When did 50/50 become so common?

[Luckylooloostar]

I have a SC and when contact was set up over 13 years ago it was really common to do EOW with maybe a night in the week. No mention of 50/50 ever. Really common among others too around that time.

but Iv noticed a trend over the last few years that seems to be when you split its now 50/50…

Do more men now want this so they don’t have to pay CMS?

@WandaWonder My bad for marrying an abuser.

Well speak for yourself but I would have loved it. Eow wouldn’t have worked for me. why shouldn’t their father be equally responsible?

I have majority care - 65% to his 35% - it was decided when they were younger & I was very part time.

Now it would suit me for them to go a little more to him, but they don't want to increase that & I have to respect their wishes.

You'd just want the kids for the cms then?

Because kids don’t belong to their mother, any more than their dad.

I know many who have. I couldn’t quite believe it, but it does happen… the type who then drop them off their own mums, have a nanny etc

My best friend at school was at her dad's 50/50, but he remarried straight away and made new wife do all the work. Pretty sure that happens a lot.

If I split with my dh he would be absolutely devastated to only see our son every other weekend, given that he's seen him mostly every day for 7 years. It would be awful to do that to them both.

Equal parental leave, equal parenting, stay at home Dads, mothers working ft as well as Dads is now the norm, so it stands to reason that 50/50 co parenting is what will happen. EOW is getting to be very old school. Why would any parent be happy with EOW regardless if you're Mum or Dad. 50/50 is also better for the child, and after all that should be the primary concern for any parent when making decisions on contact schedules

Of course it happens but the ridiculous views on here believing it’s the main reason is just laughable. I have two friends that are single mums, one of them has her DC slightly more than 50/50 but you’d never know it, they stay at her parents at least once a week, often twice…does that mean 50% of women do that? Of course not.

Absolutely this from me too.

Clearly im speaking for myself. I love spending time with my kids so would want them with me, nothing to do with having equal responsibility, all to do with spending time with them.

Same as a lot of dads, then

@Luckylooloostar Do more men now want this so they don’t have to pay CMS

I know of more than one woman who deliberately withholds contact to get more child maintenance - it works both ways

And fathers shouldn’t feel the same? Why is that?

Never said it didn’t….

94/06 the split is in my favour. I only know 1 couple where it’s 50/50. Ime it’s not common.

Sorry OP but it absolutely is also everything to do with equal responsibility
Both parents are equally responsible for the child and have a responsibility to equally parent
Good parents also WANT to spend as much time as possible with their children

I believe you. My kids are wonderful and I feel the same. But can you honestly not conceive of a man having the same feelings? Do all the men in your life set such low bars as parents?

I'll get shot down but I don't think it's right. I mean I'm sure it can work but only if both parents are 100% committed to making sure that the child has 2 of everything and fully facilitating clubs and social stuff between two different places.

Personally I wouldn't want to be packing my shit up and moving between homes every other week. It's settling to have a base. But the rights of the parents seem to account for more than the kids these days.

Kids don’t pack things when it’s 50/50 as they should have things at both parents houses….

Not to the degree women feel it no.

We kept the family home and I went elsewhere when their dad was officer-in-charge.

My ex and I have a 50/50 split, he loves his kids and wants to spend time with them, and they love him and want to spend time with him. I miss them when they’re with him, he misses them when they’re with me. Nothing to do with finances, which we agree between us - he’s their dad, they have the right to a relationship with him.

It only seems to be common on here but then MN is hardly real life as people don’t answer the door or pick up the phone on here😅