Husband hates taking his shoes off inside

[WarmSwan]

… that’s it, really.

We live in a city centre, and when we walk outside, we frequently see dog poo on the pavements, and occasionally vermin.

However, I apparently am a massive nag because I want him to take his outdoor shoes* off when inside our flat or other people’s homes.

*I even bought him really nice slippers, as I know he doesn’t like the feeling of walking barefoot through the flat. He puts them on most of the time but still complains that I am being difficult.

It may not surprise you to learn I am the person who does almost all of the cleaning.

Can anyone else relate to this situation or AIBU?

Stylish and practical!

I don’t tell him at other people’s houses, I just notice their discomfort when he strides inside in his shoes while there are a bunch of shoes left on the mat inside the door.

If there are other shoes by the front door, or if the host greets you without shoes or wearing slippers, that shows, to me, that the host prefers shoes off in their home, even if they are too gracious to say as much.

It doesn't though. I don't walk about all day at home in my shoes. I take them off for comfort. That doesn't mean I expect visitors to remove their shoes. I might leave my shoes on if I'm going back out though.

A pair of indoor shoes is the answer.

Yep! We had a sofa delivery and the guy walked in fresh fox poo onto my lovely stone fluffy carpet. Smelt like someone had died.

It's utterly grim.
Get a set or Indoor shoes if needed, but wearing outdoor shoes, indoors, to keep is just minging.

But im pretty house proud and like a clean, hygienic home.
(Yes I know carpets are unhygienic but I get them shampooed every couple of months)

Get a better mat.

@Deadringer a mat isn't designed to do anything more than remove the biggest clumps of mud and make sure your shoes aren't dripping wet. I still wouldn't walk around with that on inside.

If you do not understand that a ’better mat’ won’t help, I despair. 😂 If you don’t care about the dirt in your house, fine. Your choice, your house. But if you think the dirt comes off, that’s just being a bit..thick.

Yeah doormats don't get rid of mud if you have shoes with any grip on them. Not even my shoe brushes outside my front door remove mud enough.

And of course if you live somewhere where there's snow then you'll know that walking inside with outdoor shoes on will soak your floors as the snow melts off your boots. I wipe on the doormat at school, and brush my boots with a broom if I can find it near the door but I still make the hallway wet until I get to the changing room to get my slippers on.

A despairing, rude, clean freak, you sound like fun.

The ultimate MN comeback, you sound like fun.😂

Wearing shoes in the house is absolutely rank.

Wearing shoes indoors and being a cool girl for dirt isn't the market of fun-ness either...what does one have to do with the other?

Billions worldwide aren't fun enough for MN poster Deadringer because they don't allow shoes in their home?

To be fair, the germphobes can get pretty mean in their language

The city I live in is...not clean. As an understatement. Dog wee, dog poo, pigeon shit, human piss, rubbish lying everywhere, hacked up gob, unidentified sticky spilled stuff, dirty needles, vape canisters, petrol spills, glyphosate and more. I really, really can't emphasise enough how much I don't want the detritus of that anywhere near the woollen carpet I walk on with my bare feet.

All adults and kids take there shoes off automatically as they walk in and pop there slippers on

How come you are stating that as fact rather than opinion when lots of posters think differently?

Each to their own surely?

But for those with dogs and cats and who cite shoes in the house as unhygienic, they are equally as dirty. It just seems an illogical argument to me.
(Obviously doesn't apply to those who ask for shoes off but don't have pets).

Due to medical issues, I cannot walk without something fairly solid on my feet. But I have some rubber Birkenstock sandals for inside or would buy some slip on Skechers to only wear indoors.

Ddog, Dcat , DH and DC all have muddy feet this time of year and the humans take their shoes off in the hallway (also makes the school run easier if they know where in the house they have left their shoes!)
Sorely tempted to buy them each a set of these - maybe your DH could use a pair as well and help out with cleaning the floors?! 😁

Why the need to insult others who live differently?

Oo, just the ticket for Mother’s Day! Thanks @Stopwiththedamnrain 😂

Because it's a competitive hygiene thread. Indignance mode is engaged.

It's a shame their 'high' clean standards don't match their manners.

I hate taking my shoes off (and I'm not a slipper fan, either!) but my DH doesn't like it if I leave them on. I bought house shoes instead, so I have the feeling of a shoe but it's clean. Kinda annoying when I want to put something in the wheelie bin as it's outside, but I just don't let him see me do it :)