To join DH during his weekly father/son bonding time?

[SlightlyOCDMum]

As a word of context I love spending time with my family, going to coffee places etc. My husband usually takes our son to football on Saturday morning and after that takes him for a coffee together. He says this is "his bonding time" with him, that he only has these 30 mins per week to connect with him, and feels protective/would rather I do not join, whereas I see this as an opportunity to spend family time together. Lately I no longer ask DH and just join them directly at the coffee place. AIBU for wanting to spend time together and joining them? Or should I leave my husband having this bonding time without me?

I was thinking that. It reads so unreasonably that how could anyone not know they are being incredibly unreasonable!

If it's not a reverse, OP, use that morning to do something just for you or to catch up on jobs or whatever and plan family time for after they get back. Please leave them alone to create their own bond.

Ewww, stop being weird and overbearing and leave them alone. Go and find a hobby or something.

I think it's really important for both parents to have both 1 to 1 time with their children and family time. Leave them to it, it's half hour out of the whole week, do something else for family time

Your husband does ONE thing with your son, has made it clear that he thinks it's important that he has that one-to-one time with him, and you STILL just turn up and butt in? YABVU. You don't have to be involved in everything and you're being weird about this.

YABU why not just have a bit of time to yourself amd let them enjoy their time together?! I think it’s awful that you just ignore dh and turn up anyway, sounds very controlling of you

I’d give my left arm for DH to want to spend quality 121 time with DS. Please let them do it!

I've seen a few people mention 'a reverse' and I'm wondering what that means?
It certainly seems to not be a good thing but I can't imagine what it could be.
Sorry to be a pain.

A reverse is when a post is set up from one one person’s view but is in fact the other person. It’s pointless and really winds up most of mn.
So, this could be the dad writing it as the wife for instance.

Ohhh!
Thanks very much for your reply 💖✨
I totally understand what is meant by 'a reverse' now 😁

Please do not describe yourself as ‘slightly ocd’ my daughter has suffered from OCD since she was 6 she’s 35 now.
l am never picky about very much but this upsets me as OCD is such a serious and potentially deadly illness and l am living in a constant hell of whether she has harmed herself or taken her life which given how severe this illness is is not an unreasonable fear.
l know you meant no harm and l know you are asking about something else altogether, but l felt it was important to say something-thank you.

My hubby & son (nearly 9, Autism & ADHD) have regular boys time...sometimes they go & watch trains, sometimes they go to the airport to watch planes, other times they do the supermarket shop together or a bit of gardening...we're trying to get him in to local football club (always full), they did Rugby Tots together when he was young; they even have some mad thing where he's allowed in the front seat on short journeys if I'm not there, sometimes they go to a huge toystore (wat shall not be named), etc. Massively takes the pressure off me & allows them boy time, high point of my week. Hubby's a diamond though, he's a primary teacher, with huge sports & ICT passion. 19 years married this year.

Exactly what I was thinking. I'm sure your son would appreciate your interest in watching him play his game more, I know mine do.