To lock my three year old in a room

[Dontknowwhattodoreally]

My 3 year old is being very difficult and keeps trying to hurt baby sibling. I keep moving him away but he just keeps moving back and laughing his head off. I keep picking the baby up but he wants to play and tbh it’s not fair on him … no idea how to manage

A gate across the doorway with the door closed or nearly closed with a baby monitor

NO child should ever be locked in. Think of the risk in a fire

I was just going to look for this but instead I’ll second it. Good luck.

Better to put the baby in it, much safer

I'm just here to send hugs OP. It's a really difficult life stage. This will get easier. I have a similar age gap to you and if it's any consolation, my two are teenagers and love each other now.

you need to pay plenty of attention to 3 year old,
he will have his nose put out of joint

I absolutely hate when people post things like this? Any more useful advice for the OP?

Sorry you're having such a hard time, my age gap was smaller and eldest wasn't too interested in the baby, but maybe this helps. My favourite tactics (when cool and calm!) were deflection and offer choices (I used to get stuck in such a rut saying No over and over again and it's amazing how it brings down your mood!) e.g.

You can't climb the baby, ouch! Would you like to climb the steps/climbing frame/sofa cushions?

Baby is too small to play with that big kid toy, would you like to play with it with me or would you rather play with it by yourself? (Or you'll need to choose something of baby's)

Baby is too small to be laid on, they could get hurt, would you like to try and squish me or daddy?

Honestly it gets easier, all you can do is pick baby up out of harm and like others have said a play pen..beware you may end up needing one for the toddler too 🙈 We had a great travel cot that you could unzip at the front to make a door, ours loved using it for dens at that age.

Baby in a playpen with toys.

I don’t think anyone’s mentioned a playpen yet.

Just wanted to say I know it's hard and I hope it gets better soon.

what on earth are you talking about @Dontknowwhattodoreally ?? Your responses aren't making any sense at all.

My DD would laugh and be a bit manic when she was struggling to manage her behaviour and was actually a bit upset. She went through a phase of hitting her brother and "pushing boundaries". Things I found helped were that I did need safe places to put the baby and focus on her so I would put him in his cot/highchair for 10/15 mins. He never complained, was quite happy to sit and play with toys. Id then take time with her and do the time "in" suggestion mentioned earlier and she would regain some composure. It was hard for me to stay calm when she tried to hit him but from trial and error I found she would stop trying to get to him much more quickly when I was calm then when I shouted. I also started trying to take time to give her 15 mins of very focused attention every now and again. We would talk about not hitting etc when she was calm not in the middle of it happening. I think she found him very frustrating at times alongside not getting as much attention and she often tried to hit more when it got a big reaction. We also went out a lot and I did keep baby in the sling/pushchair quite a bit. Again he wasn't that bothered and it helped keep things calmer. Now he is 16 months he wants to get out, but DD is 4 and has got past the hitting stage and is much more easy going around him.

I have been perfectly pleasant in my responses but if you think any are troll like then report them.

@TyrannasaurusJex

It was a joke.

I actually juggle for DC1 and snuggle with DC2 as I feed DC3. My boobs come with opposable thumbs and function as extra limbs.

I don’t know if this is a wind up or not - I hope it is, as if not, then you need help OP - and not just in dealing with your children. You actually are being rude and sarcastic in a lot of your responses, there’s no need for that when you’re looking for help and advice.

As for your children - you obviously can’t lock your 3 year old in a room, but I’m not even sure you realise how wrong this is! You’ve dismissed almost all advice you’ve been given. Honestly, you need to step up and parent your toddler! Being a mum can be very challenging and very exhausting, realising and accepting that is the first hurdle.

I’ve read through my posts and they are perfectly polite and I have thanked people individually and generally. Your wind up must look very different to mine.

it's odd because you are acting like a nearly 4 year old can't be taught not to hurt a baby. Your 10 month old can be put in a walker or high chair for half an hour while you play just swop and change

This reply says it all …. You have no clue 🤷🏼‍♀️

You’re right. I don’t. I don’t see these horrifically rude posts you apparently do I’m afraid. All I see is me saying thanks and once daring to joke about the number of people suggesting playpens 🤷‍♀️

But you know, if you don’t like me, why stay on the thread?

He’s very difficult at the moment and mostly laughs at me.

'He is too young to have the intention to hurt the baby'

That's not true at all! I distinctly remember my little brother saying (in his toddler way) that he hated my other little brother and wanted to see him cry. And he was always pinching him, snatching his milk, etc out of jealousy.

I agree with the rest of your post though

There you go again. You don’t realise how rude you sound. And just for clarification - at no point have I said I don’t like you

@ChangeAgain2 if I was on a thread and genuinely felt the OP was really rude I’d just walk away. Otherwise it does look like you just want an argument especially as you keep exclaiming I’m rude but don’t give any specifics. Just ‘you’re rude, you’re rude.’

She sounds fine? I was playing playpen bingo by the 3rd page honestly!