed to understand different perspectives and everything, but, cleanliness aside, why would anyone want to wear shoes in a house anyway? It almost feels rude because a house should be a comfortable place where you are able to relax to some extent, wearing loose comfortable clothing, be warm, and not have hard shoes that feel overly restrictive. I don't really like wearing jeans inside either.

Because I don't like pain. And proper shoes (with decent gel insoles) are much more comfortable for walking round the house, given my plantar fasciitis. I have enough chronic pain in my life without courting it.

@YouDidntEvenAskIfSheWasThereMoriarty The what-your-nan-used-to-wear slipper might work with that kit? An upgrade from the sock suggestion.

Gross

This isn't difficult

What's comfortable for one person isn't necessarily for another. As discussed earlier in the thread, some
women take their bras off at home, others prefer to keep them on.

People have different preferences.

Apols, OP, for being subversive on your feed… 🤭

Haha those are class!

@YouDidntEvenAskIfSheWasThereMoriarty Indeed! 😂

I think people who keep shoes on inside are weird. Strictly no outdoor shoes in my home.

@DissidentDaughter

Totally getting a pair of those for friends shoeless parties!

(Will get flamed but don't give a 💩 and won't be commenting further as it's my opinion and I won't be swayed. None of my close friends have carpets...I really don't think they should host "dress up" parties when they won't allow people to keep carefully chosen shoes on. It's miserable being in a cocktail type dress and bare/stockinged feet on freezing cold stone, tiles or wood,
likewise slippers or socks look ridculous when you've gone to the effort of getting glammed up and it's not like a bunch of adults in posh frocks are sitting on/touching/licking the floor. When they come to mine for a fancy party, I'd never dream of demanding shoes off. I do this novel thing after they leave called...cleaning my floor. Appreciate it's different with carpet.)

@SoOutingWhoCares result!

& I’ll remind myself that rules are sometimes made to be broken 🎉

Who said anything about not having a good time? Party/cocktail clothes look ridiculous combined with stockinged feet or slippers so you can dress down to something appropriate to wear with socks/slippers and relax.

And most people I know have carpet, or at least big rugs on a hard floor (kneeling on a hard floor with toddlers isn’t comfortable).

Talk to me about the logistics here then. My mum used to have a big labrador. She would wipe him down with a towel if wet or muddy, but how would she get him upstairs to the shower without him walking up there? He was far too big to carry.

My son has been told to keep his shoes on due to his orthotics.

Also tbh, for me, it’s just an extra task I can’t always be arsed with at that specific time. I have a 3 year old and a baby right now, i can’t be arsed to faff with taking everyone’s shoes off immediately while i’m unloading stuff, making sure the kids are not getting up to anything, taking their coats off etc. And i find shoes comfortable.

I do make sure shoes are off if muddy though obv!