To threaten my H with divorce if he ever takes my kids to see MIL again.

[HooversBrokenAgain]

He took them "out" today. All day so I could have a break, he said nothing about going to see his mum.(I don't trust her and have never wanted our children left with her) He comes home looking sheepish MIL has only f gone and pierced my baby daughters ears.

I have been screaming at him for almost 3 hours and am still fuming with rage.

He keeps telling me to take them out if I am so bothered.

I am going to show him this thread so if you all flame me he'll think he is off the hook.

BTW can anyone tell me if it's ok to take them out, they are very bloody and I'm so worried she is mutilated for life

Definitely go to the GP ASAP. And since she did it herself maybe you should put some antiseptic on your DD's ears straightaway just to minimise the risk of infection. I suggest phoning NHS Direct now as well, just to check what is best.

TBH, your H sounds like a wet lettuce who is under his mother's thumb in a rather dangerous way.

Can't read this and not post. This is ABSOLUTELY APPALLING! Honestly, I feel sick for you and your dd. Hope she's ok.

I would be very worried about the amount of control your MIL has on your husband. What else will she persuade him to do.

I think I'd take them out to be honest. Surely an infection is more likely if the rings stay in. Take photos of the ears and then remove the rubbish. She can't sleep with them in.

fucking lunatic
i'd have the police involved

I would ring the police. If she did it while your dh was not present I would have her charged with asalt. he he was present I would have him charged as well.

OMG, did she think you'd just accept it once it was done?I can't believe this woman, or your dh.

He was with the boys- downstairs. Yes she cried, only for a bit MIL said they are supposed to cry.

He is going to crap himself when he reads this. I am going to show him.

OMG she did it herself??? I was going to second you ripping her head off before you said that! My God...

I would even think about going to A&E as you don't know if anything was sterilised and if she stuck in any old earrings.

What a nasty, vicious, stupid, thick woman. And sorry, but what a knobhead your DH is.

Get the earrings out asap and never let that woman near her again. Poor little scrap.

She did it herself???? I think you should phone the police - and go to A&E - what sort of infection risks has she exposed your poor dd too?

That is just nasty. I feel so sorry for your daughter, that must have hurt like nothing else, and just so your mil could feel better. Shame on her.

What did he say to her?

I think your husband's going to be in tears too. He mustn't have realised how barbaric it is.

Oh dear god, it gets worse - she did it herself??? I'd go to the police right now, I really would. And before taking the earrings out, which I guess is what you'll do, I'd take some photos, while your dd's ears are still bloody, as proof. Poor baby.

She did it her SELF!!!!??? With her own manky earring!!!??? Now I feel so sick with anger for your poor wee DD. I want to cry. Defo ring the police, I just told DH about this thread and he is appalled and would take great pleasure in dragging her in himself!! It is an ABH and they will def take you seriously. how dare she!

I really don't think that the law allows anyone to stick needles into children. I am pretty sure that is assault.

and agree you need to take the earrings out now as the longer they stay in the more likely infection will occur. take photos first though, although the gp will be able to confirm that the ears have been pearced in the morning.

They are supposed to cry?????? What a bitch! Your h should be nervous - there are many angry mothers on-line right now!

Don't just show this to your DP!! GET HIM ON HERE TO EXPLAIN HIMSELF!! His daughter was in his care

Did he KNOW that she was upstairs hurting his daughter? Did he KNOW his daugther suffered abuse under his mothers hands???

He has to grow up and realize that he has parental responsibilities, and his main responsibility is to keep his children safe. He has failed his duty to his child. What a fuckhead.

I would report it to the police, take her to the GP tomorrow to have them removed and press charges. She didn't even have your dh consent did she, she took your baby upstairs and did it without his knowledge I presume (I really hope so otherwise I think I would be charging them both with assault)

yes you need a licence she could get blood poisoning.

I'm aghast, this gets worse and worse. Never let her near your child again, and I would certainly be going up to A&E to have them checked. It can also be put on record up there so that, god forbid, you have any medical issues with them, the doctors are in full knowledge of what has happened.
Feel so sorry for you, and even more so for your poor dd....xxxx

it is, especially if the parent has said no.

The cultural thing is not an excuse - she is a human who should have listened when you said no.

Is your DH under her thumb? Did he know this was going on upstairs??

for you.

he's going to read this, is he?

TO MISTER HOOVER'SBROKENAGAIN: you stupid fucking arse. You are supposed to protect your kids from nutters - not hand them over for this sort of thing to be inflicted on them.

You may think we are all a bunch of hormonal women, overreacting to what your mother did to this baby. We're not.

You need to grovel big style to your wife and you need to NEVER let your mother near your kids again.